If someone refers to/calls me "daddy," instant turn off. Breed/breeding, we're not animals! Or if a guy uses bussy/pussy to describe anything 🤢
I'm 31 and guys have called me that since I was 21. Never liked it.
Each to their own tbh; I’m not gunna poo poo another’s kink I just find in my experience when I’m called that I try to take is a complimentary but majority of the times there comes expectations that I honestly can’t or won’t want to live up to
First guy that called me Daddy was when I was 23 and he was 4 years older than me. Didn't know I liked being called daddy till that day 😂
Lol yep I'm 31 now and am officially a daddy, apparently, even though I think you could argue a twunk is more twink than daddy.
I asked what the fuck "looksmaxxing" was on IG and a hoard of Gen Z (or whoever is 20 right now) started calling me Unc 🥲
They called you what now?
Yeah had to ask them to translate that one too, apparently it's uncle lol
Now I need to know how that compares to daddy 😂
It’s perfectly fine to politely say you don’t wanna be called daddy.
For sure which I do and lemme tell ya it can go awry
The problem is if someone doesn't call you that in pre-chat and suddenly says that in the middle of sex 😭😭😭
If it’s that important to you tell them you don’t like it before the sex starts.
And the flocks of rabid bottoms who talk like they're on fucking Drag Race are very well known to respect guys when they state things they don't want be called, whether that is "daddy" or female pronouns. /s
Same here, I just can't, that daddy-son vibe doesn't work for me.
People that say "alpha" and shit, jesus. If someone said that to me, I don't think I'd ever have an erection again
"Alpha" is usually just losers trying to convince you they're not losers.
By openly telling you they are 😂
Alpha is soooo cringe
It has its place in BDSM, D/s, pup play, daddy-boy, etc. But for general use, it is pretty cringe.
Man you're so alpha. (Did it work? Let me know on your death bed if you ever got an erection after this moment )
Thank, my balls receeded 🤙
So now maybe calling your ass a boy pussy would be more accurate?
Edit: i threw up a little bit after this one
Feel like a real alpha doesn't need to call himself an alpha.
When a man says he's "alpha", ask him "is that a furry thing?"
Doesn't it just mean strong/athletic/dominant?
Anytime who uses that word is no longer considered a mentality sound person in my mind
Preferred position for anal sex as substitute for a personality
Top/bottom has its place in porn, but IRL it shows a lack of imagination and reduces is all to a pole or a hole. Unsavoury.
Thissssssssssuhhhhhhh
This so much
"Queer" and "sissy"
I was born in 1950. I've been called "queer" and "sissy" throughout my school years, and the two words still sting.
I was born in the late 70s and I don't like it either. If the group calls them selves queer then I go along with it, but I don't want to be called queer, sissy or the F word.
Yup. Born 1968. I got gay bashed in a small country town when I was 17. Taking "ownership" of those slurs has never sat comfortably with me. And I'm out to EVERYONE.
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thank you all for commenting. I am much younger (born in 2000) and am not particularly fond of the term either. the other day I saw a post talking about how queer is THE "correct" term and that if you don't agree with that, you're either a TERF or have been "infected by TERF propoganda" and I felt like I was going insane
I can see the value in the word as a descriptor and identity for people but it's not something I use for myself and I avoid using it for other people unless I know it's how they want to be referred to
I think a lot of people assume that because they are okay with it and/or grew up in an area/time where it was used positively, everyone else did as well. so it doesn't make sense to them that someone wouldn't be okay with it. and, because it is a part of their identity, they sometimes take "hey don't use that for me" as a personal attack. which is incredibly unfortunate and frustrating because it harms other members of the community, both young and old
I'm not a big fan of the contemporary identity politics brouhaha, but as someone who enjoys English Literature I've always felt "queer" to be the equivalent of "strange, freaky, offbeat, out of the ordinary, mysterious," etc. It's like being an eccentric character in a Harry Potter novel.
sometimes I can't believe how the meaning of the word queer changed
I used to watch a TV show called Cold Case, it was about unsolved murders. There was an episode set in the 1980s and the word queer was used to offend people
Gay was originally a slur for male prostitute.
