My 10 yr old daughter hates her name. Should I let her change it or have her wait until she's an adult?

chances are, bc kids are kids, by the time she’s 13 she might think Angel is also dumb. the tween into teen years are fraught with trying on different styles as we attempt to find ourselves. she can absolutely go by Angel now socially if she wants to, i’m all about respecting what people want to call themselves, but a legal change for an idea at that age is unwise. if it sticks, by all means she can do as she pleases as an adult.

You can socially change it; call her Angel and such but I would wait until 18 to see if she actually cares lol.

I would suggest letting her use the name she wants in practice but only changing it officially when she's 18. Chances are she's gonna change her mind on angel as well .

lol nah if she wants to change her name I’d say let her at 18. if anything she can go by a nickname for now

I wasn’t crazy about my first name growing up but nowadays I like it

Thx everyone!! I hadn't even thought about just having her go by the name socially and not actually changing it yet. 🤣

I would allow her to "socially" change her name for now and see what happens. A lot of people use their middle name or a nickname, and this would be no different. She can use Angel as her preferred name for a few years and then change it if it sticks.

A friend of mine’s daughter changed her name when she was 12. She was Jenna, but wanted to go by Finn. Everyone started calling her Finn, even the teachers at school. Suddenly, 3 years later, she wants to be Jenna again. Don’t make any official changes just let her try out a new name socially. We all go through weird stages as teens she’ll probably change her mind eventually.

My daughter went through the same thing all the way until college. Let her have Angel as a nick name. Chances are she will change it every 6-9 mos. like my daughter did. In the end, she stuck with her given name.

She isn't mature enough for taking a decision like that. She isn't even a teenager yet. You need to let the time do his work.

In Jr. High Spanish class, the students took Spanish names. Most picked the Spanish version of their given names or something close. My son asked for Ignacio which is nothing like his given name. He was intent on being nicknamed Nacho. He thought it was so cool, he had his friends calling him Nacho all the time.

Once he was in Sr. High, he was back to his given name.

Never gave a reason.

I don’t think a name change at 10 is essential to her happiness but supporting her individuality is. A good compromise would be to let her use Angel as her chosen name and if she is still using it at 16 encourage her to change it then.

Living with small discomforts builds character.

Imagine if we all went by the names we liked when we were 10. You can call her angel until she grows out the phase

I went through a similar phase around the same age. Changed my 'preferred' names a dozen times over 4-5 years and ended up just keeping my legal name once I'd grown out of the phase.

If she wants to be called by another name socially absolutely let her - she can tell her friends that she wants to be called Angel, and you can phone the school and ask to have Angel added as her 'preferred name'. If it's not a phase, then your 18th birthday treat could be paying the fee to have her name changed legally.

I think taking it for a trial run for a year or two might be a good idea when she’s so young. So do your best to call her Angel, and include all the people you feel comfortable including. If it sticks, it sticks - and she can change it when she's older, or you all might feel more comfortable changing it when it's been the norm for some odd years.

I changed my name when I became an adult, much to my parents' dismay. But I knew from I was ~6 that I didn't want my previous name, I hated it. I still do, gives me the absolute ick. But the names I would’ve chosen as a kid/teen is likely not something I would’ve liked now as an adult. I'm honestly glad I changed it, also glad I took the time to find one that truly resonated with me.

Legal name changes are a bureaucratic nightmare and cost a lot of money. Call her Angel now, see what she thinks in a few years.

When I was 13 I wanted tattoos. I’m really happy my mom was a responsible adult and said no. I’m now 34, and have decided I do not want tattoos.

Ten year olds do not know what they want.

Agreed on not doing it legally. I wanted my name to be "Avery" when I was younger soooo bad. Now I really dislike the name, lol.

Children her age go through phases. She’s asserting her independence, defining her identity, and is trying to find control where she can. I agree with all the other comments to allow her to pick a nickname and honor her wish to call her that socially, but let her know she cannot change her name until she’s a legal adult. Using a nickname is good way to “try on” a different name without committing to it permanently Remind her that she’s not the same person she was a months or a year ago - she’s growing and her preferences are changing- and she may decide she doesn’t like Angel after all. If that’s the case, she can pick a new nickname and live with that one for a while, until she find one that fits. I think it’s important to let her know you are honoring her desire to find her own identity, but at the same time, helping her to avoid choices that may haunt her forever.

