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Dude is complaining that his girlfriend wants to feel comfortable during sex
woo hoos seductively
Ew, Sims 4... I'm more of a Sims 3 guy myself.
Passion mod and Wicked Whims mod… Check them out
Ya, you can really do some kinky stuff with them in this version. We should let that guy know.
Passion mod FTW
Look at the WW perverts showing up before roll call.
PRESENT!
Wicked Whims has entered the chat.
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Lmao
Funniest comment I have read this week
Thats why I uninstalled W.W to fight for my spot in heaven 😂
Im more of Skyrim with CBBE mod
Bruh xD
Ayo?
Ayo. Ay-fucking-yo.
Just spit out my water in the gym
Way easier to dump the baby after too.
Look at me money bags over here with sims 4. I still have to beat it to the Sims 2
I love you
Honestly, WW is a great mod
This is the only comment I needed to see all day. Thank you
I would like to award you the highest honor I can bestow.
Look at this rich guy who can afford the Sims 4
opens up calculator and hits 80085
they both need to be with people that they are more compatible with. Stop the drama, end the relationship and move on.
Yup he says he "ended up" with her like he never had any agency?? Like wtf is this are you a medieval princess?
Look it's a ton of work to get a girl comfortable enough to have sex. You gotta date her and get to know her and know her name and shit before they let you hit it, and then to find out it's VANILLA is just the wooooorst. /s
Oh yeah, communicating about sexual preferences is soooo overrated. Why not bang now and slowly get bitter about something instead of addressing it and moving on?
That’s why I love my girlfriend, what’s her name again? Something like “Snargeret.”
Well, TBF women don't exactly come with features listed on the box. You don't really know who you're with (in the bedroom) until you're already with them. It's possible to have a great relationship and be compatible in every way, but be worlds apart in the bedroom.
In this person's case, if kinky sex means that much, he'll need to explain this and move-on. For some people, the sex is a big chunk of the relationship, and if it doesn't work for both, then there can be no relationship.
The issue is hes framing this as an inherent flaw of hers and blaming her instead of a compatibility issue
......They may not come with features "listed on the box" but they are generally able to communicate...
You don't need to actually have sex with someone to be like, "when and if we do have sex, would you be into doing x kinky thing with me? No? That's actually a dealbreaker for me."
In fact, I'd say it's pretty silly to NOT bring this subject up before being with someone, if it's really important to you.
Well, TBF women don't exactly come with features listed on the box.
As a guy, this swings both ways. We don't always know where we're weird until we're confronted by someone who's weirded out by something we've done or want to do.
And if you don't know you're weird, you may not know what you need to particularly communicate about before things get even weirder.
And if you're more conservative/traditional, you may not experience those weird moments until deep into your relationship, even marriage. It's a major flaw of Puritanism.
Likely. They did have social media in the 1500’s. 😛
I've sent thou an illuminated manuscript of my member, is thou getting moist? 💦
Alas, I am a woman and cannot read
Some can't move on without the rebound standing by sadly.
Seriously. Sexual compatibility is a huge part of a relationship and is deffiently enough to end one. Is this guy being a jerk? Yes, but he is also not in the wrong for wanting to find someone more sexually compatible.
No, he’s not wrong for wanting it at all. Agree that sexual compatibility is hugely important. He’s wrong about being a whiny baby about it, whining online about her and trying to ‘one up’ her by choosing no sex over vanilla sex. He should move on to someone who is more compatible, and she should be with someone who is isn’t expecting those things and isn’t pressuring her to change. If they both aren’t happy.. so move on
It's amazing that people can't figure this out. If it's that important to you then find someone else or discuss an open relationship. Idk why people think that their partner has to mold to their needs.
Compromising should not be the norm.
Compromise isn’t a bad thing, because it can lead to each person trying something they didn’t know they might like. But, if that’s not even part of the conversation then they just have to end it. Or ensure the constant drama
Ya for sure. I feel like growing up I was always told by older men "happy wif happy life" or on the female side that you have to make sacrifices to please your man but I found out through my first marriage that bending to someone's will only breeds resentment.
Compromise is great for somethings. It's just taken to far to make a obviously failed relationship to work.
You mean act like mature adults?
