Would you allow a baby shower of 10 people? When your listing says no events. (Midwest,US -1)

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I would just say “Unfortunately we cannot accommodate this request”. No need to explain further. They’ll probably ghost or thank you anyway and move on!

Nope, showers are a party. And there is always one person invited who isn’t aware of your rules or doesn’t care and will break them. I learned the hard way very early on when I hosted a “birthday dinner” 6 people turned into 30+ in a one bedroom apartment.

I did not even have to read this. Hell no. And why? GLITTER.

That shit is so hard to get rid of!

Not adhering to your own no parties rule is asking for trouble. There is a reason AirBNB as an org is trying to crack down. It's not worth the $$$$

Even if not noisy, there will be many cars parked on the street. Guarantee one of them will park in the wrong place, or use neighbors driveways to turn around, or otherwise just be irritating as they walk down the street to get back to their cars. Your neighbors are already on high alert given the incident a couple of weeks ago. Don't do it. You do not owe anyone a party. There are a million venues they could have this at -every large restaurant has a small room for this kind of gathering. The city has Park shelters. Someone in this chick's family has a house they could have the party at. Given the many options they have, Why would you further damage your standing in the neighborhood, and impair your neighbors enjoyment of their own homes.

Just say no. No need to ask questions, clarify etc.

Simply restate your policy of no events/parties.

Nope. Event centers and party rooms exist for this purpose.

A person with a new account may not be a good time to waver on your policies. I would stick with the policies in place.

Here's a pro tip, your rules are the rules. If you feel you must say something, keep it to the basics. It is not their business nor does it matter what any other guests did. Just say that you do not allow gatherings or parties but thank you for inquiring. That's it.

If you have a complaint prone neighbor that’s a no. They’d probably be pissed off by the number of cars alone

Your message is overdoing it. "Sorry, we do not allow events at the rental. Thank you for your interest and best wishes to the newborn baby!"

That's it. Done.

My Airbnb only sleeps two but it has a huge private deck with lots of seating and a big BBQ. I often get requests from guests to have a couple people over to enjoy the deck, drink a few beers and BBQ. I am always suspect and ask lots of questions and make it clear only two people should stay the night and it needs to be a quiet get together, not a party. So far we haven't had a problem and people have been respectful with only 2 or 3 extra people showing up for a few hours. Although it helps that my listing is a guest house and I live on the property so I can make sure nothing gets out of hand.

With your situation, it's up to you if you want to accept. If you do I would set clear boundaries, establish a start time and end time and get a firm number of people that will be attending.

I would just say that you cannot accommodate them and that’s it. Don’t ever risk your home and good neighbors over a booking.

Just say no. No need to explain. Nothing good comes from parties at Airbnb’s. There are plenty of more appropriate places for their shower (if that’s what it really is).

Don’t allow it. No events means exactly that, NO EVENTS. If you give an inch they will take a mile.

Hello ____

Thank you so much for your interest in my property, and congratulations on the newest member of your family! Unfortunately, I have a strict no events rule that I am unwilling to negotiate, due to previous breaches. Here is a list of venues in the area that would be very well suited to a baby shower if you would like to stay at my property… I understand if you are looking for a home that will accommodate your shower and I wish you the best finding what you are hoping for!

If it says no events, just don’t let people host events. People will say what you want them To say so that they get the go ahead.

Your draft reply is an equivocating message that tells them you won’t hold them to the rules you yourself set. It’s so wishy-washy that even if you end up saying no, they’ll get the message that you’re a pushover. Just say no. Or sorry, no.

That's too much explaining and apologizing.

Keep your message simple - "I'm sorry, my listing is not set up to accommodate such an event. Best of luck finding a suitable location!"

They don't need a whole backstory because #1, they don't care and #2, they'll try to manipulate you with a compelling argument about being "sooooo different" than the last people.

WARNIG - RED FLAG - SCAM ALERT - DON’T DO IT. You have no idea if this is going to be a baby shower or not. - New Account - NOPE NO WAY.