I feel like she would regret changing her name to Angel. That's a...dorky name to put it nicely lol

My daughter is 12 and doesn't like her name. She doesn't have a new one picked out. I told her if she picked one out and still wanted the same name after a year, we would revisit the conversation at that time.

Sorry to say this, Angel rae sound like the names po#n star gonna use. Kylie rae sound perfect...

Some times you have to be the adult and say no. It would be one thing if from the time she was 5 she complained of not liking her name but if this is a somewhat recent thing where she all of a sudden hates her name I would tell my kid no. You don’t make changes to that extent off impulsive feelings. She can change it at 18 if it still bothers her then.

🧐🤣

I don’t see any harm in her going by the name angel as a personal choice. The likelihood that she will grow out of it is about 99.9%, and she’ll have a fond memory to look back on about how you encouraged her to explore her identity in safe ways as a kid.

10 yos shouldn’t be allowed to change names. Call her Angel, but don’t change it. She can change it when she’s 18.

I knew someone whose child changed their name as a child and what happened was she kept insisting that her name was not X, it was Y. Mom said if she used the name and only answered to the name for a year they could change it and that’s what happened. However, both names were very typical and practical whereas Angel is a little more unique. I’d say if she cares so much call her Angel but do not legally change it. She might thank you later.

Allow her to use the name she wants. I wanted to change my name when I was a kid and was not allowed. I feel like this would have helped my identity more if I felt comfy with my name. I ended up changing my name in my thirties, so my attitude about my name never changed.

It could be just a phase! Kids and teens are still figuring out who they are and they often go through the “wanting to be someone else” phase.

You could help her pick out a new nickname!

If she still feels that way as an adult, then she can make a legal change. She might not even like Angel when she’s older

I wouldn’t let her legally change it until she used it socially for a solid year at least (probably more like three). If she still likes the new name, go for it.

Really, I suspect she will want to try a few different names before it’s all over. She’s still young.

When I was 10 I really wanted my name to be Karen. Seriously. So like maybe show her this and have her wait. Pick a nickname she can go by before any legal changes.

Adult woman here. When I was older than your daughter (maybe 12?) I insisted everyone call me “Barkley”. Like the dog from Sesame Street. I wish I was joking.

Do not let your daughter change her name.

My cousin named her kid Sylvia. Now Sylvia (13, I think?) goes by V and until recently, was using she/they pronouns but now uses they/them pronouns. I believe they (cousin and husband) are going to wait until V is old enough to change it themself, but are respecting V’s choices.

I can tell that it’s been rough for my uncle to understand (V’s grandfather, in his late 70’s) but he’s resigned to just going with it.

Uhhhh no. Pick a nickname, or go by her middle name, or I guess call her Angel if she really wants. But don’t legally change her name.

I went through a phase as a young teen where I hated my name and told my mom I wished she had given me a different name. She said when I’m 18 I’m free to change it. After about 6 months I was over it and I liked my name again.

Kids go through phases. Don't make big changes based on a 10 year old's current thought process.

Absolutely not. I didn't like my name as a kid but I like it now. Do not let a 10 year old name herself Angel. Tell her if she still wants to legally change her name when she's 18 that you will pay for it. Also tell her you're willing to call her by her chosen name at home. She'll likely get bored within a few months and try a different name out for awhile.

I mean...

I hated my name from the moment I could comprehend such thing. Changing it was the best decision I've ever made.

I would tell her she can't legally change it till she's 16/18. But if she wants you and all her friends to call her Angel - that's fine.

And she can even ask her teacher to as well.

Angel is a nice name, she's a little on the young side to be choosing a new legal name though.

In the UK and Ireland it's perfectly normal, especially in older generations, for people to use a nickname.

A LOT of people here use a nickname rather than their legal name - for everything they can. You'd have no idea unless they ended up in court or something.

I used to look after elderly people and most of them didn't use their real name.

