I dated non-systems for the majority of my life simply because I was masking and hadn’t even realized I was a system. It didn’t work out and I was left feeling more alone after the relationships. Now that I’m diagnosed and aware and have tried dating it is hard. Non-systems no matter how understanding just don’t seem to get it. I’m sure there are great people out there that would be understanding and tolerant but they aren’t easy to find.
While the idea of being alone sucks I would rather that than be in another relationship where I have to hide any part of who I am. I sadly have no advice for finding and dating other systems but wanted to say you’re not alone. I’ve been focusing on healing myself over this last year and getting into a place where I am comfortable and happy alone. I’ve met some great friends who support me and do their best to understand and that alone means a lot. While it’s hard just focus on yourself for now and find that place where you can be yourself and be happy with yourself. Once I found that things started to come together more for me.
I dated non-systems for the majority of my life simply because I was masking and hadn’t even realized I was a system. It didn’t work out and I was left feeling more alone after the relationships. Now that I’m diagnosed and aware and have tried dating it is hard. Non-systems no matter how understanding just don’t seem to get it. I’m sure there are great people out there that would be understanding and tolerant but they aren’t easy to find.
While the idea of being alone sucks I would rather that than be in another relationship where I have to hide any part of who I am. I sadly have no advice for finding and dating other systems but wanted to say you’re not alone. I’ve been focusing on healing myself over this last year and getting into a place where I am comfortable and happy alone. I’ve met some great friends who support me and do their best to understand and that alone means a lot. While it’s hard just focus on yourself for now and find that place where you can be yourself and be happy with yourself. Once I found that things started to come together more for me.