I mean you aren’t wrong or anything. But what a high standard to achieve.
:)
1000%
It’s okay if you’re not sexually compatible with somebody, but just move on and look elsewhere instead of being a whiny little pissbaby.
The “females” did it for me. Gross person all around.
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Please do not insult Ferengi... they do not deserve such slander, they are trustworthy and honest businessmen!
Also he wants her to wear kinky outfits. What self-respecting Ferengi lets his females go around clothed
That’s a very good point. What Ferengi lets his females go around? Their females belong at home.
Mooooooooooooooooooogie!
Ah so she wouldn't rub his ears, that is why is he so pissed?
Every female should give good umaks.
The “this is who I ended up with” is what got me. They didn’t “end up” with her, they trapped her.
Reminds me of that girl who "naturally" stopped having sex after marriage (cuz she wanted to act like "herself" or something). Trap someone in a relationship they don't want, then force your own sexual preferences on them. Psychos of all different libidos
He’s porn sick.
I agree. He's been watching that toxic shit forever and now thinks that he's being repressed if she does want him to spit in her mouth and choke her.
He might need a nofap porn break. 18th century guys used to jerk it to exposed ankles. The brain will reset eventually.
He doesn’t want to admit they’re not compatible and move on, he wants to coerce this girl past her boundaries through bitching and negging.
You took the words right out of my mouth
He did say he was going to break up.
But he isn't lamenting their sexual incompatibility, he's whining about not getting what he feels entitled to. He sucks.
This is a great way of articulating this. It's okay to be unhappy about being incompatible. It's not okay to think you're entitled to subsume a person to get anything you want out of them because you own them and they suck for not being the person you think you own.
Yeah if he was like "oh no I messed up, I just realized I want kinkier partner" its just incompatible. But he's making this sound like her fault. You can almost hear that whiny little voice. He probably doesn't "suck" tho, if you get what I mean
Probably doesn't really give a fuck about her since it doesn't seem like he asked why or gave options to ease into it. Probably just pulled out a drilldo gags and cuffs and was mad she wasn't all about 'doing whatever he wants'.
I agree with titngiggles!
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It's not even venting at that point lol
Bitter brag?
“All my other friends-”
Jesus, are you 16? Grow up
Guaranteed all his friends are exaggerating their sex lives to make out they’re getting it better than each other too and this dumbass doesn’t see it.
That's what I was thinking. All of your friends have crazy porn sex lives? Really? I don't think so.
Seriously lol what grown mens talk to each other about their private sex life in detail
Of all the females in the world
This man doesn’t see his girlfriend as a partner or even a person, she’s just a sex object. I hope she dumps him. What a piece of shit.
Yup. He absolutely doesn't see her as a human with wants and needs equal to his own. Time for them to break up.
the use of "females" is very telling
That’s exactly what I said. The moment a dude says “females” that tells me all I need to know.
I can't help but read it as "feeeeeeeeeeeemales" every time I see it. So off-putting.
Isn’t it just?
Not native speaker here: is there really a difference between females and women or is it just how it usually is used? I wouldn't see a difference unless someone points it out or if it reminds me of some weird movie reference that used "females" with weird vocalisation.
Gramatically, female is an adjective (it describes a noun, so something like a female bodybuilder or female doctor would make sense) whereas woman is a noun (a person, place, or thing - so "this woman I'm seeing" or "the woman at the grocery store" would make sense). Colloquially, the people out there calling women "females" all the time are doing so to dehumanize and degrade, and are generally neckbeards who don't see women as actual human people. It's a red flag to a lot of women, because the only people we've known to use female in this way are misogynists.
Females is more sterile and impersonal.
To add to what the others have said, it's really telling when they refer to "men" and "females" instead of males/females or men/women. Really highlights that they don't think of us as fully human.
And you never hear it from people who aren't misogynist creeps so it's an easy red flag to spot
Thanks, so it seems like I just should forget about word "female" outside of adjectives and medicine 😅.
And if you really want to use females, also say males instead of men/dudes/guys.
Female is a clinical term and wouldn't cause a stir in a discussion about anatomy or medicine. The linguistic counterpart would be male.
Woman is a more social ? term that sound normal in pretty much any context. The linguistic counterpart would be man or maybe guy.