This is a very interesting thread.

At 10 let her call herself Angel, see how she likes it after being called it day in and day out, when she gets to 16, then you can have the conversation about legally changing it if she is still wanting to be called that

I’m 48 and HATE my name. Always have.

Had I changed it at 10? I would have e hated it at 13. And again at 17. And again later.

Most recently - I wanted to change it to Katherine and go by Kate. And then Prince William married Kate and I was so glad I didn’t.

She can absolutely go by Angel socially without changing her name legally.

Not fan of Kylie Jenner but also I don’t really know anything about her. Honestly Angel is a dumb name. Totally something that a 10-year-old would think was cool lol. I know if you little (Kylie)‘s I would remind your daughter that Kylie Jenner is actually not an important person in her life at all and (Kylie) is a much more reasonable name. I think if she wants people to call her angel then she’s more than welcome to tell people to call her angel but I would absolutely not be legally changing her name! She’s far too young even regardless of what name she chose she could easily change your mind about this in two months.

Let her go by whatever she wants for now. Let her pick a different name every week if she wants. That way she’ll have time to settle into one that she’s sure of. Then help her legally change it at 18 if that’s what she still wants! It’s a lovely name and she might come back to it in time, Kylie Jenner certainly isn’t the only Kylie out there.

Let her start using Angel but keep it Kylie Rae legally.

There is no reason her friends and family can't call her Angel though.

I went through an I hate my name phase and now I love it.

But she might want to stay Angel.

At her age I wanted to change my name, now I'm glad I didn't, that doesn't mean she isn't serious though.   

Let her use it socially. If it sticks until she's 18 help her with the process. If it doesn't then you let her explore her identity appropriately, no harm done. 

Let her go by Angel, but don't legally change it. She can change it at 18 if she wants.

I went by a completely different name in my teens for god knows what reason, and I stopped around age 20, never to look back.

If she wants to be called angel I would call her angel, but I wouldn’t pay for an actual name change until she’s an adult.

I'd wait on the legal name change and let her try it out socially for a while. I always hated my birth name and started going by a different name at age 12. It was annoying sometimes explaining my legal name was different to what I went by, I was glad for the freedom I had to experiment with it and change it up. Preteens are usually not the best at choosing names. While I did legally change my name as an adult, it was not to the name I chose at age 12! I would also generally recommend using a name for a bit to try it on before legally changing it to anyone of any age. It can be a real hassle to change your name, ideally you only want to do that once.

Let her go by what she wants now. You can legally change it later on.

Growing up, I had a friend that would interchange going by her first or middle name. It’d depend solely on her mood. Once we got to high school, she started going by her first name on her own. Had her parents legally changed her name, it would’ve been for nothing.

My stepson (9) has asked my husband and I 20+ times in the past year if he can change his name. He says he likes his name, but wants to change it to ‘Max’, specifically because he thinks the letter ‘x’ is cool 🤦🏻‍♀️

We tell him as soon as he’s 18 he can change it, but until then he’s sticking with his birth name.

I would not allow a legal name change at this age. She can pick anything she likes to use as a nickname and that's as far as it would go if she was my daughter, at only 10. Kids that age are very fickle.

I wouldn’t change it. Kylie is a nice name.

I changed my name socially at 14. I'm now quite a bit older and everyone knows me by that name I picked. Very few know my birth name. I never changed my birth certificate so I always joke around that I have a secret identity or "government name".

That said, I agree with the other posters. If she wants to go by a different name, that's fine. But changing it legally is unnecessary right now. Let it stick first.

Don't let her change it yet, she's a child and she needs to know her place.

Okay, I'm just kidding, lol. Dear god, I hate the idea of "putting kids in their place".

Though for real, I say don't let her change it (legally) yet, as it's too much of a hassle to do something like that when you can't verify she's absolutely sure of it. Kids are not stupid, but they might not always think that far ahead. It's not their fault, they just lack the experience.

But like others have said, do call her Angel as a nickname for the time being.

