I’m in my early 20s and I feel like it’s so hard to befriend people here. If you haven’t been friends with someone since you were in kindergarten, it’s like they don’t see you as their true friend no matter how much time you spend around them. This year I tried befriending some girls who were around my age at my new job and they were always disinterested, usually giving me one word replies or just going on their phones. I’ve lived here since I was little so I don’t really have anything to compare it to. But has anyone else experienced similar?
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Probably because people have lived here their whole lives so they've had the same friends since they were kids.
But why so unaccepting of newer people?
Honestly if you're a young woman it's probably more a work culture thing where the other woman were probably low-key intentionally ostracising you as a new girl. Next time lay back, don't show interest and match their energy. If their just slow to warm up they'll come around but if they're the bully type they'll understand there's no point.
Yeah I agree. When I worked at Starbucks, it was much easier to befriend coworkers and I’m still close friends with some of those people today. When I got a “real” job at an office, it was the complete opposite. Offices/ 9-5s are so dreadful and boring that there’s often a lot of drama just for the sake of entertainment. Maybe you can find friends outside of work.