Today I found out that my husbands passport is expired and we leave in less than 24 hours

….. it’s his passport. Some of the blame can be put on him.

12,000 to Cancun? Did you buy Mexico?

OP is not interested in any helpful advice.

you go ahead. He switches just his flight and gets to a 24 hour passport expediter, and joins you a day later.

There are things you can do that people have suggested but it doesn’t seem like you want anyone’s help and you just want to waste your money.

Your last few lines in your edit is very concerning. He’s an adult . HE should have checked and made sure his passport was valid. You apologizing and asking people not to blame him is a red flag . Is he blaming you? Is he angry at you? Does this happen a lot?

No its your husband fault. He is big boy he should be able to keep up with his own passport.

You can get emergency passports in some countries but it’s a whole thing.

Who doesn’t check their passport before they travel? I would totally go solo.

Enjoy your solo trip?

if you're in the US you can find a 24 hour passport office. If you have travel booked they'll give it to you.

Can'tcun

It was YOUR HUSBAND'S passport and, therefore, HIS JOB to check that it was good, not yours. He's a grown man, not your child.

In reference to your final edit: Your husband is an adult and it is HIS passport It is absolutely his fault and not yours. On top of that you are going through a lot with the health of your aunt, a good partner would pick up some of the slack and not leave you to everything.

I get that you're concerned to travel to a different country alone and I understand that, but Cancun is incredibly easy to navigate and safe if you follow your existing hired transportation and resort plans. He can join you after his adventure in Dallas or Houston or wherever has an appointment. And you will have a funny story to tell. Your vacation isn't ruined yet.  Plus you can go to the spa and get nice and pampered while you wait for him.   

 Edit:  https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/contact-us/passports.html    This is the site to go to. Make an appointment online. He can catch a flight to whatever location has an opening tomorrow. He brings all his stuff with him and then flies from there to Cancun when he's done. If he has to get a room for a night, well, an extra flight and a hotel room is less than $12k. 

next time I will definitely double check his passport. It is my fault. Only my fault. I’m the one who should’ve looked at his passport sooner.

This is just pathetic.

It’s your husbands passport

You’re taking the blame, but it’s not your passport

Passports belong to the person its for, and that’s the person responsible unless you’re a kid

Is your husband a kid? Don’t think that’s legal OP

Why are you taking the blame for this? Is your husband a child who is incapable of managing his own affairs? This situation is entirely his fault.

Well, I hope you both learned something.

Why are you saying don't blame your husband, he's a fucking adult lmao

Going to Dallas from the Austin area is like 3 hours? Just instead of going to the flight with you, he just needs to wake up at like 4 am or and rush to the office to get there as early as possible or he could leave tonight and book a hotel in Dallas. From there, if he's able to get an expedited passport, he can fly from DFW airport. He'd probably just miss out on 1 day of the trip but surely this would be better than canceling the whole thing.

It actually isn't your fault OP, it IS your husbands fault. I read your edit that says the blame falls completely on you and not him, but you are his wife, not his mother. Does he really need you to take on the mental load for absolutely everything so he can take zero responsibility for his own passport? If he is berating you over this, something HE should have been on top of, not you, then you have bigger issues than missing this holiday over HIS carelessness. He should be extremely apologetic for you missing out, not the other way around.

I’d go alone. 🤣. I’m that level of petty.

I don't get the final edit, was that supposed to be a sarcasm or?

There are places such as Boston that you can get one the same day. I went at 8a and got it by 3p. This would allow him to push his flight one day and still Come.

Not sure if the other places that have this service but you can google it.

I can hardly think of somewhere easier to travel internationally solo than Cancun, just go ahead

Every part of this is ridiculous. The price you paid, not checking your passports, giving your in-laws the trip… just.. what? 🤦🏻‍♀️

Drive to Austin and get it. According to Google Maps it is a three hour drive. That will save your vacation. And next time check the dates!

How the fuck is this your fault and not your husbands when it’s HIS passport?

His passport, his fault.

Just go by yourself. It’s Mexico, not Afghanistan.

your ADULT husband should've checked his passport before you guys even booked the trip..

I'm sorry did you say the week in Cancun will cost $12,000 or was that an exaggeration? Btw did your inlaws reimburse you the full amount?

Literally not your fault.

He is an ADULT!

Stop babying grown people!

To your final edit: your husband is a grown ass man who can also look at his passport. It’s also his fault.

I literally have nightmares about this.

