The dead visiting in dreams?

Experience

I've carried this around for a while and am not really sure where else to voice it except here, so I'm hoping someone may be able to provide some insight if possible. My spirituality is not the strongest and I've been kind of rattled since this occured so I don't know I guess I just want to get it off my chest if anything.

My father passed away in 2019. It was very unexpected and he and I didn't have a good relationship at the end, so it was rough. A few months after though I encountered him in what I can only describe as a lucid dream. The dream itself was quite long but I don't remember anything except the bit with my dad which took place at the very end. He and I were standing in the kitchen of my current house at the time talking. What specifically about I don't remember. We were just laughing and shooting the shit, and in the middle of him saying something I had this really strange feeling come over me. I don't know how to fully describe it but it sort of felt like the sinking feeling you get in your gut when something isn't right mixed with like a brain fog? It wasn't scary really but very uncomfortable and sobering. At that moment in the dream I rasied my hands up and looked down at my palms, and the second my eyes saw my skin it was like a snap into reality and I was lucid. I knew I was in a dream. I looked back up at my dad who had gone silent during this happening, and he had this defeated and sad look on his face. Almost like he knew what was going on but didn't want to say anything. I said "I'm not awake right now, am I?", and he shook his head a little and said "I'm sorry [childhood nickname]". Then my eyes shot open and I was awake.

I know this is a little anti climatic but I didn't experience anything else past that. I just woke up and it was over. In general I'm a fairly active dreamer but have never had this level of awareness in one before, so I don't know if this is just wild brain stuff caused by grief or something more. If anyone has heard of something like this happening before or have experienced something similar please let me know your thoughts. Thanks for reading

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Potential-Present146

4mo

I just posted this on another post.

The last goodbye I got from my daddy was in a dream. I dreamed about him one time and one time only. In the dream, it was my birthday and I was having a big house party to celebrate it. I heard laughing and conversation coming from my room and thought that was odd because I didn't remember allowing anyone in my room. I walked over and stood in the door and spotted my father sitting on my bed with a few people sitting comfortably around him, just sharing conversation and laughing. But the odd thing was that when I showed up, I couldn't hear my father at all. It's like he stopped talking. He looked up at me and I became very aware of the dream and time and place and I said "What are you doing here? Daddy, you're dead!" Recanting this dream makes me cry so much because the pain of the realization in that moment still hurts me to the core. In the dream, he looked at me with the most sorrowful expression almost to say "I'm sorry". And then I woke up and I sobbed like a baby. I still do.

Potential-Present146

4mo

Also I think that it is awesome that you had that experience. Even though it is one of my most painful visitation memories of my Dad, it is one of my most special bc it was real. He was there. Idk how but I'm one hundred percent sure he visited me. Also I'm sorry for your loss. No matter how things are left on terms, it is the worst pain to feel to lose a parent.

MarkS6275

4mo

I'd say it was your father visiting you to let you know he's okay and sorry for how he passed/left things. I've never lucid dreamed before, but I have had a couple of visitation dreams from passed on loved ones. The one I remember the most was when I purposefully didn't go to church with family on easter and ended up having both my grandpa who passed a year before and my grandma who passed that year come visit me in my dreams, along with my other grandpa/her husband who had passed probably like 15 years before. I don't exactly remember what happened during the dream but I do remember waking up and just feeling happy and peaceful.

geekymama

4mo

My dad died after a prolonged battle against a brain tumor in 2011 (a glioblastoma, to be precise). It was an awful death, and he had significantly deteriorated physically and mentally for the last 6 months of his life.

I can't remember exactly how soon it was after he died, but he came to me in a dream. He looked healthy, and much more at ease. I asked him how he was, and he said something along the lines of finally being at peace.

Since he's died, he's made two main types of appearances in my dreams. One is where he's around like "normal", but we're somehow both aware of the fact that he's actually dead. The other is where it's more like a conversation between us, almost like it's happening in a neutral "non-dream" space.

ladyartemis_

4mo

Something similar happened to my dad once with my uncle Rob (not his real name). I was about 6 yo when this uncle died, I don’t remember him, but him and my dad where really close. My dad tells me that he dreamed they were talking in front of his house as they usually did sometimes when suddenly he felt there was something wrong with Rob. It was like when you catch someone in a lie or just know they’re acting. My dad barely had a second to wonder why when he remembered Rob had died and realized he was dreaming. This kind of things don’t usually happen to him, but even so he remembers feeling an intense wave of sadness. Rob noticed and dropped the act, he looked at my dad with equal sadness, and my dad says he seemed so lost, like a little kid. He thought about hundreds of things he would’ve liked to ask him about the other side, but the only thing he could say was “are you ok?”. Might sound cliche, but he said it was the only thing he truly wanted to know, everything else didn’t matter. Rob only answered “I don’t know, [my dad’s name]. Everything here is so confusing. No one tells me anything” and then he woke up crying. I truly think our dear ones can visit us through our dreams and that your father wanted to tell you he’s fine and also making sure you’ll be fine. It may be good for both sides, here we might be sad and grieving, but they should be very confused and maybe scared. Visit us surely is something reassuring for them.

frenzy4u

4mo

The dead have come to me with messages for their love ones.