Yes, “provider” men exist

Regardless of gender, if your partner wants to do it, wala namang problem dun eh. If that's how they want to show their love for their SO, walang "societal standards" ang dapat na manghusga sa ginagawa niya.

Heaven's gift na yan sa iyo OP. Di ako magpapakaplastic sabihin na sana makahanap din ako ng ganyan 🫶

my husband is also a provider, financially kc un lang kaya nya ibigay. provider din ng sakit sa puso ko 😁

+1 Sinabi ko rin na wag dalasan kasi di ako sanay at alam ko yong hirap ng pagkita ng pera. 10 years na kong nakabukod sa family ko kaya alam ko yong gastusin talaga. Ayun, sabi nya rin it's part of how he takes care of me. Part ng pagmamahal nya yon. Nagsettle na lang kami na pag planado yong date, KKB talaga pero yong biglaan na date or planned date na walang itinerary, sya nagbabayad 🤣

Swerte mo. My husband is very kuripot and bilang lahat ng pera, im actually really scared whats going to happen if i lose my job and have to depend on him for money… marital financial abuse is real

I am blessed to have a husband na natural provider. Ako ang di sanay na pinoprovide-an because I’ve been independent all my life prior to him. I stopped working because I’m pregnant, and let me tell you, madalas pa rin ako tumanggi kapag may binibili siya for me kasi I know I can afford it. But also… nakakahaba ng buhok. Hahahaha

Totoo ‘to. Growing up, I never had a male figure that I can depend on. Ngayon my SO, loves being a provider. Madalas nahihiya pa ako and hindi sanay so I do my best to pay for stuff after nya ako itreat, minsan small gestures like buying him books lang okay na.

May we all receive the love we deserve, and learn to reciprocate it as well. 🫶🏼

My husband is a provider and is proud to be one. I’m lucky to have him

Anak mo rin ako Lord. Sana all

Freeloader ako for the most part mg relationship ko with my bf. Due to health and personal issues di ako tumatagal sa work. He just provides. Gives me money for ky needs and pag minsan nakikita nya na nagpaplano ako lumabas with friends he would ask kung may pera ako, pag sinabi kong di ako makakasama, bibigyan nya ako. He pays for most of our dates. Pays for our bills. Groceries.

In turn whenever I have funds ako na sumasagot ng dates and groceries para man lang mabawas yun sa burden nya.

Kaya I was so shocked na ganun sila makahingi dun sa girls to the point na parang di na kapani-paniwala. Imagine ako nga nahihiya pa magrequest ng food tapos sila nagagawa makahingi ng 10k jusq di ko kinakaya.

may ulol sa isang topic na hina-harass ako and called me a gold digger for saying love is transactional so I reported the ogre for harassment. tapos makakabasa ako ng ganito hayayaaayyy Lord ako din pls!!! pagod na maging strong independent woman 😩

yes and im really happy that my boyfriend is that kind of provider. Sa ngayon fresh grad ako and kada date sya lagi may sagot, ang ginagawa ko na lang if we're planning on getting coffee or icecream kahit anong kaya ng budget ko, ako naman sasagot just to give back. Naiintindihan niya na currently job hunting na ko and i always tell him na gustong gusto ko na siya ispoil.

Ano pong format ng dasal?

Me and my Bf had a phase na feeling ko I was doing too much for him. Provider mindset rin naman ako. Pero nafeel ko na parang di ko na afford to keep up.

Thankfully when he got a job. Abay gurl, same energy ang balik. HAHAHAHAH. Kinikileg ako bigla na lang nalilibre hahaha. (Mas mataas pa earning niya kaysa akin)

So yes provider men do exist. Lalo na pag dalawa hihi

For clout lang naman nagpopost ng ganyan sa tiktok. Paggagastusan tas isusumbat pag nag break.

Pa copy po sana ng dasal 🥺

As a provider type na lalake, Thank you po ate sa pag share ng story mo. It is disappointing na ganito na ang young men ngayon and young women generalize na ganito na lahat ng lalake since these types of post on different platform are trending right now.

Karamihan din naman ng mga babae na nagpost nun mga ican fix him type e, so no need magpaliwanag, di ka kagaya ng mga babaeng yun, at marami pang mga lalaki/babae ang matitino.

Kung voluntary naman ginagawa ok lang yun. Pero kung nanghihingi na. Redflag yan kahit anong gender pa

totoo yannn jowa ko rin ganyan, di naman ako nagpapabili ng kung ano ano pero sya hindi magdadalawang isip na bilhan ako 🥹 never din ako nanghingi or nangutang basta lagi nyang sinasabi sakin basta may pera sya, bibilhan nya ko 😩

Hi OP, I'm a 37y dad and yes we do exist. Hindi lang tlga kami yung sobrang gwapo and that badboy freak in the bed type most girls want to excite their fantasies. Kami yung boys/men na nasa friend zone. The meek and geek ones.

