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Husband does not wash himself well enough and its affecting our sex life. I've addressed this but still it hasn't changed, what do i do?
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I think it’s the of fear of child abuse/being accused of pedophilia that leads some parents to avoid teaching their kids how to clean their privates. Like yeah, you let private areas be private, but you still have to teach your kids hygiene and clean your babies! Add to that the puritanical religious nuts whose parents instilled a fear of one’s OWN private areas in them, and you end up with a tonne of men who don’t know how to clean themselves properly, or are too scared/ashamed to do it.
Understandable. That said, my mom just told us that whatever doesn't get washed in the shower isn't getting clean any other way, I imagine it's not too difficult to teach your kids without saying anything too detailed. But yes, when you throw in the puritan shit, it's a different game altogether.
I mean I really don’t remember anyone ever telling me how to do this properly. I remember being washed and then getting older and doing it myself. It all seemed fairly intuitive and obvious, but when I was an adult and wore deodorant, I noticed my armpits would still smell slightly after a shower. Turns out you need to scrub with a washcloth to get that stuff off, and it took me a little while to notice.
Never had any complaints from another person. But I’m overly sensitive so I noticed it before anyone else could. I imagine many people just never examine/smell themselves very closely, so if nobody else tells them, they don’t realize? And maybe washing between the cheeks/body folds isn’t as intuitive as it seems?!
Yeah, a lot of people just put it together after a point, but clearly a weirdly huge number of people don't, it's weird.