Stormy was my first cat and I love her so damn much. Last month she got diagnosed with Lymphoma and she's lots nearly a third of her body weight since then. All of her attempts at eating have resulting in vomit and diarrhea.
I know logically that this is the right decision, but this really sucks. I'd be happy with any advice if people have any.
Update: it's done. She went peacefully. When we got outside, I threw her carrier.
I know this was the right decision, but my heart feels shattered.
Not much I can tell you except be there for her. :( .........and most vets offices have large boxes of tissues handily available. This is usually the final act of mercy and love you can give your furry partner even as it breaks your heart to save them from pain and fear and yes, it sucks that it is.
I'm gonna be there in the room for her. It's the least I can do for her.
I am so sorry for your upcoming loss.
The night before I had to say goodbye to my Simon and my Elliott, i spent the night with the lights dim and tv going. I allowed them to snuggle with me on the couch, or not. But kept myself available. (My ell was antisocial at the end).
It is a hard choice but remember it is made out of love.
All I can say is that we transfer their pain onto ourselves with their passing. It is the greatest act of love we can do.
You gave her an amazing life. Your final gift is a peaceful end.
That is a helpful way to word it. Lost our 2nd in 4 weeks and it's the first time in 30 years with no cats in the house, so struggling.
You said this much better than I could have, but yes, so true.
We hurt afterward, but they don’t.
We just did the same last week and while I don’t 100% know it was lymphoma, the symptoms were the same and the vet thought it highly likely. I didn’t know specifically what day we’d be calling it until she fell over and we ran her to the vet; and I am still hurting that I didn’t give her more attention that morning and that i could not help her in the end short of letting her go. I’m so sorry.
I'm so sorry. This happened with my boy with suspected lymphoma. It's very hard, the feeling we didn't do our best to be present in the moment. Took me a year to let that go & just remember him with great love & gratitude. Hugs for your hurting heart.
Any grief, doubt, fear you feel are the sacrifice you make for the love you two have. You are loving Stormy up to the last fraction of a second of her life, but you will not stop until the end of yours. This love will never be past tense. You can always say, "I love her so much." Loved, yes, and also love.
I was 26 the first time someone dear to me died. A mutual friend told me, "You'll be going along, as the days become less difficult; and then all of a sudden six months later, you'll find yourself crying and not know why."
Half a year later, one day I thought of my friend Victor and started crying without really knowing why. I remembered what the friend had told me, so I was able to immediately accept, "This just happens." I know I would have been even more distressed if I hadn't had that little preparation.
I'm crying now for the loss and grief I feel for the felines and humans I have known who've died, and for what Stormy and you are enduring. You might find it doesn't "get better" over time, but it does get... something like less bad. And then you might notice one day that it is better. Days and nights are more easily borne. And the love, your love, is always there.
Beautiful words, thank you.
You're welcome.
We have an urn already. We got it personalized.
This is the last act of care and kindness you can show Stormy. Be there, love on her, tell her what a good kitty she has been, tell her you love her. My condolences.
Hope you are doing ok. Sounds like you are making the right call but it’s so so hard. One thing I told myself over and over - we cannot keep her alive just for us to pet her. Wishing you as much peace as can be had today.
don't do it at the Vets, if you have to do it, do it at home. I euthanized my little girl on 4/10, did it at the vets and it was the worse thing i have ever done. she was scared and fought the sedation. It haunts me and I have cried like a child everyday since.
It really depends on the room and the cat. I'm sorry for your experience. Our Fiona enjoyed being outside so she got one last adventure to distract her from feeling bad on her last day.
I'm so sorry. We went through this Saturday and you're keeping her from suffering more. Healing will come with time. Take comfort in knowing you took great care of her and did everything you could.
I am very sorry.
But please be there with her. You are her world, and your presence will comfort her. It will be difficult, but please put her first. Remind yourself that this is the last loving thing you can do for her.
After, allow yourself to mourn and be good to yourself.
Time helps, it the only thing that does.
Honestly I don’t think there’s much advice except be there with her. When I had to put my baby Drekken down he was in a lot of distress and pain, it killed me inside to put him down but I held onto him until he took his last breath and his heart stop beating. It’s been 2yrs now and even as I type this I can’t see my screen because of the tears. I’m sorry you’re going to lose your fur baby it’s not easy.
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