Was my period really not a big deal?

I (f,15) have had complications with my period bcs of stress (googled after not getting my period for 2 months) . Today I finally got my period and I was/am in alot of pain since my cramps are usually extremely painfull. When I was laying in my bed with music and in pain, my mother(F,60) started yelling at me for not helping her clean. I told her that I'm in alot of pain bcs of my period and for her to please leave me alone. She then proceeded to take my tablet (where the music was playing) and said "turn this English shit off" (we're Arabs) then I started to cry bcs I had to move and the pain was so overwhelming that I couldn't help but cry. She said that I'm spoiled and my cramps aren't even a big deal. Then she started shaming me for "making my period an excuse for everything" and said that I'm dirty and disgusting bcs my period had a smell. My mother never taught me anything about the female body, I learned everything through Tik tok. Is it normal that my period smells? And are the pains I'm having actually from my period or did I eat something wrong?? And is it normal for my period to have a dark color?? (Usually it's bright red) I'm really lost and I need help!

Update: this exact moment she just told me to hold my period in next time. I told her that it's not possible since it's not pee that I can just hold in, and that I don't know when my period comes so there's no way to prepare. She then called me stupid for not understanding that i should be more careful next time. And then she walked away...

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mmineso

4mo

Your mom is cruel. For whatever reason it is, if you feel sick, she should believe you and help you to recover from your sickness. She is not doing her job.

Try to save as much money as possible until you can build your fund. Financial independence is essential for children of abusive parents. Read much about it, not just from TikTok but from the library or Google. Find ways to earn money that your parents cannot touch if possible.

Please read more about the female body wherever you can. There are books about it in the library. To help yourself to take care of your body, since your mom is not doing her job.

There are many options to manage period blood, including diva cups and other methods. Google them and find out what could be good. It is a personal preference, but I found the Diva cup to be very money-saving and also better for the body because some cheap period pads are bad for your health. There are many brands of them as well. You buy only once and reuse them so it is very economical. I bought my first one and it was not comfortable but it worked, but later I found a different brand one and that is very comfortable.

Other things about managing period pain can be found online as well, but most of all drink a lot of clean, warm water. That is good for your health anyway.

Please take care of yourself even if your mom doesn't. Protect yourself and know that you are precious.

Suspicious_Gur_6636

4mo

Thank you so much for your kind and loving words, I really appreciate it! I will definitely look into using other methods than pads! As mentioned in another comment of mine. I will be moving out by 18 with the help of my father, since he said my grandma has a will for me to fund my college once I grow up. So I will be using that will to live on my own, in a different country!