Seeing "female" is an orange flag for me. Seeing the combination of the clincial "female" and social "man" is a bright-ass red flag though.
Tangentially, I have the same flag color code for "girl" when speaking about adult women.
Yeah if someone would use exclusively "female" and "man" it would look intentional and weird. And now you gave me another word to think about when and how to use 😅.
I think it’s because by saying “of all the females,” they’re only seeing the person for their sex (or gender), whereas if he had said “women,” it’s connotation in that sentence would not imply that he’s only viewing her as a sex object. It’s not that the word female in itself is a derogatory or bad word, but word choice can emphasize your argument or reveal some of your biases, as is the case with this fella.
Hope this helps.
It screams porn addict. He probably faps to fucked up shit all day long then complains when she doesn't want to re-enact it.
I was thinking that too
Yeah, I mean who gets a new partner and immediately jumps to toys, costumes and bondage ffs. Like wot?
Yeah maybe communicate with your partner first and see what you both are into? Before pulling out a Santa’s bag of sex toys first night together lol
Agreed. I wonder if this story is even real.
Agreed. Definitely has a purely juvenile tone. He's prolly 16 and on hisn2nd girlfriend.
I hope theses people break up so the girl can get a good guy
There’s nothing wrong with vanilla tbh. A lot of the more complex stuff is…complex. It takes a lot of time, knowledge, and care. Considering how he talks in his post I’d be worried about injury from doing any of the “non-vanilla” things he’s proposing - like bondage. If he’s this big of a baby I have a feeling he has no respect for the dangers.
yeah I seriously doubt he would put in the thought and care needed for these kinks. he definitely just wants to be able to throw her around and treat her like trash. I just know aftercare would be nonexistent lol
And by "vanilla" he seriously means "non-violent"
i 100% feel like he gets all of his ~kinky expertise~ from porn. so there would be no safe words, no aftercare, etc. for her if she did end up agreeing to it, because porn doesn’t teach that. i feel sorry for her.
Yeah, i hope he does break up with her for her sake. It’s not wrong of him to feel unhappy in a relationship where his sexual needs aren’t being met, but he has to realize that it’s not her fault and he just isn’t into what she’s into so he either has to suck it up and have “normal” sex with her, or he can go find a new girlfriend that is into what he’s into. I don’t understand the whole whining to reddit about how terrible your sex life is like it’s going to solve anything.
He should break up with her. If he doesn’t want to respect her wishes so they can both enjoy it.
Or, you know, complain and do the “woe is me” thing.
I think this is a case of 2 people not being right for each other. You say he should respect her wishes so they can BOTH enjoy it... but he is saying he doesnt enjoy it. So right now he actually isnt getting his enjoyment out of it, while she is but he is resenting it.
Bottom line they arent sexually compatible so its time to move on
I dont think he will need to. I am guessing she is prepping his walking papers now
In this episode of "not being together solves your problem"
Based on this dude's personality, it was probably a struggle just for him to get the girl he has. If they broke up, he'd actually have to deal with no sex as opposed to manipulating her with it.
If vanilla sex is that bad you're definitely doing it wrong
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👏👏👏👏 round of applause....... shawty make that ass clap
This ⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️ right here.
How is she “boring” just because she doesn’t need 100 different gimmicks to get off. That’s called efficient
WHAT DO YOU MEAN I CANT PISS ON YOU? YOURE SO FUCKING BORING
I've actually broken up with someone for this exact reason.
I was still a virgin at the time and she wanted to take it. We'd been dating for about a month. She told me she likes pissing on her partner. I immediately told her "no" and she got upset.
We were in the middle of History class in college. That relationship didn't last after that day.
I have nothing wrong with people's kinks what I have an issue with is trying to push it on someone who isn't comfortable with it. Which I delt with a lot as a man, and even had an insane relationship that tried to get me to do horrible things...
My wife and I have a pretty good understanding of both of our needs. That's what's important. Sex isn't everything but having it is good and especially making sure both sides are comfortable.
Exactly. We all have our kinks but some people’s kinks are literally just a bit of hair pulling… pissing is another level and the majority aren’t going to be up for that.
