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We've noticed that lately the subreddit has turned into a lot of doomposting regarding the political climate in the US. While we understand a lot of people are rightfully concerned about what's currently happening in the US, it is not helpful to have dozens of posts every time a minor politician says something hateful. The main feed sometimes is full of doomposts, while this subreddit is a community safe space.

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I've seen a lot, and I was wondering where does this obsession with trans women comes from because it's so big that they associate transness with being a trans woman. It comes from the idea that "trans women are trying to trick men into having sex with them" or what?

I'm queer (also not cis) and not out to my family. There have already been huge arguments in the house this morning before we head to the polls, my Mum vs my Dad with me staying out of it. I'm voting strategically to make sure the tories don't get in (our constituency is historically tory-heavy) and I know my Dad is voting left-wing. But I lost my mother to extreme right-wing conspiracy over Covid and she's "proudly voting reform UK". She's genuinely convinced it's 'anti-establishment' to vote for the extreme right wing party.

I already felt upset enough, but I made the stupid decision to read their manifesto and I feel sick. It's stuffed to the brim with racism, sexism, homophobia, classism, you name it. Things like 'more women would be stay at home mothers if woke didn't exist' and banning people from being trans at school, deliberately outing kids to their parents. I can't believe a member of my own family would even THINK about voting for those monsters.

I know they won't win. But it terrifies me that so much of the UK sees these views as acceptable. That they think they're martyrs or rebellious for attempting to revert the country BACKWARDS several hundred years. It's mindboggling. I can't believe people are like this. And it makes me so sad, for myself, for my queer friends, for the wider community, for the upcoming generations of queer kids... I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry I have a relative like this.

i don't get the biphobia and transphobia, i thought these were made up by bigots to divide us, if you hate trans people or bi people or someone from this group you can go fuck yourself (sorry for grammatical issues im drunk)

I think gender is dumb, I think assuming that people like certain things based of gender is also dumb, lots of things I align with within femininity but I feel like that’s different. I’m quite “fem” if you will but idk is it invalidating to others if I want to use she/they just because I don’t agree with gender norms?

I (17f) am questioning about my sexuality since a couple of years and I believe I'm bisexual, but I'm not sure at all. Are there kind of signs to be sure ?

Because when they do this, they can only be implying one of two things. Either:

1. Religion as a concept is morally wrong.

Or.

1. Queer people deserve the same protections and tax benefits as churches/religious institutions.

So I don’t know what they think they’re going to achieve with that.

They force Anti-LGBT propaganda down your throat. And demonetize LGBT content creators. America is becoming a horrid place for LGBT individuals. I NEVER WATCH conservative or Anti-LGBT channels. Now all of a sudden it is all I see. Won't be using YouTube anymore.

(Mainly asking MM couples but any advice would be greatly appreciated) How did you decide on best man and maid of honor as a same sex couple?

For context:

So my mum and I were talking earlier about her wedding in a few months and my future wedding when we came to be who would be her maid of honor. I instinctively said that I already knew who my best man would be. After this she asked about bridesmaids. This had me stumped and I haven’t stopped thinking about it. Traditionally, the groom has a best man and the bride a maid of honor however when having 2 grooms I’m unsure… this also has made me feel a little worried, what if my fiancé wants his friend to be his best man? Unless we have 2 best men?

TLDR: How do 2 grooms decide on the Best Man/Men and Maid/Maids of honor?