My name is Kiana lol I was born in 94 and it wasn’t popular then I’ve only met three other Kiana’s in my life and they’ve all been about ten years or 15+ yrs younger than me. My mom was going to name me Kira or Kiara but had a dream about a son whose name was already chosen and a daughter named Kiana (I’m a twin) so boom that’s how I got my name.

I used to wish my name was different because it was always mispronounced. ALWAYS. It’s so simple. I still don’t get how people mispronounce it.

Now as an adult - I love it and enjoy it when others say it’s pretty or they’ve never heard it before.

I guess this is my way of saying she may come to love her name the older she gets. Just call her by a different name now. She can change it legally as an adult.

I hated my name when I was younger. Now I genuinely couldn't care less. I'd say don't let her change her name, especially if it's all because of a celebrity. Others have suggested letting family and friends call her by another name while not changing it legally, however from personal experience this is what gets kids bullied. Maybe not ten year olds at the moment, but in high school the only kids who do this are those who get down on all fours, wear tails to school and think they are a dog. Opinions on furries aside, I don't know what it's like where you live but where I live changing names like that is something people don't take kindly too. She's 10 years old. I'd just explain to her that once she's an adult she can if she wants, but chances are she probably won't remember/stick to it.

Please remember though that I've just said this all based on personal experience

as someone who has not changed their name yet despite still wanting to and being over 18, just simply because of her age and her current choice of name i'd say socially she should use angel until its been a large enough amount of time that it just makes sense for her name to be legally changed.

when I was younger, I too thought the name angel was cool but while i still don't like my given name, I cringe at the name angel for myself.

We need more Kyries in the world. I only know 1, and she's from a video game.

i had my nickname since i was 12, i still do like it now at 22. however it's a hassle to go through the legal changes.

No, don’t change it. When I was a teenager, I hated my name but now I love it, don’t change it, if she still hates it when she’s older she can go through the legal process of changing her name.

Don't let her change it. 10yr olds might not like their names now but will in a year or two or 5. Because of her age, just because she likes a name now doesn't mean she will in 1, 2 or 5 years etc, she might think Angel is a dumb name in 2 weeks even.

Good luck x

she's 10. it's likely a phase. don't change anything legally at 10. I wanted to change my name to "Zora" for some ridiculous reason at that age. FYI I never did.

You can socially change it, I went by Helen (basically a shorter name than Hilary, my birth name) for a few years before I came out as trans. Let her legally change it when she’s 18.

I wasn’t a fan of my name when I was a tween/teen and it did cross my mind to change it. But then when I came into my 20s I ended up liking it and now close to 30, I couldn’t imagine myself with another name. I would echo a lot of other responses and say that I’d go with calling her Angel socially but waiting until she’s 18 to see if she actually wants it changed.

I wanted to be called Cassiopeia when I was her age. My grandma called me Rae Lee because I’m also named Rachel. My mom has the same middle name as me as well. I think ultimately, the connections are more meaningful than just, “do I objectively love this name.”

When i was a kid, i moaned to my mom that why she didnt name me Minttu (mint), my mom said ”if u were Minttu u would be moaning why i didnt name u Jasmin” (my actual name).

Kids are kids, she will grow out of it.

She's ten. Let her introduce herself as whatever she wants, and go by a nickname. Lots of kids do, even if they like their names just fine. (Kids named exactly after their dad's, for instance, frequently have nicknames to differentiate them, from the get go.)

She can decide about a legal name when she's older and has some handle on what import a name has.

Nah. Wait until adult. Kylie Raie isn’t bad. I went through a phases at her age when I questioned my name too. I wanted to be a “Sadie” I’m fine with my name now.

She’s ten years old. I would be shocked if my mom changed my name because by I’m 12 I’d want something different. Tell her she can change it when she’s eighteen or make up a nickname she wants. I hated my name forever but now I’m 37 with the same name and I can’t imagine changing something I’ve gone by all this time.

Gonna go against the grain and say I would still call her Kylie. Names are really important part of identity, and I would make sure you truly understand why she wants to change her name. Is she getting bullied at school because of it? I would ask her if she thinks changing her name would actually solve the problem?

She is very young right now. I think this is one of those situations you can parent your kid and say no and actually get to the root of the problem.