I’m happy for you and your wife though, that understanding when you hit the sweet spot is absolutely amazing, it’s more important to me I satisfy my partner than she satisfies me but she thinks the same so it’s great.
Its so good that you brung up your boundaries in that situation
What do you mean I can’t taser you and hit you with whips? 😖 but all my other friends have girls who will let them
"My girl won't throw cantaloupes at my ass while I slap my nipples with a fly swatter. So boring."
This one time, at band camp, this one chick stuck a flute up her ass
I got the impression the toys were for him. But, yeah, they both need to end this so they can find folks the are comfortable with.
This man is a giant POS. Just cause your gf isn’t into your kink doesn’t mean she’s bad. It means she isn’t into your kink and she doesn’t want that because it makes her uncomfortable.
"of all the females in the world"
The incels would both love and hate this man. He's everything they want to be, but complaining about it. I think it'd be funny to see an interaction between them. It'd be entertaining.
He is basically proof that incels will never be happy Bc, shocker, it turns out women are not the root of all their problems
Incels on their way to blame their virginity on women and "society" instead of taking responsibly:
That's some toxic entitlement right there. I get the frustration of not being able to enjoy your kink, but you're not entitled to it in a relationship. I hope she moves on from this shit bird.
"Ugh my girlfriend won't even change my diaper, she's so fucking boring and selfish."
Shitbirds, hope they dont shit on you boy.
It's the winds of shit Ricky....there is a shit storm a- brewin
Yeah. He's acting like such a little bitch about it. Sex isn't everything
yeah fuck that guy, he doesn't deserve it
No one should be fucking that guy.
He should fuck himself... with his hands...
He has toys, just can't play with em in the bedroom.
He talks a big game, maybe he's into it
Mildly infuriating? This is extremely infuriating! I pity the poor woman that has to deal with a man that feels he’s entitled to do whatever he wants to her body during sex. This feels like manipulative coercion. I’m glad she at least sets her boundaries with him and puts her foot down. Hopefully she leaves him, she deserves better.
Just break up with her and find a girl who wants it rough, what's the big deal?
From the shitty pissbaby attitude and 'of all the females', this dude probably lucked out in getting a girlfriend in the first place and is now salty she actually has needs and wants of her own instead of being a submissive porn fantasy female. Fuck this guy.
Not a vanilla fuck I hope, he doesn’t like that
Well said
That’s what I was thinking. He got lucky getting a girlfriend at all, so he feels “stuck” with his one option lmao.
Sounds like a douche. It could be a problem and they’re clearly sexually incompatible. However his rant shows his an immature narcissist. I’m pretty sure his attitude isn’t doing him any favors in the bedroom. Maybe if he weren’t such an asshole she’d be more willing to experiment.
This guy has been watching too much porn. Refused bondage gear?? I’d say she’s in the majority to refuse bondage. What is his version of vanilla, I bet she doesn’t just want missionary. I’d bet my house she rides him, takes it doggy, loves oral, gives oral… and what the fuck is wrong with that? This idiot just wants to throw dildos up her and fuck her in the arse and whip her? As great as that can be, understanding and loving your partner should be everything to you. He doesn’t deserve her.
Yeah it sounds more like he wants a good little sex doll who will do whatever she's told and he can't deal with her having boundaries and saying yeah nah I'm not into it. He seems to think "vanilla" means "not bondage"
Exactly, vanilla to everyone is not vanilla to him, the weirdo. She’s just into what most people are. He needs to understand that kind of sex isn’t sustainable, even kinky girls need loving in ways he’s clearly not competent at doing.
Amen! NO KIDDING!
too much porn is the problem here.
Definitely mate, or he’s jealous of what his friends get upto (who are probably lying anyway).
yeah I’m guessing the friends are exaggerating if not lying, as you say.
Yeah do her a favor and break up. If you won't respect her wishes then find someone that's more into your kind of sex. It isn't consensual and mutually fun then there is no point staying together.
„The most shitty sex life known to man“ bro, you could have no sex life at all xD
The fact that he chooses to call his own girlfriend a “female” just shows that he doesn’t see her as anything but a sex toy. This guy is just a load of garbage, hope he never has enjoyable sex ever
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Exactly my thoughts. No way she’s begging for sex if (in her mind) he wants to torture her to get off, either. This is just him living a little fantasy on the internet for clicks.
