My apologies if this seems disjointed, I know diagnosis is against the rules, I'm just trying to find the right words to describe these behaviors.

What is it called when your partner:

  • consistently dismisses your feelings and needs but demands theirs be protected and met at all times

-Demands their needs be met, but doesn't communicate those needs until it's "too late."

-Makes everything about them "okay I get youre sad, but imagine how this is making me feel"

-Constantly accuses you of triggering them and expects you to fix it, but basically says "you're on your own" when they trigger you and then makes it about them

-"I broke up with you cause I didn't want to keep feeling guilty about hurting you" but never actually apologized for the hurting