Postpartum + Swimsuits

My husband and I are going to start trying soon, and I have been starting to consider a lot how much my body is going to change.

I've been hearing a lot of "you just wait" statements from coworkers for years, and a lot of that has been really scary. One thing I've heard a lot is that pregnancy "destroys" or "wrecks your body" and "enjoy your life/body/boobs while you can."

Here is the purpose of my post: My husband and I are going on our honeymoon and he wanted to buy me some nice, and somewhat expensive swimsuits (since I always buy cheap ones from Amazon, and he wanted me to have something nice to wear). He loves my fit body and loves when I show it off in a bikini. I told him not to waste his money since everyone has scared the crap out of me, and I would only be able to wear it this summer anyway, since I'm afraid that my "body will be destroyed" thereafter, and I don't think I will be able to fit in them/look good in them ever again. He thinks this is crazy, and that I will be able to wear them again someday.

Can someone maybe share their experience with me? Not saying "did you get your body back" but did people scare you into thinking your body would be wrecked/destroyed? Or were you able to wear some of your pre-baby swimsuits/dresses?

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Upstairs-Ad7424

People tried to scare me about all sorts of things when I was I first married and then pregnant. I would no longer have a fit body, a clean house, a gym routine, or find time to cook healthy meals.

All of the above weren’t true. People love to blame their lack of effort or prioritization on having kids rather than what it really is. The first 6 months were wild but after that things started looking more and more like my life before kids, just with a kid added to the mix. I still work out, my body still looks mostly the same (took over a year to feel this way), my house is just as clean, and I cook the same amount as before.

If you are someone who really prioritizes these things before pregnancy and you are motivated to continue, you can do it.

0011010100110011

Absolutely this. Fitness is really important to my husband and I, and it has been our entire lives, even before we met each other.

My SIL’s friend (who has never really been kind to me in the first place) told us one day while on a group vacation that once you get married and have kids and have a house that things will change.

I got frustrated pretty quickly and told her that people prioritize what is important to them—and reminded her that I already had a son so I was no stranger to kids and fitness balancing.

If watching television or playing on your phone is important to you, it’s what you’re going to do. It’s up to you to choose what’s important.

And truthfully—I was thinner and in better shape after I had my son than before. My body just held weight differently, and it was awesome.

BirdOnRollerskates

This was definitely comforting. Thank you!!

Fluffo_foxo

100% and if it’s something that you valued before and your partner is supportive, they will create time for you to do so postpartum.

StacksOfCupcakes

Ditto this! If it's important to you, you'll make it work. I started counting macros 9 months postpartum and ended up getting well below my pre baby weight by eating healthy and exercising. You will most certainly be able to wear your bikinis again. Enjoy your honeymoon!

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Your post was removed due to our rule against exact weight numbers. Weight gain during pregnancy can vary greatly person to person and we don't want people to try and compare to someone else's journey. Putting your weight gain and loss as a percentage is fine, (ie I lost 25% of what I gained in the first two weeks PP.) Things like 'gained more than expected' or 'I'm aiming to hit my doctor's recommended weight' are also fine.

Please edit or repost without the exact weight numbers.

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Upstairs-Ad7424

Your defensiveness is a you problem, not a me problem. Where did I say anything about boobs changing being anyone’s fault or any of the other nonsense you are extrapolated from my post in this response? I said I prioritized things such as working out before kids and kept doing so after kids and that it’s possible for others to do the same.

I don’t owe you any sort of explanation but I was 35 when I had my first with an emergency c-section that knocked me on my ass, a colicky baby allergic to a dozen things, and had a very difficult 11 month long breastfeeding journey. But that’s not what OP was asking about. She was asking if it’s inevitable that she will have an incredibly different body and I gave her an anecdote that it isn’t. This was someone looking for reassurance not a measurement stick of who had the hardest pregnancy and postpartum. Read the room and chill the f^ck out.

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