The way they treat her like an animal aswell like i can imagine him saying "ugh my FeMaLe won't let me shit in their mouth!!!"
So, instead of bitching online, why doesn't he just break up with her so she can find someone she's more compatible with? I would be miserable with someone like him. Like damn dude, back off.
This is it. Women wanting to be physically abused is starting to become expected/the norm in hetero sex, yikes.
Wouldn’t it be a kicker if she actually did have some kinks but the guy being all pissy and judgy about what she likes makes her not feel comfortable enough to share?
Let's use some toys on him, see if he likes it
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Mentality of a 16 year old porn addict
It's cool how he never mentions asking about what she might enjiy but instead just demabds that he is satisfied
Sex is overrated
I would have broken up with her as well. Some people are vanilla, good for them, I’m not. It’s okay to be not okay with something.
You’re not entitled to taking a shit on your gf’s face and drawing sunglasses out of it just because she’s your gf. Kinks are not for everyone and this guy sound like a mentally and emotionally underdeveloped manchild.
He acts like someone is forcing him to date this girl. Dude, if you wanna get kinky go date someone kinky instead of whining like an asshole.
Ungrateful prick
Not being sexually compatible is fine, but don't ever be a dick about it
Well you’ll be doing her a huge favor… you seem like a tool
Man it went from the stereotype of "my wife doesn't put out" to "she puts a lot but ya know, like I kind of want to do her in the ass while I sing the City Escape theme from Sonic Adventure 2 and she said no"
Guy seems like a whiny twat. It reads like she said no and this little bitch decided he'd try and weaponize their sex life by refusing to fuck her because he wasn't getting what he wanted.
"its been 4 days without your mammoth rod. i give in. you can handcuff me to the dildotron now"
What a douchebag. Watches too much porn
Someone tell That dude to go jerk his chicken and quit crying.
A good time to remind everyone that sexual compatibility is important in a relationship.
What a petulant baby.
This makes me glad I’m single and celibate. But also…who is this dumb?
After all these years, I'm still baffled over how important sex is to people
And I can smell that guys entitlement
I mean, it’s a fair complaint to have, but it goes both ways. So tbh it sounds like a bad match and he should just break up with her. The resentment he is showing won’t be good in the long term for sure.
this guy doesn’t deserve a girlfriend, period.
Sounds like shes dodging a bullet if you ask me.
Yeah....shoulda broke up with her a long time ago instead of building resentment til you start throwing a fit like a fuckin baby...
Ultimate life hack: Find a new girlfriend.
”and the most shitty sex life known to man.”
Clearly he doesnt know about u/worst_lover_ever
"fEmALeS"
Nuns famously don’t have sex. To quote Blanche Deveraux ‘it’s in the name. None’
why should she be expected to enjoy partaking in activities that physically harm her? that’s what scary to me. sexual kinks that involve pain and inflicting physical harm on somebody that you’re supposed to love are NOT the norm. porn has created such a sad and terrifying reality were people think that this is normal. porn normalizes abuse. there is nothing wrong with wanting to have intimate and PAINLESS sex with your partner. this guy needs therapy.
Absolutely should break up with her. And then get therapy because that level of resentment is not natural or healthy.
You know this guy is a piece of shit when everything he wants from a girl is good, kinky sex. Like none of her other traits matter at all. People like him are the reason why a lot of women end up with trust issues and emotionally damaged.
I girlfriend wants to eat my ass. I said no. She is fine.
LOOOOSEEEER
(half his friends' girlfriends probably don't like it either but haven't outgrown "pick me" sexual identity)
notice he doesn't break up with her - too much fun testing her like shit over it
Apparently sex is more valuable to him than the person he’s with.
i wonder if he's met any nuns
Then theres me and my hand, been like that for 24 years and never had the chance to have sex even once but this guy is complaining
Dude should just get a new girl he doesn't deserve her
Shot or get off the pot, fucko. There's a better guy out there for her.
People are entitled to enjoy their sex lives. She's right to refuse and he's right to leave her. Everybody wins except OP who's butthurt.
”and the most shitty sex life known to man.”
Phht. Yeah, that’s real tough, pal.
<Continues jerking off to The Sims 4>