Man vs Bear, from someone who has experience in both scenarios
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Not to mention that this dilemma is interpreted differently by everyone. It states ‘a man’, not a rapist or murderer. People who have bad experiences with men will are more likely to assume the worst possible man.
That’s why this dilemma sparks so much: it’s incomplete, therefore people are filling in the gaps in ways they seem fit.
I think most people realise that. But I think those examples are brought foreward because a lot of men are so surprised that this is so heavily bear favored. Too many men don't realise how common those experiences are for women. If you say people are filling in that the man is bad. But that is not a good comparison because all these women just have bad experiences and therefore are bias. Then you are kinda missing the point.
It's because so many women feel that the bear is a saver option that shows the general experience and how this is different between man en women
Yes this is more an indication of how many women have had negative experiences with men at some point during their life, biasing the vast majority of them.
All these guys getting upset about it are missing the bigger picture. It's not a personal attack against any individual man. It's a huge glaring indicator of a major systemic problem in general. Mostly to do with school systems.
As a man, I personally see it as a great exercise that has so many people talking about this issue I am hopeful that real meaningful improvements are made from this.
There will be plenty that dig their heels in the sand. I was on that side when I was younger. Then I heard some crazy stories from a girlfriend. After that I went to another girlfriend and was like "damn isn't that crazy". "Noo it's not I also have some of those stories". It's really insane. And even after years I'm sometimes still surprised on how often it happends.
But I think people that understand this will not be convinced that it's not a big deal. And these moments many men might start a conversation and get there eyes opend
When women say they dont know a woman who doesn't have one of those stories they ate being so genuine. It starts at like 12.