I for one, am willing to provide kasi Ganon ako pinalaki ng parents ko na dapat ang lalake hindi batugan at palamunin. So in all of my relationships ako yung nagbibigay to the point nagkanda utang utang na ako haha.

Pero I thank God na nakakita din ako ng babae na I definitely swear she's my soulmate. Carbon copy ko kasi mag isip si misis and very clingy (hindi sya selosa pero clingy)

So yeah, us "provider" men exist. Need lang siguro ng girls/women of this current generation to lower their expectations and look into their friendzoned male buddies.

Totally agree with OP. I am married to a provider, and I am grateful. His reasoning? When we were starting, I took good care of him, and so he is now returning the favor.

I am grateful to my husband for not only providing the basics but also helping us experience the finest things in life.

I wish that everyone will get to experience this feeling.

This is true! My father is also a good provider. Both financially and emotionally. I’m so happy blessed ako sa parents ko.

Taena! Para sa mga inosenteng nagtataka, Ano tingin nyo sa mga tatay nyo? Eh mga free loader pala tayong lahat. Lol

Hi OP, I can relate to this! My boyfriend does the same thing tapos sinasali pa nya yung anak ko even if I already said no, though nag iinsist din talaga siya.

I'm not sure why people are invalidating yung mga provider men but shouldn't we be glad na may ganito pa ding klaseng tao?

PS. My boyfriend and I have work and may mataas na position din sa company so financial is no biggie with us. Unahan ko na din sila baka sabihing free loader din ako. Lol.

Relate! They do exist!

“Let me, you know na this is how I express my love for you. Your presence is more than enough.”

Me: “Hindi nalang ako nagrereklamo kasi ako pa naprepressure, wala din namang nagagawa pag sinasabihan kita.”

What I do is give pag nagkaroon ng chance and I started a savings account na sa aming dalawa na pwede gamitin for whatever we want. Napupunta lang din naman sa kailangan kong gastos. Hahaha

ikaw na swerte ateee. congrats!

Tapos yung ibang babae strong independent woman kuno.. 50/50 ang ending nagiging single mom at yung lalaki buhay binata.. 🤣

Bakit nakakagulat, di ba, gender role nga yan na provider ay yung lalake

Literally hordes of men, nasa barko as seamen to provide for their families. Seamen pa lang yan, isang industry pa lang

So bakit nakakagulat?

Walang problema sa ganyan. As long as the woman is also doing her part like supporting him, being loyal, cooks for him, provides him love and care, being there for him when he needs you, providing him passionate sex, never stresses him out or anything.

50/50 pa rin yun. And that is supposed to be the norm when it comes to relationships. No exceptions! The problem starts ksi when a guy starts being the "Provider" and instead of the woman being greatful, she is entitled pa, not providing him sex, not providing him love and care, stresses him out, inaaway pa nya tapos may gana pang maghanap ng ibang lalake ksi yung asawa daw nya is "Boring" ganun.

yesss. soft girl era 🌸 men like these will make you embrace your most feminine side. feels good! aminin naman natin, nakakapagod din maging strong independent girly all the time. 😅

Wag mong sayangin ang ganyang tao. Please. Pakiusap ko sayo. Ang sakit kapag sinaktan mo ang ganyang tao.

Sa totoo lang, red flag ang lalakeng di provider mindset kasi ano, pag natanggal siya sa trabaho, hahayaan niya lang yun asawa niya magbuhay sa kanila kasi kaya naman nung babae? Di man lang nahiya.

Saan po kayo nakakakuha ng ganiyan?

Pa-bobo ng pa-bobo yung mga topic ngayon kahit yung mga normal na bagay ginagawang issue pa.

My ex was like this. Ldr kami noon and he would always want to send me money. Kahit nung data gamit ko at down internet namin, agad tinatanong kung magpapadala siya ng pang data. Pag mainit at ayoko magbukas ng aircon, nagsasabi siya magapapadala para pwede kong buksan. Palagi ako nagtatanggi. Too much naman yun. But during special occasions, he'd send me. Nung una, i felt so lucky and blessed kasi may salita pa siya pag magkasama kami, siya yung magtatrabaho para sa amin. Eh hindi makapaghintay ang gago, he ended up cheating on me and getting another girl pregnant. 😅 But yes, there are men who provide that don't ask for anything in return. Mag ingat ka lang. Baka tulad ng ex ko. Kaya ganun kasi may ginagawang kalokohan. Lol.

I came from a relationship na ako lahat gumagastos sa dates pati 8 pesos na pamasahe sa jeep hinihingi pa sa akin (hindi sila mayaman pero yung totoo wala ka 16 pesos pamasahe para sa atin 2 sa wallet?). Natauhan ako and I broke up with him (thank god) and now I married a provider. Never niya ako pinagbayad nung nagdadate kami and gave me the most generous of gifts. Honestly, I’m glad hindi ako nagsettle dun sa ex ko.

So you saw a trend na exposing shitty men and na offend ka and wanted to make it about you and your good fortune having found a man na happen to not be shitty and spoiling you? Eh di good for you.