I recently spoke to a friend of ours about our denial about being a system and stuff like that. Their response was to (as far as I understood based on what they said) try to one-up us on trauma like it was a competition. They said that, "You might be dramatic, you forget what I went through." During the conversation, our system protector fronted, and was noticeably dry with them, cutting the talk off short. I believe another alter besides him may also be upset with them. Is there anything to do about this? I know I can't and won't force them to, but I don't want any arguments to spark because of a few dry response a from one of my alters, especially since I've never had any of our alters dislike someone I know before.
Honestly your alters have every right to be upset. When you go to a “friend” with something important and they dismiss it that’s not a good friend. To have them then try to out do you in your trauma is even worse. That’s pretty toxic behavior. I’d listen to your alter on this one.
Anytime I’ve met someone and there is an alter who doesn’t like them (usually the protector) they end up not being good people. Trust yourself.