My boyfriend is (25M) and Iām a (26F) . So lately my boyfriend this habit of asking me if I showered before seeing him and normally I wouldnāt care but then he says ādid you use soapā or he starts smelling me and touching my down there to smell me. I feel like Iām getting inspected and it makes me feel bad. Now I use feminine washes , drink rose water and take boric acid because he says I smell bad. Once he suggested we should wash eachother in the shower and I thought it was cute but then he tried to wash inside me with a bar soap and I felt so embarrassed. Health wise nothings wrong with me. Doctors say Iām perfectly fine down there. After sex he sometimes tells me āit didnāt smell bad todayā and I know itās a compliment but I donāt feel good about myself after. I literally donāt want to have sex with him sometimes because he just criticizes my body after I ask him not to . I always tell him it bothers me and he just keeps doing it. Am I stupid for wanting to be with someone who puts me down and body shames me ? I also want to add that weāve been together for 5 years and just started saying these things these past 7 months .
. . I just want to add that this is the first partner Iāve had thatās said these things . Iāve had other partners male and female who have told me I taste good and smell good. Also that my boyfriend use to eat me out and even insisted on eating my butt every time even more so, like he would literally stick his whole tongue in my butt. Reading the comments makes me think heās either cheating or trying to make me so insecure that I think no one else would want me.or maybe he is gay because this all started once he got out of jail after doing 8 months..