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I would have hit her with another thumbs up to really get her blood boiling.
I was itching to do it. I was honestly afraid of finding a horse head in my bed. It seemed so out of the blue.
Or you could respond with "K"
K 👍
I love that you asked for a recommendation for a therapist that assists with text messaging 😂
I would’ve to her texts with “💯👏🏾”specifically in response to the one where she says “I’m not normal” lol
God damnit man, it’s already lost just double down on the thumb
Thumbs up always seems sarcastic and disrespectful every time it gets sent to me. It’s not good to use especially in this situation before you know the person. That being said, she wildly overreacted and revealed she’s a nutjob, so happy ending. But i wouldn’t do it in the future because I wouldn’t want to risk a misunderstanding with a good match.
👍
👍🏻
👍
👍🏻
👍
👍🏼👍👍🏻
And a second one for good measure 👍🏼👍🏼
👌
It’s a crazy person, helping you identify they’re crazy. Delete number and move along (with caution)
Yeah this chick is fucking unhinged. That's bordering on restraining order level of crazy.
But how hot is she?
Not worth it.
But maybe OP can fix her 🤷♂️
Have we checked the hot/crazy scale?
Is there hot/crazy sub out there,
Proceed with C A U T I O N
Probably as crazy as getting named Ashleigh instead of Ashley
The initial message of “good morning. This is Ashleigh from Tinder” told me all I needed to know
I’ve seen multiple videos/posts from younger people that think the thumbs up emoji is rude. Like you’re being dismissive. I always just thought it meant ok. But for many, nope. And apparently “ok” is rude too.
I had to relearn this. I'm 24 and until several years ago, anyone I texted with never sent a thumbs up as an acknowledgement, it was mostly to be dismissive or petty, same with "ok". But since then I've met people (friends, colleagues etc.) who genuinely use it as acknowledgement. At first it'd annoy me a little, but I just kept it to myself. After a while I realized they mean nothing bad by it, and that it was me being unreasonable, so I stopped caring. Plus, obviously I was past the usual high school pettiness so even if they did mean something bad it's like who cares?
However, and big distinction here, at no point did I lose my shit and start recommending therapy to them. Ultimately I think it just shows she's immature.
Yeah I think this person is unhinged, but I also get that some people find the thumbs up emoji rude when sent as a reply without any text. Weirdly the thumbs up “reaction” where you do it on a text itself doesn’t feel rude.
"K" if you really want to see how angry they can get
Yeah I am in the boat that a thumbs up can definitely be considered rude many times depending on context, but I've never found OK to be toxic. However, a well placed k can be straight up warfare. It's so passive aggressive during a text exchange that is starting to get heated. I use it all the time to display my displeasure.
So wait. When people are just leaving a thumbs up on my text, that is rude? Oh damn… I have a lot of people to go fight now
It depends on how old they are. Boomers, Gen-x, and older millennials use it sincerely. Gen z and younger use it almost exclusively sarcastically/dismissively.
Geriatric millennial checking in. This is completely news to me. How on earth is a thumbs up rude?
This gif should explain it
Any time I see a reply that is a single thumbs up emoji, this is what I instantly think of
How about a double 👍👍. It’s like shorthand. If I’m texting back and forth I sometimes react to the text itself.
We do this all the time in chat at work to confirm something. Ages range from 30s-40s. Nobody finds it rude and you'd think it being a professional setting if anyone wouldnit would be us.
Yeah, like ending a sentence with a full stop is passive aggressive or something. Especially after ‘OK’. I’m getting old.
She says she's 34. She's millennial and grew up with a thumbs up meaning acknowledgement. Thumbs up being flippant is a Gen Z thing, and I'm not sure I fully believe it. I use it all the time, including with Gen Z people and they haven't seem to misinterpret it.
Yeah I’d rather someone tell me to go kill myself than send me a thumbs up emoji.
I saw first two slides and thought I was missing something because she seemed cordial, then I saw the third slide was like "OHHHHHHHH". Yeah dude she's nuts.
