TW for CSA,description of r*pe and flashbacks * * * * * * * * * * When my dad would sexually assault me as a child, I experienced excruciating pain in my lower abdomen. It felt like my insides were being ripped apart. Like he was going to burst through my stomach.
I (29f) have always had really painful periods. Sometimes OTC pain meds don’t even touch the pain. I find them really triggering. The pain feels similar to what I experienced during the assaults. Also, sometimes I would bleed after he would assault me, so seeing the blood during my period is also really difficult. Sometimes I wouldn’t even remember being assaulted, but I would feel pain and see blood and just get this sinking feeling of dread.
This weekend was especially bad. The pain was terrible. I felt like I couldn’t get out of bed and I was having the most horrible constant flashbacks. I could feel his weight on top of me, his breath on my neck. Smell his sweat. Feel him inside me. I was flooded with memories and it took my breath away. I was panicking. The flashbacks were so vivid and seemed so real.
I feel a little crazy. For those of you who have periods, do you experience anything similar?
I know I could go on birth control, but I’m terrified to go to the doctor.
if you have never been to a obgyn, I highly recommend it for you.
there might be other reasons that give you this much pain including endometriosis, poc, cysts, scar tissue and so much more.
you definitely can talk to the doctor and tell them what happened. during the first visit, they don't have to do anything like a pap smear or vaginal exam. you can just talk and get recommendations.
then next time you go, you can get the exam done and the doctor can tell you what exactly is wrong.
I know obgyn appointments can be very triggering.
I personally have found a very kind female doctor who is very careful. she always respects my boundaries, listens to my feedback and also wrote me a doctor's note when the pain was too much to work.