cold and distant meeting with mom as usual

I avoid staying in contact or meet my mother too often and when I do a just stay boring and not tell to much to avoid all the usual negative feedback I get from her.

this time I met her after a few months and as usual she does not say hi, how are you, nice to meet you etc. we sit quietly and eat lunch and as always it feels tense and on edge when I'm near her. when she talks it's small talk about nonsense and when I bring up something she shots me down with negativity and makes me leave the meeting with anger inside. it reminds me why I keep minimal contact with her.

anyone similar and can relate?

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Planetbullshit77

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Yes my “mom” doesn’t ever take an interest in me and our conversations are always bland. A step further is when I do tell her something in a repeated attempt for some sort of connection/encouragement…she gives short responses and never encourages me or supports me. I leave her presence knowing I am always trying to get what she doesn’t have to give. She is a narcissist. She has no care for me. She doesn’t care how I’m doing or care I’m starting a new career that is a huge challenge for me due to all the years she abused me and tore apart any self esteem (or rather never built my self esteem to begin with..while also tearing me apart.) Truly these narcissists are evil. Best to not come around much at all. Maybe just to see other family that’s around…but her? What’s the point. It’s not only dry and callous…it’s cruel. It’s a painful reminder of all the pain.