I asked T to read a text I had received from a friend. T gave phone back, asked to see it again. I handed it back. Later when I looked for a poem I had wrote all her text to me were gone. I did not do this. I sent an email and stated such and was T afraid I would do something with them? I met again and I could not stop thinking about. I know I did not delete and unsure what to do.
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All your texts with the therapist were deleted? Or the friend?
Therapist
Maybe some kind of privacy concern, but ask.
I did and T denied.
I’m not a therapist and this is completely speculative. I’m someone who struggles a lot with trust issues and I spent a lot of time in the early part of my relationship with my therapist looking for evidence that they either were or were not trustworthy. It was something that I was very sensitive to and part of me felt like it was really very important to decide whether they were completely trustworthy or absolutely not. In retrospect, it was pretty exhausting and not a great use of my time. The reality was that they are someone I was hiring to do a job and help me. I just needed to know whether they were basically professional and capable of telling me if they didn’t think that we were a good fit or that they didn’t feel like they could help me It looks like you have yourself a situation here where you kind of need to decide whether you’re going to trust them or not and that’s completely your call. I’ll just say that it wound up being in my own interest to eventually just decide to trust my therapist because I was wasting too much time and energy trying to figure out if I should.
Of course, if this is a pattern of odd behavior and your gut is still telling you to be careful, always take care of yourself.