Don't let a 10 year old officially change her own name. Most likely she will go through another bunch of names throughout her teenage years until she finally settles on one or even gets used to her official name. If she really wants to change her name she can do that herself when she's an adult, until then no one's stopping her from telling people to call her by a different name than the one on her documents.
I never liked my name either, I'm happy I don't have to go by the one I would have chosen when I was 10. I went through something like 5-10 different names until I found one I've now been keeping for about 6 years.

When I was 8, I wanted to change my name to Jewel 🤘💀🤙

She's 10, I wouldn't allow her to legally change it, I had a rabbit at that age that had about 15 different names for the flavour of the day

I'd wait. My son hated his name at 10 but now he thinks its cool. If she still wants to change it when shes older consider it then.

Maybe tell her it will be a better transition from highschool to university where shecwill make a whole bunch of new friends.

If she lives the name Angel she could get family and friends to call her that as a nickname for now.

I would never allow my children to change their names (especially at ten years old), just because they want to. You're the parent. Her name is Kylie.

She can go by any name she wants without legally changing it. I went by my middle name for an entire grade in school. My parents thought I was bringing home someone else’s schoolwork and my teacher had no idea who their child was based on the name. Once they all figured out what was going on, everyone had a good laugh, but I continued to go by that name for as long as I wanted and no one could make me do otherwise. The reason I went back to my real name was because I decided I didn’t mind it that much anymore.

This is the advice I was given, and followed, at 16 when I wanted to change my name from Hayley to Kat. Kat is great as a nickname, but maybe have something that can be shortened to Kat (I went for Katrina). Before it's changed legally, spend a year going by this name. If you still want to in a years time, sure, change it. I'm nearly 31 and it's the best decision I made, in terms of my identity.

Because it is that, a name is identity, especially when you're young. If your daughter doesn't feel like her name fits her, she'll resent it, and she'll eventually change it when she legally doesn't need parent permission anyway. As a parent, support her. I know that's hard, because as parents we spend sometimes months picking "the perfect name", and to hear your child say they don't like it can feel like a stab in the heart, but at the end of the day, us parents aren't the ones living with that name, that identity, our children are.

Whatever you guys decide on, I hope it's a happy (or as close as can be) solution for both of you.

As someone who hates their name, I would let her change it. I knew from infancy that I hated my name but it was sentimental to my parents but means nothing to me. Living with a name you hate is hard. Then I got married and now have a first and last name I hate.

I wanted to change my name at the age too. Maybe find a nickname? When she’s 18 she can decide

When I was 8, I remember having a fit because my parents wouldn't let me change my name to Ginger (after Ginger Spice). It will pass, I'm sure :)

Do not let her change it to angel.

Wait til she’s an adult

No she’s 10. For real

Tell her she can go by her middle name for now until you figure out how to get it legally changed but maybe ask her to hold off on picking a new name for a while because this is a forever name

Idk but my Wii name was “Natasha”. I hate that name now

Don’t let a kid that young legally change their name, just call her Angel as a nickname and see what happens from there

After watching A Series of Unfortunate Events as a child, I fell in love with and wanted to be called Violet. I screamed at anyone who didn't do it. My mom, although hurt because she loved the name she chose, and Dad just went with it and supported me. I don't even remember disliking my name or liking Violet and I'm so in love with my real name now. I'd go with it and call her Angel socially until it either passes or she changes it officially as an adult.

Call her Angel, but don't change any documents. Let the school know she prefers to go by Angel until she gets tired of it.

Tell her she can use her middle name. I did that often as people didn’t like my first name so I didn’t no one knew how to say it as it could be said lots of different ways. I’m now just at the point of telling people it’s this way and don’t care anymore.

Middle names are 2 options. She could also go with parts of last name people also do that. I have done that.

Just no, do not let a child change their name like a hairstyle. Tell them if they still want to change it when they're 18 they can. You did the right thing.

A small note: If you're really going to let her do it at 18, consider letting her do it a few months before her birthday as changing a name legally is easier as a child than as an adult.

Call her Angel but don’t let her change it. She’s 10 - she’ll probably change her mind again.

