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Actually, a Vietnam woman wouldn't introduce a man as her boyfriend to her family if you guys haven't been in a serious relationship for a long time :)))
When I invite a man to meet my parents, it means I'm ready to get married with him. It's just my own point of view but I don't think she falls in love with you just after the first date in a cafe without kissing or holding hands.
This. I've never heard of any women in South East Asia who aren't careful in presenting the courtship to their family. She would be devaluing herself if there was any sense of the courtship being rushed and arbitrary.
Formality and romance is held in way higher respect in most South East Asian countries. If a girl is being pushed into freelancing or bar work to bring money in for her family, she might attempt to latch onto a foreigner first to keep her sense of self-worth high, but her desperation and the family's eagerness would usually be noticeable.
The only other possibility that comes to my mind is a young woman who has already been sexually active since her early teenage years with the parents fully involved – which seems to happen. In that case, she may have debts, she might have boyfriends, she might be considered the property of an organization who the family owes money to.
I think being suspicious of any eagerness is fair. Age gap is meaningless though. She may simply be hot for an attractive foreigner who looks wealthy and acts respectfully in her presence. Maybe this guy is a mature hunk or ageless pretty boy lol
Rather cynical answer but all good advice...beter than my two cents which would've been: think with your head and not with your dick.
Not cynical at all. I'm not doubting the potential for there being no motive more than she's just into the guy and eager and this is all very normal to everyone. Cynicism thrives on projecting motives onto people and oversimplifying their behaviors, and I honestly don't think its easy to understand people – especially girls! Cynicism is a naive worldview. Motives are not as easy to unpack as people like to think when they're teenagers.