This is an extreme case, but house here was being rented. It was a new account and the family needed to escape the smoke from a wild fire. Guest sated it would be a family of 5. The day of the rental my high school age daughter and all of her friend were given a flyer about a huge party at the house, $25. to attend. Daughter and her friends knew better. Party started and there were over 250 kids at the place and within 45 minutes 6 people were shot and killed. This is the event which forced Airbnb to add the No Events check box. Sadly this story was nearly repeated next city over with 2 brothers being shot and killed.

Not saying this will happen, but this is the kind of stuff that has happened. Look through previous posts in this /subreddit and you will find many posts from hosts who had there property trashed. On the other hand they might not trash the place. re you going to take the risk. I would not. Just not worth the risk.

There are separate websites for this kind of rental. Is say no and not feel bad about it. They can look there

If they claim it’s a baby shower it’s probably a bachelorette party

Serious question:

Not sure how big your place is, but, my extended family and I (23 people) rented a 12 bedroom place near Orlando for a week. Listing says no parties. My three-year-old’s birthday happened to be the second day we were there. We had a party with lots of food, cake and balloons, and NO additional guests. We left the house very clean and nothing was damaged the entire time we were there. So, as owners, would you say we violated the rules? (This is a serious question, please be kind!)

No is a full sentence

A brand new guest who only created the profile so they can run a place and have an event. So you can't even hurt them with a negative review because they're probably never going to use it again which means they won't be on their best behavior! Don't take the chance

No events means no events.

Believe me, you’re going to have many “it’s my daughter’s birthday.” It’s almost always a daughter’s birthday when someone is asking for something you don’t offer.

Hard no. Someone is going to bring that candy bar/diaper game and you will get chocolate on your couch. Another person will drop cake on your rug. Everything will be sticky with whatever punch they bring. Got forbid they do a gender reveal in the back yard and you have pastel paper all over.

I’d say no, mostly to keep peace with your neighbors

No events means no events no showers no dinners nothing that can get out of hand. People just won’t respect another’s property it seems and with your recent bad experience it’s a easy no we are not a good fit to this request n

No - people who ask you to bend the rules are never grateful for it. Stick by your rules. No events. No exceptions. We have allowed two small events in the past at 'no event' properties. One was a baby shower. Both tried to leave low reviews and sent over 60 messages in a weekend. They were a nightmare and all because they are too cheap to just go to a restaurant or small venue, or they don't want the mess at their house. My advice is absolutely not.

All you need to say is "As you can see in my listing we do not allow parties or events, I am so sorry but we cannot accommodate your request." They read it plain as day, they should already be aware...and they felt the need to ask anyway!

No, just say no. I’ve been to some wild baby showers.

No. Tell them to find a place that allows events.

So events. No parties. Quiet building. You don’t owe them a huge explanation. Just say, we have chosen to not allow events or parties “. Make sure you have posted House Rules, and make that restriction prominent.

No events means no events. Stick with your rules. These things can end up carnage.

Just say no!

This is a no. New account created to have a party? And you’re actually considering it?? Wild.

Trust your instincts. Your peace of mind is far more important than your rental fees.

Risking pissing off the neighbors again could get ugly…not worth it.

NTA at all.

Yeah, it’s probably going to be more than 10. I would just say no and not offer any justification as that seems to invite pushback… but, but, but…

Just say no

As it says in the listing “ no events “

Hell no.

Even daytime events as (hopefully) sedate as a baby shower can cause problems. Like parking. Is there enough available (on street or otherwise) so that guests aren't blocking neighbors' driveways or rutting up your lawn? And glitter.

I think you chose to to specify "no events" for good reasons when you created your listing, and those reasons still apply to a shower.

You are clearly inexperienced in the hospitality business.

Don't do it

Nope not worth the chance of a noise complaint- or worse….

No events period, that’s all you need to say

Here’s my edit of your draft: “No.”

I have a question. Can the house require a deposit andcreate a fee schedule for violations which come out of that deposit? For example, if they want to have a small bany shower which is just a few hours long during the afternoon and they stick to the agreement within reason and there is no damage, then the guests gets the deposit back, but if they have more than x guests it will cost an additional $50 per person; or if it continues after a specified time of night it costs $150; if the event causes unusual mess or damage it costs $X.