I’m not here to tell anyone how they should or should not feel, but I think giving words this much power is an act of surrender.
Maybe in some rare cases, one can claim it’s trauma-response, but I was outed as teenager in KKK country 20 years ago. Had a terrible and violent few years. So it feels difficult for me understand grown men having such a reaction to words, unless it’s their unhealthy attachment to being a victim. I’m sorry to offend anyone by that - that’s not my intention. …but maybe consider if it’s true, deep down?
Regardless, this is what language does. Evolves. Especially pejoratives. The ‘pejorative toilet’ is when a euphemism slowly turns to insult (e.g., retard, dumb, etc). And pejorative reclamation (pejorative plunger?) has been around for 1000s of years. Persecuted Christians were well known for it, and one could even argue using the cross is an example.
So if you can’t change a known phenomenon, why give it any power to affect you?
Lastly, as a side note: Any of you men saying that ‘queer’ or any insult/slur being reclaimed makes you uncomfortable or upset or similar…. You better not be going around with your friends using bitch, cunt, slut, whore, hag, etc
Born in the 80s and I don’t like it ether.
I don't like sissy at all, but I self-identify as queer more often than not to avoid what I commonly get otherwise (bi erasure). Guess it's harder for people to say "I don't believe you're queer".
I agree. It's becoming commonplace to use queer and gay interchangeably. I find it frustrating tbh that many in the LGBT+ community can be insensitive to the hurt associated with that word for many others (when they use it as a blanket label for all LGBT).
thats interesting, Because i like using queer to describe myself but i was born in the 90s
Queer doesn’t even describe us as gay men - I view it as a disgusting word as well. It was heavily used as the derogatory word of choice when I was growing up in FL in the 90’s.
doesn’t even describe us as gay men
What? You can object to the use of the term but it does in fact encompass literally every identity that isn’t cisgender or heterosexual.
Man cunt. I had a guy refer to my ass as a man cunt and I've never been more turned off in my life. Absolutely disgusted. Same for boy pussy and busy. Just fucking no.
Someone legitimately called my ass a shitpussy once. I think my penis inverted.
The worst one I heard was shitoris. It made me both LOL and dry heave at the same time.
This some anime shit bruh 😭
Lmao or when someone says “I’m wet” or “you’re flooding my basement”… nah babe, that’s just shit 🤣
Your basement is not structurally sound and needs waterproof sealing.
i once had a guy say ‘oh i love uncut guys! it’s like a shotglass for cum 👅’ and i was absolutely disgusted lol
also had a dude say ‘i love uncut when it’s ripe’ and it was like bro please die
LMAOOOOOO what the actual fuck
EWWWW, HAHA 😂 That's disgusting and the best thing I've heard all week
Lolll
This made me gag
There’s a sub here called boy pussy
Looool I'm so glad I never heard that
LMFAO this 1 always has me 💀 💀
bussy/boy pussy confuses the fuck out of me because people use it to refer to both "ass" and "trans man's hole" and I can never tell which it is
Straight acting
That’s self shame, we can behave the same things like the straight dudes, that’s weird to name it by straight acting.
When I see this in profiles, I cringe.
I also don't like being called it. I'm not acting, I'm just being whatever the fuck I want! Worst part was it was meant to be a compliment.
I assure you I'm not acting straight when I'm going down on my husband...
Most people don’t realise I’m gay until I mention I have a husband. I don’t really have an interest in any “typical” gay interests.
A friend of a friend once said “I thought you were some straight bro given how you’re dressed and the types of tattoos you have. You look like you’re going home to a wife and kid after work each day”
I just said “nah mate. I suck dick just like you. That’s my man right there” while pointing at my husband.