Same here. I thought that I missed you texting these emojis, 🔥🍆🍑💦💦💦💦.
Honestly, if you really want to get under her skin, the thumbs down emoji would give her a brain aneurism
Brilliant
She’s the one projecting so I hope she gets the therapy she needs.
actually laughing out loud, thanks for that :)
People going apeshit over absolutely nothing? Yes, very normal around these parts.
She’s not normal as far as life experiences, OK?
You can tell she was dying to play it cool but had to pop at the assumed rejection
“I’m not normal”
Yeah, we got that
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25d
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Remember a year ago when all of Reddit would've downvoted all of you for using emojis
Good times
Take it as a blessing when the crazy roots itself out early on
Bullet dodged
AC130 dodged
It seems like you communicated you were in the middle of a run. Clearly the thumbs up is an acceptable way to communicate your agreement to move it to next week (given that you’re on a run). If that wasn’t abundantly clear she could have said “just to clarify are we on next week? Which I am sure would have prompted a written response.
Yikes. She’s either dim or nuts. I agree with the others. I would have given her the 🫡 if we’re picking emojis to follow.
Abort abort
All that running really comes in handy here.
Take the win for avoiding much future pain.
Sooo I didn’t realize there was more after the 2nd screenshot at first and I thought she was pretty rude. Then I read the comments and went back to swiping, yikes! No, that’s not normal for an emotionally healthy person at least. But she does allude to her not so normal life experiences so I guess the behavior checks out.
You thought she was rude for having to work that day??? 👎
Yes, that’s a normal reaction for people who are bat-shit crazy.
This is a 34yr old adult woman? She's only 2 years younger than me and I just cannot conceive of a situation where, in a polite conversation, you would respond like this in text. It's not like you sent a swastika, it was a thumbs up!
No - this is not normal as far as life experiences
No. Ashleigh is not a normal name.
I read an article a while back that showed a difference in how thumbs-up emoji are perceived by millennials and Zoomers.
Younger people see them as passive aggressive or sarcastic. Older people see them as simple agreement.
I remember after someone on discord said they don't like it when people use the emoji right after I used 👍 as a reaction.
Cos literally a few days later I read that and it clicked! I'm 40 and they're 20s.
If you're interested I'll try digging the article up from my discord logs.
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I can’t believe she is still single.
Psychopath alert.
Yikes what a weirdo 😭 I mean I get it, when you’re single and anxious something like that can really fuck with your head. But frankly she’s the one acting like a piece of shit.
Either permanently or temporarily, she is unwell. Hope she takes care of that. On to the next for you.
Even if she dislikes an emoji response, this is not the action of an adult expressing that. Clearly a multiple-emoji sentence is the only appropriate response.
Don't be actually mean like calling her a b**** or insulting her, that makes you no better than her.
"I have no doubt that you'll want to talk longer than I'm able" might have already been trying to provoke something. From a normal person I would not have worried about it too much.
I like that she sent u a thumbs up back being actively passive aggressive and going against her own moral compass.
The sex would have been good though.
When people say “I’m not looking for pen pals” this is why they say it. Talk to em long enough you’ll realize they’re insane
The urge to give her a thumbs down would be too much for me to resist 👎🏼
Dodged a bullet right there buddy!
People be projecting hard and think they are the smart ones
Blablabla
I’m not normal
Blablabla
👍
Psycho 😉
You dodged a bullet, my friend
Dodged a bullet there👍
You Neo'd that bullet
you know it is not.
"I'm not normal" are the only words that I saw as I moved my eyes past the wall of text I'd never read in depth
I would've been like "okay is this better , "ok👍 👌." "
I'm very sarcasm influenced.
She said “I’m not normal” why are you asking us if she is?
Yeah dude, it absolutely is. You are 43 and single, she is 34 and single. You are both going to be a little high strung 😂
You should have hit her with the 👍👎🏻👍🏼👎🏽👍🏾👎🏿👍
I am not normal as far as life experiences.
Yup, this is not normal.
That was so inane. This person would absolutely want to kill me and most people I know who use the 👍 emoji. 🤣🤣😂😂 I sincerely hope she doesn’t have too much of your information.
