Can't stand those people that act like they know what's best for us even though they don't personally experience autism
Why do non autistic act like they know everything. Why not listen to autistic people
annoyancesBoth are true, I definitely resonate more with the first. I'm a neurodevelopmental geneticist with Autism, and at a dinner with family friends, one of them asked me about my work. Suddenly mother is an expert on Autism and its biology/behaviour... I have to spend so much time raising my voice, Interrupting her and others just to stop her from adding to the stigma out there, and letting ungrounded toxic avenues of thought spiral... It feels like gaslighting from mothers of Autistic children is not uncommon tbh. It gets tiring having someone who thinks its acceptable to speak over you, and on your "behalf", when someone asks you a direct question, or tell them personal details of your life unprompted. Like no, you're barely literate and can't express coherent/complex, or even emotionalthought to save your life. Why do you, or anyone else in the room believe that you're more qualified to answer a personal or expert question on my life or my profession.
Cause they don’t see us as people, silly :3
silly :3? IM SILLY :333
Satan says it's my turn with the silly :3
NOOO it's my turn :3333
NO IT'S THE SHARKZ TURN:3
takes da silly
Mine >:(
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Seriously though, they dont ask us because they think autism is an intellectual disability and we're all too stupid to know what's good for us.
Yeah, the word “autism” translates to “retarded” to most people and they don’t even notice it. They don’t think we think normal thoughts, and that we hear elevator or daycare music in our heads 24/7 lol
If they could read my mind, they’d find it’s mostly metal and rock, not the elevator or daycare music.
Btw, what even constitutes daycare music?
Like the kinda of chimes you hear in baby scenes in movies and cartoons lol
If it’s some decent elevator music, I wouldn’t mind listening to it.
Cello and piano duets are my jam
There literally is elevator music in my head 24/7. My brain is constantly playing some kind of background music
Shut the fuck up or you’ll expose us all
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All. The. Time. And it's not even an "ear worm", either. I can pick what song is playing. But my brain insists a song must always be playing.
As someone with a sensitivity to noise this really is a living hell 😭
I know right?
how dare you challenge their preconceived ideas /s
Because we cannot under any circumstance advocate for ourselves. Like even now, my assigned maternal handler is typing this because I'm too autistic to function.
The alternative is that you learned how to use sarcasm. 🤔
Ha! I am both autistic and mother of a child with autism. They’ll have to listen to me.
They'd listen to your husband instead, because you're just a silly little lady.
😔truth
Because they infantilize us. I had a manager who used to treat me with respect. When I was forced to disclose my autism due to a meltdown caused by a problematic customer, it was like a switch flipped in her head and she started equating me with children. She even admitted to my advocate that she assumed that I was just trying to find a way to do less work. She no longer respected me despite knowing my work prior to disclosing it. She no longer took me seriously.
I was happy when I was laid off in May 2020 after 2 months of leave due to the city (which owns the establishment I worked in) closing us down temporarily when COVID hit. That time away gave me the clarity to realize just how bad things were and how much stress I was under because of that bitch.
Those mothers are generally empty/narcissistic NTs. They take the children characteristics and transform it into their whole personality and media persona. It's the same with parents of children good in sports or pageant moms. In the case of autism, it can reach levels of Munchausen by proxy. They objectify their offspring to gain social status and it's disgusting.
My mums also autistic (not diagnosed like I am) and she’s always going on about ‘the nerotypicals’ I actually get so mad.
It is easier to sympathize with the moms when you feel having an autistic child is a burden.
THIS IS SO TRUE, When my Mom speaks about me I never get the Chance to say Anything
fr doin too much asf
Exactly!
Water is best straight out of the faucet
It’s just the moms. And the Indians n
Tbh a lot of autistic people also don't know everything. They rail against high and low functioning labels talking about how ~we are all disabled and need help~, if they were actually brought to see someone who is low functioning and asked to magically swap places with them, they wouldn't do it.
i really hate the term autism mom. its incredible sexist and stigmatising.
Idk it you fully understand the term "autism mom" it doesn't refer to a mom who has autism, rather to a specific type of neurotypical mom who has a child with autism and acts like they know everything about autistic experiences because of the fact that they have a kid.
sorry that came off rude. I thank you for trying to help me out thats very kind :) Its just smth that frustrates me about society
i know what it means. :c But its still sexist and so uncool. There are also dads like this and it kinda implies every mom of an autistic is like that. I just find the term very unhelpful and rude.
With a child it's ALWAYS "MOM" which as a woman also greatly anoys me. Its the underlaying connection between mom and child. Mom had to care. Mom hast to do the lions share. mom has to make the child feel good. its never dad in bond with the autistic child.
First of all there are few dads like this. I know COUNTLESS examples of autism mom's and I have never seen ONE autism dad. That's not tryna be sexist I just fr don't see dad's pulling this shit. Second of all while I understand that the term sounds like it implies that. It stems from the fact that the autism mom's usually have Facebook or tiktok pages talking about their kids autism without letting their kid be heard. It's all about THEIR experiences as an "autism" mom. Also for clarity; they invented the term. Not us. They call themselves "autism moms" to drive the attention away from the actual autistic people and speak as if they're the ones who deserve attention.
They do deserve attention :/ They struggle with this too Ofc its 100% not okay to be narceccistic about it, but they also have struggles with the autism of their child and the right to talk about it and try to help persons that interact with autistic people. I dont understand the hate fronts going on here.
(I dont have a child but i am autistic myself)
this toppic isnt black and white and needs to be navigated delicatly xc
Tho i do understand the hate on "me me me parents"
Bro read what i am writing, get your judgemental ass put of the way and start think about it for one second x3
Just report and ignore, not everyone's opinion is worth listening to
Raw sensationalism, a scared media consumer is going to keep reading.
See also:
(Left of frame) Autistic Adult (Right of frame) Autistic Children