Yeah, that just reinforces that gay men have or are expected to act a certain way. A guy can be effeminate and straight just as much as a masculine guy can be gay.
sup bro
I understand what they mean when they use it, but it's insidious because it implies only straight men can be masculine or inconspicuous. I'm not "acting straight", I'm just being myself and I present in a way I'm comfortable with. It just happens to align with most other men, but it's not an affectation.
"So do you lick vaginas and pretend you enjoy it?" is what I often ask the straight acting guys.
😂😂😂
Gay acting straight men are a thing nowadays according to TikTok and everyone’s praising them for embracing their femininity/feminine side and lots of girls are apparently so into it, so why can’t we let gay men act straight if they want to?
Because masculinity and femininity (gender binaries) don’t directly align with being gay or straight (sexual orientation); conflating the two things always leaves some people out of the picture because they don’t “fit in.”
Also, “acting” any particular way out of fear of not fitting in is exhausting and soul crushing. We should be encouraging people to be true to how they feel, not perform one way or another so that they gain social acceptance.
Yeah, this term is so late 90s/early 00s. I find it sad when I see the occasional 20 year old on Grindr using it in 2024.
They’re just telling people that they can play hetero characters on Broadway or film. Like Ian McKellan or Tessa Thompson. I don’t get the big deal
I’ll probably get downvoted but I want to be honest. There’s a good amount of labels at the far end of the ever growing acronym that I just roll my eyes at because it’s really not a sexuality or gender thing. It’s trying to make attraction to a common personality trait a sexuality. An example would be sapiosexual. Also I think there are a number of labels that are just repeats that just have a tiny little tweak or caveat that doesn’t really amount to much of anything. I’ll always respect people and obviously not admonish them if I think it’s silly but I’ll still be thinking it.
This kind of comment will get fewer eye rolls than usual on the gaybros thread.
Yeah I wasn’t sure. I know if I posted on askgaybros I’d have people I absolutely do not what to be associated with going way further and if I posted on lgbt I would be seen as nothing short of satan himself.
As with all things it's a mixed crowbar. Assuming someone's politics from their demographics is just dumb. People are quite capable of surprising you. But of course... there are trends.
And a trend in this space is a bit of fervent politics, a bit of anti-politics, and a whole lotta "ok whatever dude". Like... I care, but I don't care care, if you know what I mean.
Zaddy, your hot take is kinda turning me, a sapiosexual, on 🫦
The ever-growing acronym is the reason I prefer "Queer." A single-syllable word that covers every possible identity that is not 100% hetero and cisgender makes so much more sense.
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I like GSRM. Gender/sexual/romantic minority. It includes everything that isn't cis het basically
Much better than the ever growing confusing + word.
“Bussy” or anything of the sort. I’m not a woman, please stop using female anatomy to refer to men.
Bussy is crass, but at least it's 5% better than men referring to their asterisk as being their cunt
Both are nasty and make me feel gross
men referring to their asterisk as being their cunt
🤢🤮
“Their asterisk” had me cackling. 😂😂 I vote this as replacement for bussy/man cunt and the like. Would assterisk be too on the nose? No pun intended
Lol asterisk
I use the term more jokingly. It’s always in jest.
Yup same here. Instant turn off.
Yes, I been noticing guys using that lately. Weird
Shit I just commented on that, and it’s just another lingo that’s heavily used and gone away
I find that term gross
Somehow I just knew bussy or pussy was gonna be the top comment
I felt dirty just writing it here.
Whenever I hear I I think of "Bussibär" a children's character, "Bussi" is a childish word for kiss in my language
Oh my god “bussy” makes my skin crawl
Shitoris
Yup
You get to choose for yourself, but not others my dude
100% agree. I will not purposefully misgender or dead name someone, please respect my gender identity and use the proper terms when referring to my anatomy.
