OK so first of all, meditation helped me a lot when I was starting out I would highly recommend that. Also you can still have sex and ejaculation with no release, basically what you do is squeeze the same muscle when you're stopping the flow of your pee when you're 80% towards orgasm, if it helps use your hand to press just below your balls, hold both the squeeze and your hand position, you will orgasm with no ejaculation, and it feels way better although I haven't done that in over a year as I'm now fully celibate but it works