I need to make some new friends. My old friends no longer live close to me, most have kids and are married. I’m living that stunted growth lifestyle. I’ll probably never have kids or do all the traditional in your 40s stuff, beyond back pain.
How is it done? Suggestions?
I know common one are volunteer and meetup groups. I’ve been aware of meetup groups for 15 years and it’s never felt like a comfortable idea. Shared hobbies? I make music, walk, read, learn, take photos - alone. My activities with friends is traditionally sitting on a porch talking. Volunteer sounds good but I don’t know where to start. I also have the impression a lot of volunteers are older retired people.
I go to concerts and chat with people but nothing sticks there. I don’t drink or smoke anymore. Not drinking doesn’t help. Office / work friendships are not what they used to be.
Anyways that’s pretty whiny but just some context. I don’t know how to make friends.
My friends have largely become assholes who compulsively talk about politics, whether they understand the actual substance or not.
At your age, you’re probably going to have your best luck at some sort of volunteer activity or a class of some sort. You’ll have to be open to your friends being much older or much younger but hey, Benjamin Franklin hated hanging out with people his age.