Daddy and bussy
Daddy, zaddy, gurrl, she, babe, bby, queen..
It slightly irks me when someone calls me queer/uses it as an umbrella term. I don’t care if someone uses it to label themselves but don’t impose labels on me. If I say I’m gay I’m gay. Luckily I very rarely encounter this in person, mainly just online.
This 💯 %
I use it as an umbrella term but unless someone specifically identifies with it I won’t use it to describe an individual.
Old heads. As in "no old heads" There are polite ways to say you prefer younger men.
“Hey gurl!”
Anyone that uses bussy unironically probably has deep-seeded issues.
*deep-seated, but yeah.
Probably said it that way bc they're seeding that bussy
I will pretend that I was being clever.
Deep-seeded bussy
Damn. It really all comes back to bussy.
I mean, that's the dream
"Daddy" is about the only one that really turns me off, full stop. In second place is referring to your penis as a "clit" or your ass as a "pussy." Using feminized words for your male genitals doesn't make you a more attractive bottom. It just screams gender dysphoria.
BBC always is a quick trip to gofuckyourselfville. If that's what you see when you look at me then you can go sit on a dead man's dick wrapped in barbed wire. I get everyone has their fetish, but to verbally reduce a person down to just a racial acronym is racist and demeaning almost akin to slavery. Whites and Latinos and Others please stop it!
Boi and gurl.
GBF. I’m not your gay best friend, nor am I an accessory for straight women to go shopping with. I’ve had one person say this in my vicinity and it irked me. Luckily, any other time I’ve heard straight women say this they always say it in a joking manner. Like they know it’s a ridiculous thing to call me and they’re leaning into it.
Oh my god, I don’t think I’ve ever agreed so much with someone before. I hate when people dumb folk like us down to our identity.
Any kind of degrading words, even something as minor as "bitch" is an instant turnoff
Related; spitting during sex. Like... on your face or whatever. Sexual degradation just doesn't feel like a respectful thing to do to a partner.
It is a kink of a certain sort. I don't have nothing against the people who share it, but come on dudes. Don't assume that if you're into it, then everyone else should be as well
100% Just ask first
Ally
For some reason that i can't explain, it grates my ears.
Because shitty people and politicians - who would not second thought back stabbing you - use it to get ahead.
Cruel person at charge with no personality and empathy put "ally" on their desk to appear more human, while pressuring everyone to work long unpaid hours.
Whats easier than printing an "ally" from the internet and putting it on your shitty desk in your shitty office.
Anyone with a tiny bit of intelligence knows how corporations and evil people are using "LGBT rights" proclamations to get ahead, while they are the worst "allies" you can imagine.
What bothers me is not as much corporations but people. Come pride and they all come out (no pun intended), screaming hey I have gay friends, I support your rights, I'm an ALLY!
Companies are evil by default and they will try to cash in as much as they can. It's in their nature. I won't be feeling any special extra love for M&S because they put a rainbow on their logo in June.
And it's already that wonderful time of the year when big corporations have to remember where they threw away last year's pride flags.
“Girl” or “Queen”. I’m not a woman, I’m not female, stop using feminine pronouns or feminine nouns/words/colloquialisms etc to describe or refer to me.
That's fair, I just don't take it that seriously. It's not meant to be literal
It's like how "bro" has become a universal, gender-neutral term of endearment that even women use between each other
Queer
May I ask why? Is it because of the old stigma?
Well in my case my dad used it as a slur for my entire childhood, and probably still does, so it’s just ingrained in me that it’s something you shouldn’t call someone like the f word. It wasn’t just the straight guy ribbing his friends type thing either. Like if we saw an even somewhat fem guy out in public he would mumble “fucking queer” in disgust. Obviously anyone can use it if that’s how they want to identify but I just don’t identify with the word.
I relate completely. It’s still and will always be a ‘bad word’ to me. Highly offensive. It doesn’t need to become our N-word ‘taken back’ or whatever. I don’t know why communities keep trying to do that.