Oh well. Looks like you will miss out

Had a similar incident with my husband. I took the kids to Thailand by myself and he came a few days later after he got (a very expensive) express passport.
Is there a reason you wont travel alone? It's quite empowering to realise you can do these things on your own.

OP your husband is responsible HIS passport. It is responsibility if he is blind and you needed to check it for that reason

and next time I will definitely double check his passport. It is my fault.

No it's not your fault. Your husband is an adult and should know to check his own passport. You are his wife, not his parent.

Damn two supposed grown ups and no one made sure his passport wouldn’t be expired for the trip? Damn. Bunch of dummies, suitable for each other 😂

Also why did you have to be the sole person to look at his passport sooner? Your husband is that much an idiot? Can he wipe his own ass also, or do you have to do that too? 🤦‍♂️

Just go by yourself. He is an idiot not checking before.

“Don’t blame anything on my husband”? Is he mentally delayed or otherwise just incapable of making sure his passport and other documents are up to date? This is a grown man you married, correct? I think it’s fair you both share blame for this, maybe you even less so because with all that going on with your aunt you definitely had more important things to be concerned about and husband should’ve been picking up the slack to help you.

The Philadelphia Passport Agency (and other locations) will issue a same-day expedited passport for a $60 fee. This happened to me in 2015, but the website says they still offer it. They no longer accept walk-ins according to their website, but you could try to make an appointment. They have multiple locations across the country according to the map on the link below. My dog chewed my passport the night before my trip to Cancun 9 years ago. The passport office opened at 8am. I filled out the paperwork and applied for an expedited passport. I picked up the passport at noon that same day, and caught a flight at 3:30. Luckily I could walk-in back then, but your husband still may be able to get an appointment for same day in your area. Good luck! https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/passports/get-fast/passport-agencies.html

Question....why is it only your fault? Your husband is an adult who can check his own stuff also.

Info: why isn’t your husband responsible for his own passport? Why wouldn’t it be his fault?

 It is my fault. Only my fault. I’m the one who should’ve looked at his passport sooner. Please don’t blame anything on My Husband

Excuse me ma'am, but why is your *husband's* expired passport you fault? He's not your kid, he's a whole ass grown ass man that needs to take care of this sort of thing

The way you’re blaming yourself for his passport responsibilities tells me you’re quite used to taking the blame for worse things and that your husband lacks any and all accountability in your relationship. Ask me how I know.

Just know that he doesn’t have to hit you for it to be abuse.

It is my fault. Only my fault. I’m the one who should’ve looked at his passport sooner. Please don’t blame anything on My Husband .

? Are you in an abusive relationship? This is a bizarre reaction to something that was obviously his fault.

My coworkers wife was —- as they both agreed since he travels for work frequently—- responsible for renewing their son’s passport before their family vacation. He reminded her several times and it was always “stop nagging me”. She waited too long and it didn’t come in time. Anyway travel insurance doesn’t cover being an idiot, so they and their daughter had to go without him and he stayed with his grandparents. He was so pissed at her. He planned the entire vacation and the passport was the only thing she had to do.

Why is this only your fault? It’s his passport. Why didn’t he check it? Do you often take the blame for not doing things for a grown man who is perfectly capable of doing them himself or does he often make you believe things like this are your fault instead of his?

passport slassport. 12k for a trip to cancun is the real blunder here. cancel the whole thing and cut your losses.

I’m stuck on your final edit.

‘It is my fault. Only my fault.’

OP, this is NOT your fault. The blame here lies solely on him. He is a grown adult that can read/write & understand timeline expiries.

Your last edit that it's only your fault and not your husband's, is absolutely ridiculous. It is your husband's passport.He should have a better idea of one of expires than you do if you did not get them together.

Well it looks like this was a very expensive mistake that could have been easily avoided.

imagine being your husbands slave 💀 what a horrible way to live

Why is it your fault that your husband let his passport expire? I honestly want to know? He’s an adult and should be responsible for his own documents.

Did you pay $12000 for a trip and not shell out for cancellation insurance (or any insurance for that matter)?

Regarding your last edit: why would it be YOUR fault and not your husband's that HIS passport expired? Okay, you were packing the bags, but that doesn't mean Dear Husband has handed you his last braincell with the suitcase lock. He's a grown man, ultimately it's his responsibility

This whole thing is sus

You live in TX, bordering Mexico - and your trip TO Mexico will run you 12 grand??? Where the hell are you staying?

