My SO and I went to a concert last night. We were having a great time waiting for the performer to come on stage. My SO looked over and saw a girl walk by that apparently had really tight jeans on and her thong print was showing. He turned to me and said “Why don’t you wear stuff like that?”
I gave him a weird look and asked why he was staring at her ass in the first place. I didn’t know how else to reply to that. The conversation ended there and since then I’ve just felt really gross about the whole situation.
Also to add I’m 7 months pregnant with our second child so my body has changed a lot and I don’t feel good about myself here lately. I feel like I missed an opportunity to tell him how that comment made me feel since it happened last night and the situation has passed.
In fact, later, once you’ve had a chance to think about why exactly it made you feel uncomfortable, is a better time to talk. In the moment at the concert would have been difficult.
You could say, “I’ve been thinking about the comment you made about the woman in tight jeans and visible thong line, and why it bothered me so much at the time. I’d like you to just listen and hear me out so you can understand how I’m feeling right now.”
And outline what you said in your post, about not feeling great about your body, and whatever else is bothering you (looking at other women, implying that the way you dress should be sexier in general, and so on).
“So you may think it’s just a casual comment, but it really hit me hard.”
And see if he gets defensive or apologizes.