At least with the N-word it’s still considered very unprofessional. The Q-word has become the professional term to use in some circumstances now. That feels like a betrayal to our own community.
I understand some people are oddly attached to it, so I don’t say anything when they use it for themselves. I do tell them not to refer to me that way if they try.
Bussy, pussy, man cave, boy cunt, ect. Any name for body parts other than dick/cock/ass is a turn off to me. Hell, I'll take the scientific name of gluteus maximus and sphincter over bussy
Scientific names, love it. Haha
You don’t wanna slide your cock into my cumslot? Or my sperm-chute?
Not even my shitoris? 🤣🤣
Daddy, isn't bloke
Cunt , serving, slay , pussy, bussy, fish
Any of the Meyrs Briggs pseudoscience labels, like INTJ or JNFP or whatever. Makes them look like a TWAT.
It's not that different than astrological signs, or Hogwarts houses. It's so cringe. Meyers-Briggs has been thoroughly debunked since it was invented in the 40s.
These labels, like many new additions to the acronym, are made because people want to feel special and get a sense of belonging.
Yes, girl/gurl. Like don't call me that. You can call me anything else, but don't call me that. It's so fucking annoying and an instant turn off.
R E P U B L I C A N
When straight women call me girl. I’ll decide over time if I’m one of your girls and let you know it’s not up to you.
"Breed".
I'm not farm livestock.
Yes, that's the other one I was forgetting. Hear it so much
Newsflash: we can't get pregnant!
For me is pussy or bussy. I don’t have a reason or maybe because I associate those words with women. So it stands out in my head and I can be turned away off.
Disney Adult
Bussy, boy pussy…..I’m attracted to men and all their parts. Not into that shiz
Queer 😬
Also, most of the body type words (like Twink or Bear) also have stereotypical personalities attached, and it feels like height and genetic predisposition to body hair = destiny, which is just... I dunno. To me it's weirder than actually believing in zodiac signs. Acknowledging that others may see you as an Otter or whatever is well and good, but embracing it as your entire identity just feels kinda reddy flaggy to me. Feels like you don't have enough going on in your life to define yourself by anything more than your body fat percentage.
Yes, I avoid them zodiacs as well.
I mean I think bear type guys are hot, but anyone with a bear paw tattoo or like viking themed bear tattoo is an instant turn off and there are SO MANY.
There's a difference between like a bear-shaped man, and a grown ass adult man with the bear paw tattoo who thinks that "grrr" or "woof" is a valid thing to say to a stranger.
How about... and don't judge me for this, but how about "hello".
That's what trends do. Wait until the next generation of tattoos go out of fashion, they will go the way of the tribal tat, barbed wire, and bear paw.
Both of those for me too, if they want me to call them daddy or want to call me that.. goodbye. Same with “bussy” hearing that word turns me off immediately.
“Daddy” is an enormous turn off
Pussy. I love women…. But I just can’t with the “tid-bits”.
Faghag. I like neither of those words. - Grace Adler.
Cock, stud, stallion, BBC
Labels that disregard the individuality and character of a person and assign a judgement and perspective that is 85 percent assumption based on dearth of knowledge and only 15 percent fact…If you don’t want a label that is often stigmatizing placed on you, don’t ever place one on anyone else because you can miss out on meeting some amazing people if you go by labels…: 🏷️
I dont like being called daddy and I don't get turned on by people that refer to themselves as bears or chubs.
Bussy
Cumdump. Unbelievably derogatory and disrespectful.
I don't like any of those words. I remember one time right in the middle of things, this guy says to me suck it bitch. I stopped, got up, dressed and walked out.
Bussy or boi. Instant ick.
Also saying "girl" or referring to guys as she (the fem guys mostly do this).