She herself mentioned not being normal I suppose
THIS GIRL IS TRASH.
You definitely dodged a bullet.
She already said she’s not normal 👍
I mean, the whole “you’ll likely talk longer than I am able” was already dismissive. The 👍 was the same energy, she just didn’t like it.
She's crazy and you were rude to her by sending just an emoji. I don't get it, but apparently it's part of social norms that a thumbs up emoji is a sarcasm thing.
In that context? This is exactly how a crazy person would react. Yes. This is normal.
Are you dating my ex?
Well she definitely needs therapy and no you, you just need a bit of a clue. She’s not wrong, the thumbs up was a response that suggests you don’t give a shit about the exchange. However, her reaction was definitely an over reaction after stewing. Most likely it was from past experience that’s not really been dealt with or moved past.
She over reacted, but I’d stop talking to someone for just sending me a thumbs up emoji as well.
Haha wtf
Dodged an arrow to the knee you have!
The best response to this, would be "yes I can see that"
🤷♂️ 👉pew👉pew🤙
Thumbs up with zero words attached is perfect dad material
Lol no, Ashleigh is fucking whack
Can you give her my number? Tell her i dont use emojis! In reality ill use ONLY emojis
Phew, bullet dodged
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I don't think I've ever seen a real honest-to-goodness emojiphobe in the wild...
You must be Keanu Reeves cuz you just dodged a bullet my boy
Bullet dodged
I would have told her anyway she should stfu , god this is unbearable
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How dare you emoji me 😡
NGL, I definitely thought "send an emoji to acknowledge," was a request and not stating the problem. I was very confused because I don't think any sane or rational person would have an issue with that thumbs up.
Gl out OP, and congrats on dodging that bullet.
red flag: dodged
Another day, another bullet dodged
Not knowing anything about her "life experiences", I can only assume she was severely abused by emojis in her childhood.
Thank fuck I'm not dating....
Might have gotten busted by someone and trying to save fac3
To be honest. I hate the thumbs up too 😂😂
They are wrong, you know plenty about them now....Bullet dodged!!
Lmao, wtf is wrong with everyone on these apps?
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
i out loud said “what??” LOL
Huh?
U just dodged a bullet
Womanchilds on dating apps? Yes, quite normal, and u dodged a bullet
You're about to get "did you fucking post this on Reddit?" essay text message. Block that number lmao
Dodged that crazy bullet.
Should of gave her the middle finger emoji
She’s having some sort of crises id just block and move on
You definitely dodged a bullet, b/c her reaction was obviously way over the top, but to play a little devil's advocate - I can also see the progression that led to her pulling off the mask, and it started well before the thumbs up:
A lot of women are understandably cautious about strangers and dating apps, and even just giving out their number is a big step and show of trust.
I don't know what your conversation looked like before, but from this context, you offered her your number, and she ultimately "let you in" by texting back. Then you skipped any formalities or flirting that might have warmed up the room, and immediately jumped to hey when are we meeting!
Even though you clearly seem to have discussed running together ahead of this, I can see how it might come across aggressive here, but she probably also figured she was in this deep already, so might as well roll with it now (but probably already feeling at least slightly uncomfortable about all this, hence the "Ahhh").
Then you outright rejected her proposed dates without so much as a "sorry but", or "unfortunately I can't because...how do you feel about this instead" and again no other real attempt to connect, ask her how she's doing, etc. Your response feels just all business...and...kind of ultimatumy.
At this point she's deflated and disappointed that she gave you her number, decides to defer to next week (to which, if you weren't going to show any further initiative here - I bet you she was ready to ghost this conversation), and then you sealed it with the thumbs up, which, as others on here have already pointed out, can be a sign of indifference these days rather than agreement.
Now the powder keg is lit, and BOOM, you're off to crazy town!
So I'd say be glad you dodged a bullet, but also don't be so aggressive if you want better results in the future 👍
I would have sent her a series of emojis just to piss her off 🤣
She literally says in her message that’s she’s not normal. What’s the confusion?
