Not a super big deal at all as she’s 3 and I’m still currently pregnant with kid number two. But I didn’t even think twice when she told me I was her favorite person to quip back that she was my favorite too! Husband looks at me and then my belly and chuckles I’m like oh yeah probably shouldn’t say stuff like that for long 🤦🏻♀️ lol! Made me wonder if there was anything unexpected you needed to get used to going from 1 to 2 kids?
Told my first she’s my favorite- What did you need to get used to going from 1 to 2 kids?
DiscussionWhen I was pregnant with my second my son was 2, I always said to him that he’s “the best.” Now he says it to me and so does my daughter. We all say it to each other, it first started with my husband and I. Both of your kids can be your favorite people.
I have a son and a daughter. I always tell my son hes my favorite son and sissy is my favorite daughter 😂
I do that also. If I get asked the old “who do you love more?” I usually respond “depends on the day you both annoy me equally!”
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I actually tell all four of my kids they’re my favorite. Ever since they were babies, I snuggle them close and dramatically whisper in their ear “I love you so much. You’re my favorite!” I grew up in a family of 6 kids. My mom used to tell everyone she didn’t have a favorite. And that was true. She had 3. Her twins and my baby brother were her favorites. Me and my two brothers were basically second-class citizens. I never once believed her when she said she didn’t have a favorite. I figured my kids might not believe that either. So might as well tell them they’re all my favorite. They all know I say it to all of them. They seem to like hearing it anyway.
I hear ya. One of the silly reasons I’m glad to be having one of each. I’m trying to get used to saying “favorite daughter I ever had” instead of “my favorite baby”. If I was going to have 2 girls instead, it’d be “favorite [name] I ever had” instead. My mom used “favorite daughter/son” with my brother and me, so it feels like continuing a family thing.
Haha same! I was happy to have one of each so I could say “favorite girl” and “favorite boy”.
I say "favourite four year old" a lot 😅
I always say "My favorite [name]"
Started this when they were little and we sang "My only sunshine", but I would replace sunshine with their names.
I tell them they're my favorite all the time, but usually something like, "you're my favorite [name] in the whole wife world" and they say something like, "you're my favorite mommy in the whole wide world." It works so far 🤷♀️
In response to another comment, I tell them all they're "the best" and they all say it back. I think as long as we're acknowledging all of them and not turning it into a competition, it's alright.
With our two girls, I say “you’re my favorite [insert current age].” Yep, your older sister used to be my favorite 9yo but now you are!
Unexpected is maybe just how much more I can like one of them at any given time (lord forbid both could be on good behavior at the same time) while still loving them both the same—and yet not the same because they’re such different humans.
That’s a great question lol I’m due with our second in 2 months and I tell my daughter she’s my favorite person frequently. I really need to switch it up and say something like you are one of my favorite people
I still tell all three of mine they are my favorite (teens). I went from 1 to 3 so hard to say, but one thing I did was make sure to include my oldest (4 at the time). He also got an awesome toy when I went into the hospital for labor.
When I tell them they are my favorite, it is ‘you’re my favorite (their name)’. So they’re all my favorite in their own special ways. 😁
I'm fortunate that my first is a girl and my second will be a boy. She's my favorite girl and he's my favorite boy. Dada is my favorite man and I'm his favorite woman.
If my kids were the same gender, my eldest would be my favorite big sister and my younger would be my favorite little sister. Or my favorite Gertrude and my favorite Temperance. Or my favorite September baby and my favorite January baby.
I tell both of my babies that they’re my favorites. They’re both my thing 1 and 2 from Dr Seuss cat in the hat😂
I always find different things about my kids to be my “favourite”. It’s usually their birth order (my favourite oldest kid for example) but it can also be their name or something they do that their siblings don’t (for example my favourite gymnast). I also try to be conscious about making sure I let them know how I value certain aspects of their personality regardless of their siblings.
I highly recommend the book “you’re all my favourites” by the same author of “guess how much I love you”. It’s one of those children books that touch a parent’s heart 🥹
Luckily for me one of my kids has blonde hair and the other has brown hair so I can say: “you’re my favorite blonde/brown haired kid in the world.”
For me the trickiest thing is that you just have to make sure that both kids are given the same opportunities. We were considering putting our younger one in a different school than our older one (mostly for her sake due to reasons that are irrelevant for this discussion) but our older one goes to a school with a very good reputation and we thought, “we can’t because we or she might look back on this years from now and say that she wasn’t given the same opportunity.” My wife grew up with 2 siblings and things were not handled fairly between the 3 of them and even now, in their 40s, there are still some minor animosities related to the fact that the youngest sibling was given opportunities and freedoms that the older ones weren’t afforded.
My 3 are older (15, 12, 11), and I tell them my favorite changes day to day based on who did their chores before I get home. Or who doesn't pop an attitude the minute we walk in the door. 😂 If it's been a stressful day, that usually gets them laughing.
Because, let's be honest, there are days you'll certainly like one a little more. You'll love them all the same, but liking their behavior is a different story.
I'm "lucky" in that sense that I have one of each. My first is my favorite girl and my second my favorite boy, ha.
Today I told my 8yo that he is "my favourite oldest son." I used to tell him that he was my favourite kid. But 3 years ago I had my daughter so I started telling him he was my favourite son. But 6 months ago his little brother arrived so now its favourite oldest or favourite 8 year old.
We say, “You’re my favorite [Nickname 1] boy!” and “You’re my favorite [Nickname 2] boy!”
We also say “you’re the best” to any one, any time.
I tell my kid they’re my favorite __ year old. My youngest is my favorite 2 year old, my oldest is my favorite 4 year old. I say it frequently to both of them lol
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