My partner and I are having a son and my husband is DEAD SET on the name Nigel. I absolutely hate it. it feels Australian or something. it reminds me of Nigel Thornberry. yuck. I knew a Rigel growing up and the names just doesn’t sound good to me. We compromised and it won’t be our son’s first name like he wanted, but it’s still going to be his middle name. I feel like i carried this baby for 10 months to get a say in the first name (as long as it was one we both agreed on) to not have a say in the middle and he’s getting my partners last name. My partner said if we didn’t name him Nigel, he would still call him that. i just gave in because i don’t want to confuse our child. it’s not a family name or anything. he said he just feels like it will fit him/his soul. how can one logically argue with that?? one of my friends said it’s really not that bad so if anyone has any redeeming qualities about it, i’m ALL EARS!! i don’t even want to tell anyone his full name after he’s born and if he’s in trouble i don’t even think i’ll call him by his full name just because of how unappealing it sounds to me. but i’m also 37 weeks along and very hormonal so looking for any consolation that maybe i’m just overreacting
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i’ve suggested couples counseling already BEFORE bringing our child into the world but he said if we need to bring an outside person in to be able to communicate with each other then we’re too far gone. i grew up in therapy and disagree but in his culture, therapy can be looked at as weak for the men
That’s what someone who doesn’t want to be held accountable by an unbiased third party would say.
that is… how i feel as well
You might wanna consider the possibility of throwing him an ultimatum. 99% of the time ultimatum are unhealthy, but it’s therapy or you’re done. He knows he’s gonna be torn apart by a counselor. He’s pushing his boundaries and seeing how much you’re gonna lay down and take it.