Need an opinion on this if it was your only grand child and your grandchild lived at the other maternal grandparents house with there mum would you go to there house to visit your grand child still? My daughters paternal grandmother refuses to ever come anywhere near this house to visit her only grandchild which apparently she waited a lifetime for
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A lot of people don’t feel comfortable going to someone else’s house. The paternal grandparents aren’t unusual with that. If it was your house and your parents lived with you, it may be different but it’s your parent’s house. Do your parents leave you alone to visit with the paternal grandparents or are they in the same room too?
Do you have a close friend/sibling living with their in-laws, how comfortable would you feel visiting them with the in-laws being present with every conversation you have with your friend/sibling or would you like some alone time?
My sister lived with my parents when she was married and had three kids. She did this for 12 months as they were building their house at the time. She said she was surprised at how hardly anyone came to stay when she was there and visits dropped off from siblings. I still visited regularly but was the only one. When I talked to one of my other siblings they said they wanted one on one time with our parents not be sharing time with some who lived there and got time with them regularly.
I can see why your paternal grandparents may feel like how do we get to know our grandchild who will choose her grandparents they see all the time (because that is who they are most comfortable with).
If you want this to improve then organise your parents to go out so the paternal grandparents get that one on one time with your child. If they still don’t come, then it’s an excuse but if they do then perhaps there was another thing underpinning why they aren’t coming, that can be rectified.