In know some hosts will take advantage in this scenario to try to keep the deposit, but airbnb could set reasonable parameters to make this work.

No, a baby shower is an event. you have your rules and they can rent another location

Had a friend host a gender reveal party and everyone ended up rip roaring drunk except mom to be

All they are going to hear/see is blah, blah, blah! Just simply state that the answer is no! Going on and on and on…see what I mean?

No. My guess is that they are lying to use that as an excuse to throw a party.

How will this affect your neighbors? It will be more than 10 people.

You can say something due to contractual obligation and AirBNB policy for this property, owners cannot approve this request. Just make it impersonal and like you are just managing the account.

You owe them no explanation and definitely don’t mention anything about other guest to another potential guest that is trying to book -just too much information. Go by what your listing says the house will accommodate for people-don’t change your house rules.

We turned down a booking like this and so glad we did-even tho there is an nice sized backyard there is only one bathroom for a 2 bedroom home to accommodate 4 people total-they wanted to have a 10’person baby shower-middle of the day also-small town, so all host know each other. The people we tuned down booked another house, did not mention having a baby shower and threw it anyway-25 people showed up at that house, left the house and yard a mess-

I know it’s tempting to accept any booking that comes your way but weeding out potential problem guests will help you find the right guests for your home

You could say no and suggest a nearby restaurant that has a large enough seating area for 10 people. I like when hosts suggest spots in the area.

Don’t over explain. Just say no.  This advice goes to everyone who wants to say no to something. 

No events is a complete sentence. No need to explain

No events mean no events. Maybe, if you think it appropriate, add something like,

*... Including but NOT LIMITED to wedding showers, baby showers, gender reveals, holiday celebrations."

I’ve never been to a bridal shower with just ten people.

Just say no. You don't owe them an explanation.

I'd tell them you could accept the stay and offer some other locations better suited for a baby shower.

No

No

Will this be a problem with your insurance? What if someone gets hurts? Are there city/county ordinances that would make this legally problematic?

"Sorry, but no events are allowed."

It’s not worth the risk that more people show up and they break something, annoy your neighbors in some way (e.g. noise, taking up all the on-street parking, etc.), or the very existence of the party invites heavy future scrutiny from your neighbors.

And baby showers are now off the hook instagram tik tok events

Feel it out and charge extra if you proceed.

How many does your house sleep? That is the max allowed in the space. Full stop. If it can accommodate 10 guests, give them hard rules... You have a 4 car max. No dj/ Sound System Absolutely NO GLITTER OR CONFETTI If outside, please keep noise to a minimum

Baby showers and wedding showers have often been hosted in our larger units. It works out fine for us, but we do definitely communicate strict rules in advance.

I might in my place that is well-suited for something like that, 10 is fairly small and baby showers tend to be more tame than other types of parties. If I had pesky neighbors I would certainly pass. And I would allow it at either of my smaller places, they simply aren’t set up for parking 10 cars.

Say yes! Do ittttttt

Your call. If they are asking in advance that’s a good sign.

We allowed it at our place but other than the tv, you couldn’t hurt the place. We held lots of baby showers when we lived there.

Maybe you should stop being greedy and stick to your own rules. The avarice inhabiting your entire being has apparently made you decide that it's worth taking the risk, so why don't you work on that first?

A baby shower is a pretty tame event. I’d take it after asking some follow up questions about the event and stressing your stance on not accommodating parties.

As a guest only, I understand. But someone listing for the first time as an airbnb individual, with no host ratings, I would tell them you are sorry but no.

I had something similar happen, and alerted my host and they said okay and then we didn't do it, but they sent a drone over. It was horrible. Literally had cake and a total of 5 folks, with two staying in the unit.

Needless to say, it was a horrible experience and drove us back to hotels.

I would ask the questions! It’s turning down good money. My baby shower was super tame as were my friends. Usually just your good girl friends or family getting together. Can’t drink so🤣