Call me a pilgrim…calling a person a “bottom or top” and “dom or sub” is an ick for me. Those are actions not personalities. For me intimacy is a mutual equal balance, but I understand that’s not everyone’s point of view…I just can’t wrap my head around those.
Top and bottom.
Ha Ha. Labels that turn me off? Yep, all designers who insist on us wearing their brand names to do their advertising.
I can totally agree with this. Like a guy calls me daddy, he gets told immediately 💯% turn off! It makes things really weird for me. And the Bussy thing , just call it what it is. To me trying to be creative by inventing new words is just stupid
If they say they're religious, it's an IMMEDIATE turn off.
The phrase superchub was thrown at me the other day. I’m 6’0” and just barely 300lbs. It gave me the ick on multiple levels.
Do you evolve into O M E G A C H U B at some point or do you need to be traded while holding a special item 😂
It’s so weird to see bussy/pussy being a common word people hate when those are the words I mostly hear people say.
Don’t think I ever heard “bussy” before today and I am grateful I had not heard this term before.
I used to hate "Daddy" but I've gotten used to it. Now I get people saying "Hello Sir" which for me sounds even more creepy.
I’m getting increasingly annoyed by ”Queer”
People can call themselves queer all they want, I have no problem with that, but it should not be used as an umbrella term for all LGBTQ+ people.
It’s a term that has political and academic connotations and is increasingly used by people who want to tell others how ”we, as queer people” should think and act.
So gents and probably lady gents. I fucking googled what "side" means and I'll retract the part about being laid on your side. However it's still stupid.
Seriously, y'all really made a term for not wanting to be butt fucked.
Why? What is the actual point of this "sub" class of being gay and I feel like that last part shouldn't even have left my finger tips.
Why the actual fuck do we have so many classes to homosexuals. Just be fucking gay. Tell whomever you're into this extra bullshit on the second date, if you even get that fucking far.
I think most of the gay slang labels turn me off. Now that I think about it, this is probably one reason I don’t socialize with many gay men.
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When tops are talking about rearranging someone‘s guts. Bro, you‘re likely giving yourself more credit than is due.
I got really turned off my this one guy saying "make me pregnant" while I was topping him. I was instantly turned off at that moment which sucked because this guy was hot and he had a great ass. But those words just didn't do it for me and it made it more difficult for me to cum.
Bussy is a huge one. Pussy or boy pussy too. As a trans man especially I hate when cis guys use it. Partly because I have actively had guys get mad at me for “lying” cause they thought I was cis despite me outright telling them what anatomy I had.
But also partly cause it feels slightly misogynistic and homophobic. Like the only guys who use those phrases are bottoms and it’s clear the only reason they are calling it that is because they are bottoms. Just cause a dick goes in it doesn’t automatically make it a pussy, and a pussy is more than just something a dick goes in.
When people list off what they don't want instead of putting what they do want.
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“Queer”. I can’t stand this word and I don’t let people use it around me. It’s an extremely offensive word that still traumatizes many in the community.
Old.
“Daddy” if I’m called that by someone I’m not attracted to.
What turns me off the most is bear. I'm working on losing weight so being called that not helpful.
That must be hard for sure. Congrats on the journey! I have actually never been called that, And i was once 400, years ago.
Thanks it's been more like a long few years journey and only losing a few pounds but I'm trying. Yeah to me it's just the same thing as big is beautiful. If someone said you're big and you're beautiful but you're trying to lose weight it kind of comes off more sad and insulting than helpful.
"Oh my goodness, I use every single word mentioned in this post! Oops! :)"
Fartbox
“Hey there! Mike here. I like playing with Asian guys. Wanna meet up sometime?”
People who refer to their asshole as their,“ Munt” (Man Cunt) or “ Mangina”.
I’m forty so I guess being called daddy comes with the territory. I still think im my head I’m 28 or something, I know it’s just an attitude thing but it’s a reminder of age, and a lot of the ppl that have called me that seem to what some daddy fantasy I can’t really provide