In all fairness, she did say she’s not normal.
the emoji might not have been the best response you could make there, but damn was that an over reaction
I would have told her to shut the fuck up
She weird af. U def dodged a bullet. Bet that 🐱 would’ve been good af tho. The way she’s catches an attitude like that I can tell she’s a squirter lol def a loud screamer
You were kind of rude with the emoji but she's absolutely insane, so it more than cancels out and gets you a W.
She's not normal as far as life experiences ........
This gets me more than the 👍
Shoulda hit her with this instead
Eh, I would've given you the benefit of the doubt but the thumbs up emoji is often used as a sort of, dismissive response. If you're early in the convo, it's probably best to keep the convo going. Responding with just an emoji doesn't really do that. I do think it's more of a generational thing. Like they say gen z doesn't like periods, lol
So, don't use an emoji in a text chat, just like she did????
Bullet dodged
Should have hit her with a gif of a thumbs up
Someone needs a hug
She barks out "you don't know anything about me", while at the same time making the assumption that you need therapy based solely on your pressing the "like" button on a mundane message she sent you.. Hmm.
I don't like the thumbs up emoji myself, it feels "yeah, okay" in a dismissive way. Not sure why I always feel that way. But this reaction is absolutely crazy!!
Typical over 30s single woman 😭
I also don't like when people answer with those sorts of emojis, faces are fine, but things like thumbs up, peace signs and the sort just seem rude to me. But even then, I would never react the way this girl did, wtf lol.
Idk..I don’t think shes that crazy. But also, I am crazy.
Honestly, to me, your thumbsup felt a bit like a "alright, well fuk you then" before I even went to the 3 screenshots after it.
Their reaction was over the top and might indicate you are better off this way but... yah...
Solid advice…lose the nunber
Years ago I would been in your shoes thinking “what did I I do wrong and what can I do better next time” when really, you should be so thankful that they are showing this red flag behaviour so soon. The worst scenario is actually spending time in your day around weird, irrational people like this.
Apparently younger generations are triggered by certain benign things like 👍 and ……
Who knew 🤷♂️
she said she's not normal, and it sounds like she is really not.
That isn't "normal" but I won't lie, I'd be annoyed if someone sent me a thumbs up emoji and nothing else in response to a message. That's how you respond to your boss when they tell you to mop the bathrooms before you clock out.
WOW. “Ashleigh’s” a dick. Talk about someone that needs psychological help. HOLY SHIT - bullet dodged on that shit-train!
Mental illness babyyy
Man. I am not a huge fan of emojis but even I 👍🏻 to acknowledge a text. Bullet dodged.
Ahh the undiagnosed psychotic beauty in the wild. Happens a lot more than you think. A lot of trauma out there
You can tap the App icon to hide the row of imessage apps just fyi
I mean it’s a ten year gap… the expectations are different.
You just dodge a bullet (baby reindeer)
"send an emoji to acknowledge"
👍🏼🤡
Wow - I’m done for the day - this wins today
Tell her to get a name that's spelled normally.
Man, can you imagine working with her? Every day, you would wonder what kind of flavor of a power trip you would get from her.
I already feel exhausted from reading that text conversation 😬
I mean - I wouldn't of sent just an emoji if I really had interest - which is her point - but she took the opportunity to also get out some built up shit which ehhhhhhhhh
Yes
A bit weird that shes bothered about it at 34. But i know a lot of people from my generation actually take a thumbs up emoji as an insult because its seen as a sign that you're very disinterested. That might have been the original peeve, but honestly her response is psychotic
It feels like you're talking to one of my ex's. She sent me pics and I sent I thumbs up. She immediately took offense. I told her the thumbs up meant "looks good" and she took it as "meh, whatever.".I think some people just go looking to be offended.
Tbh the thumbs up comes off passive aggressive to me. From interactions at work, I’ve realized some people send thumbs up in the same way that a dad would give you a thumbs up when they approve of something. But, over text, the first thing I see is a passive aggressive “okay”. But she could’ve just left you on read and called it a day
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