I'll start by saying I'm not asian, but on a purely genetic level, I'm technically half. I kind of look it because my mum is ethnically, but due to where I was raised I have zero connection with any asian cultures and don't speak any asian languages. (Just like I have zero connection with my "European" dad's ancestral culture or language.)
However, 3 out of 6 men I've dated admit they prefer asian women and have a history of majority asian looking girlfriends. (None of these men live in Asia so they would have to actively seek out these women.)
None of them have truly fetishised me to the extent of expecting me to behave in particular ways, to be fair.
However, I find it humiliating and sickening knowing that when I meet their mates I'm just another "asian" in a line of many.
I struggle with feeling creeped out even when I know it's more aesthetic preference than true fetish.
Am I overreacting? How do I stop finding it creepy? Can I learn to accept it? Is this just about my ego? Are they entitled to have racially specific aesthetic preferences?
“Why does he like you?” is the question you need to get answers to.
“Insert Asian characteristics here” or anything specifically about you? If latter - sure, if former hell no. Not because of race or whatever but because “I” don’t exist there.
At least personally that is what I would do.
Everybody is entitled to having their preferences. That doesn’t mean you have to “provide it” so to speak. And you are also entitled to feeling creeped out by someone fetishising billions of people.