And your husband “won’t let” you “travel alone for a day” because you “might get kidnapped on the black market”??? What?

This post cannot be real

That comma in your first edit startled me.

Where do you live?

How is it your fault for not double checking your husbands passport? He is old enough to check this himself, as it is his own legal document, not yours. What if he had to take an overseas trip for work? Please don't be hard on yourself, especially owing to your circumstances.

I would be so freaking mad at him. He should feel terrible for this. It's his fault and there's no excuse. He needs to grow up.

How’s it your fault he’s a grown ass man and you’re not his mother to check his passport 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️.

It’s your husbands fault. Not yours. He’s a grown man

First rule of booking holiday/flights - check the passports BEFORE you book anything!! How the hell has this happened?! Who the hell books stuff, doesn’t look at the passports once if they’re within the date and then moan that they have lost money?!

It’s surprising how common sense is not really common 

You’re married to a child you should’ve gone yourself. Why should you have checked his passport? Are you his mother?

It is my fault. Only my fault. I’m the one who should’ve looked at his passport sooner. Please don’t blame anything on My Husband

My sister in Christ, do not do this to yourself.

It’s not your fault. It’s your husbands. Some women need to stop babying men.

1. Why does OP think it's all her fault?
2. The husband is being ridiculous, can't travel one single day by herself?

"It's my fault, only mine. Don't blame him"

Are you hearing yourself?

This is odd. Several years ago, we tried to book ticket to Iceland. My wife told me to get the passports to enter when booking the flight (it forced us to enter the hotel passport numbers). It we then that we noticed that the passport would run out before the trip. Because of this, we never booked the flight to Iceland (which was good, because a week later the airline WOW declared bankruptcy).

Update please on if you were able to change people for the flights.

How is his passport your fault? He is a grown ass man and capable of checking things himself.

That’s not your fault and only your fault, it’s his too.

Oh yeah...it is your fault for babying this grown ass man!!!!! That's for sure!

But it is HIS fault for not checking HIS documents. WTF would that be your fault. Good Lord, women today give women a bad name with this infantizing of grown adult men.

It's his passport, not yours. His responsibility 100%.

Why do you keep blaming yourself? It’s not your responsibility to check your husband’s passport. This is entirely your husband’s fault.

HIs passport, his responsibility. No?

Fourth edit: Wish I never clicked on this post. 

Looked at her post history and she’s ranting about her aunt being a terrible person

I just want to say, his passport is not your responsibility. I’m not ‘blaming’ him, I am putting the responsibility where it lies. It is his official document, and he should be the one to be keeping on top of it.

Yeah no, make him be a big boy and be responsible for his own shiz. He already has a mother. Would you be at fault if he drove on an expired license? It’s silly to blame yourself regardless of whether you planned the trip or not.

As someone who travels keeping your passport up to date is just part of the top 10 essentials in life.

The final edit is kind of depressing. I wonder what she's being told by him. Probably that it's her fault

Who the fuck pays that to go to Mexico?🥴

I don't blame you for not wanting to travel solo, but unless your husband is a child or you're his carer because he isn't mentally competent than it is not solely your fault that his passport wasn't renewed before it expired. If he's a competent adult, then he needs to admit that it was his responsibility to check his own passport to make sure it would be valid for the whole trip. That's basic trip planning.

Bruh put on your big girl panties and go alone Jesus

Getting kidnapped and sold? How does this guy have so much anxiety over this and not know his passport is expired?

I think he let it expire on purpose…

If you are in the US you will have to travel to a passport center and get a passport. I have done it (twice) and can help. DM if you have not figured it out.

https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/passports/get-fast.html

Edit: It doesn't make any sense; you totally could have handled this.

I will definitely double check his passport. It is my fault. Only my fault. I’m the one who should’ve looked at his passport sooner.

What?? It's not your passport, it's his passport, his job.

Don't let him force the blame for his mistake on you.

Why are you making excuses for your husband? He’s an adult and should know to check his passport. This is a 100 percent on him and not you.

Still trying to understand why you threw yourself under the bus. Your husband’s passport, so it’s your fault?

Is your husband a toddler?

Also worth noting that many countries, including Mexico, actually require 6 months of validity left on your passport to enter the country. So if your passport expired anytime before October 2024, you still wouldn’t be allowed to board your flight. (some countries only need 1 or 3 months of validity, but the point stands — you actually need to renew well before expiry).