Ask Miley Cyrus. Worked out for her.

I wouldn’t let her change it legally but I’d let her go by her chosen name socially. “Angel” is just such a cringe name that she’ll probably end up ditching it anyway. 

Like any other thing, it's best for her to wait until 18. Although you can change her name at any time, it's best if she has a different mindset. Me, I pretty much hated my name as long as I could remember. I still haven't changed it legally, I asked my friends to call me the new name so I could see how I reacted to it.

I hated my name when I was little because no one else had my name at school (not so unique that it's unheard of, but it wasn't overly popular). There were multiple Jenna's and Heather's and Chelsea's. I was sad I could never find a magnet or souvenir with my name. In high school, people often mentioned I share a name with a famous serial killer. I was determined that I was going to change my name when I was 18. 

Guess what? I love my name now. I love that it's uncommon and wouldn't change it for the world. She'll be okay, she can give herself a nickname and ask her friends and teachers to call her it.

Angel isn’t that bad, although Angelica or Angelia would be ideal. 

I went through a phase of hating my name and wanted to change it to Nicole. I’m glad my parents didn’t even start to entertain that. I love my name now.

i think people should be able to choose their names and that includes kids, but you don’t have to go through the paperwork and fees of a legal name change at the drop of a hat. let her experiment and go by angel for a while, and if she’s still into it when she’s like 16-18 or she gets fed up with writing kylie on official documents, then a legal name change would be more prudent.

Let her tell her friends to call her that, use it as a nickname, whatever, but do NOT touch it legally. Wait until she is 18 and can do it herself. She is TEN YEARS OLD, and will probably have gone off the name in a week or so.

Let her use the name whenever she wants Because it could change. Do not change anything legal, if she wants to when she's older she can do that herself. This is coming from someone who is using another name other than their birth one. My name has changed as I have as a person and my tastes.

Just tell her to let teachers know of her preference.

Here's a compromise: let her start going by Angel as a trial run, without legally changing it. Use it every day, and tell the people in her life that she's going by Angel now and to please respect it. Then, if at the end of a time period agreed upon by both of you (maybe a year or so), revisit the discussion. If she still feels like Angel is the right name for her, then I think you'd be doing her a disservice by forcing her to keep a name she doesn't feel suits her. If she's changed her mind or is satisfied with just using Angel socially, then problem solved. Either way, I don't think "wait to change it as an adult" is the right way to go. The longer she waits, the more difficult it will be to get other people to use her new name if she does actually want to change it permanently.

Plenty of kids want to change their names. Some just want to experiment with being called something else for a little while, while others know deep inside that the name they were given doesn't suit them. Both things are valid and should be taken seriously. Downplaying her wishes only communicates to her that you don't value her feelings or self-expression. Don't make that mistake.

Please don’t change it.

Wait until she's 18 please..we are parents not friends, being a friend takes away our accountability as a parent.Compromise-Call her the name but do not legal change until 18.-mother of 2 grown sons age 46

Do not legally change her name until she’s 18. Just call her Angel if she wants it right now. I’m sure she will look back on it and thing it’s cringey as well.

As someone who also hated their name at ten years old (mine is super common and I went to school with at least five others with the same name) I can tell you I grew to like it as I got older! Don't legally change it now

God have her change what people call her! Let her change it every day, and do your best to roll with it. By the time she's 18 she'll know what she wants to be called and you can help her legally change it before she has any significant paperwork associated with any other name. 

What is adolescence for if not figuring out who you want to be? Let her dye her hair weird and wear ugly shoes, too.

You can't be serious...

I wouldn't allow it at age 10, at least not formally.

Most schools will allow a child to be called by something else - but she really has to be sure.

Let her start introducing herself to family and friends by a new name and see how she likes it.

In my home, my dad knew I was lukewarm about my name and he gave me a well-liked nickname (and for the rest of my life, I signed letters to him with that name and even have some personalized items with that name - but my mom called me by my formal name). My mom rarely used my name, btw.

Oh God. Socially change it - if I was able to change my name when I was a teenager I would've been Misty (bc pokemon) and then Katie. Both of which I don't like now and love my given name!

I hated my name at her age and absolutely love it now. My opinion made a 180 turn when I was about 16. Don't change her name officially, there's nothing wrong with Kylie and like others have pointed out, chances are she won't keep liking Angel.

Maybe you can look for a compromise together, a nickname or use-name that can be used instead?

I went through a million online names from age 10-18 because I didn't like mine much. I think you should wait on that decision, she'll probably thank you later, especially if she ends up disliking Angel too in a year or two.

i changed my name (not legally) for all of highschool and than switched back! it’s just a method of self expression and a way for her to have control over her identity, she’s young she can’t do much with her identity or self expression so changing her name might be helpful ! but not legally ofc. just socially. kids need to explore themselves and who they want to be and names are a great start!

Id wait for sure. She just can’t make such important decisions about yet about herself at the age of 10. If she really hates it, why don’t you just start calling her Angel, and not change her name legally yet?

Angel is such a bad name! She can just say she changed it without legally doing so for now but please angel is just horrible

she can always go by the name without a legal change, just tell her teachers and relatives her preferred name and she can tell her friends herself. i changed my name like 8 ish years ago, have never gone by any other name since, and still have yet to legally change it lol. just let her go by what she wants when she wants, its nbd.

I changed my name when I was 8. Basically my parents said it was fine ONE TIME- there would be no more changes. I knew that was the deal and it worked fine. It was a big change too, from Nicole to Andrea. I appreciate that they let me; at 40 I’m still Andrea.

she is young, just tell her that is not possible till 18

No, let her pick a nickname and wait until she's mature enough to pick a good name, if I changed my name in high school I'd probably be called like Gerard way or some shit lol

No. She's 10. It will pass. I feel like all little girls go through this for some reason. I wanted to be named Crystal. But now I wouldn't dream of having a different name than mine.

Omg definitely wait! My first name is April and when I was around that age I asked my mom if I could change the spelling to Apryll. I’m so glad she didn’t let me now 😅

She can definitely change it socially. Lots of kids go through a "call me (insert name here}" phase, and lots of kids have other reasons to change their names such as gender transition. This is harmless and lets her feel like she's expressing herself. Either she'll love it and stick with it, and change it legally someday, or she'll have a fun cringey middle school memory to look back on later.

LOL when I was that age I hated my name, too. I wanted everyone to call me by my middle name. Nobody did. There was no way my parents would have indulged me. No, don't let her do that at that age. She's far too young to make that decision She can do it as an adult if she still wishes.

Tell her when she becomes an adult she can change her name. I always hated my plain Jane name also, but have grown out of the phase of wanting to change it. I gave my own daughter the name I wanted to give myself.

She can have angel as a nickname and her primary name but there’s no need to change it legally. Once she’s a legal adult if she still feels that way go nuts.

If she wants to be called Angel, which is a corny ass 10 year old kind of name then just oblige her and let her experiment with her identity in a safe and supportive way.

I went through a phase around 8-9 when I thought my name was lame and wanted to be called “Mike”. I was convinced that was a much cooler name….. hahahaha now I’m 40 and very happy with my family name.

Don’t take it personal. You didn’t do anything wrong. She has a lovely name.

I know from my own therapy experience that presenting problems like a name change or feeling fat or ugly or anxious in social situations or whatever are just the surface presenting part of a deeper more unconscious need or feeling. And that can take time and maturity to untangle.

Sending you grace, patience and love 🫶🏼

I wanted to be crystal SO badly when I was her age. Now, I am actually really happy that I am NOT. My mom told me that I could use it as a nickname, and that lasted about a week before I realized that sucked too.

Why would you let a 10 year old pick their name. In another 10 years she’ll ask why you let her do that. I’m pregnant rn and naming my daughter Kylie. My son is 9 and has expressed he doesn’t like his name and I tell him I love his name. Period. Conversation over.

I hated my name growing up because it was difficult and too “ethnic” compared to the other girls.

I grew up and really grew into my name and treasure the fact that there aren’t very many girls with my name.

I appreciate it now and very much like it.

I’d say let her make that decision as an adult who has worn the name longer than 10 years.