Am I over reacting ?

Are there any mothers to boys only who get these unnecessary comments for example when i was pregnant with my second and third (different pregnancies) on the gender reveal party i keep getting these comments after we found out its a boy

oh don’t worry hopefully the next one is a girl

oh…another boy…. (With an underwhelmed tone)

ughh i can’t imagine raising all boys hahaha

not happy with the results are we hahaha ha Etc

Am i overthinking it or was my pregnancy effecting me because i really think these comments are unnecessary, uncalled for and rude. I love my boys all 3 of them and even if time goes back and i have a magic spell that would turn one of them to a girl i wouldn’t use it and its not that i don’t want a daughter i do but these comments rub me the wrong way everytime

Am i being unreasonable or do these comments really justify getting upset over

in Mommitby Longjumping_Dare_599

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GiveMeAlienRomances

I hated those comments and I bet women with all girls hate the comments geared towards husbands wanting a boy too.

Next_Firefighter7605

I have a boy and girl and I got comments about it being weird. People are never happy 🤷🏻‍♀️

mrssydsully

How?! OMG. That's nuts. I imagine something along the lines of boys needing a brother or girls needing a sister?

Next_Firefighter7605

Their argument was that most people have just boys or just girls so it’s unnatural and what happens if he abuses her in the future. People are nuts. 🥜

mrssydsully

What a terrible thing to suggest, that's awful.

Next_Firefighter7605

I stopped speaking to that person.

Longjumping_Dare_599

Yes I can imagine that's the husband’s version of what's happening to me it's terrible and insensitive

ComboBurrito82

I have 3 girls and get way more comments than my husband does. Usually they are of the ilk “oh your poor husband” but also a lot of “are you going to go for a boy?” “Oh I feel sorry for you when they’re teens!” I’m not sure why I get more comments than him, I had less to do with it! 😂

Neither me nor my husband were ever disappointed by having 3 girls. My husband said last he checked, we weren’t landed gentry, so having a son wasn’t particularly important. We were actually quite happy when we found out 2&3 were girls (twins) because we wanted our oldest to have a sister. I’m pretty sure if you don’t have exactly 1 boy and 1 girl you are doomed to hear commentary on your family size/make-up.

Money_Profession9599

Even if you have 1 of each, you get commentary. It's "positive" commentary. But it's still weird.

"Aren't you clever?" Not particularly

"You're so lucky!" Yes, to be having a baby at all after 4 years of trying and 2 miscarriages.

"You must be done having kids." Weirdly, our kids genitals don't define our family size.

GiveMeAlienRomances

That’s what I mean! I have friends who have girls and they get so many your husband ….. comments and we all look at them like I’m sorry have you lost your damn mind?! I also get your husband must be happy to have only boys comments. Like how about you mind your damn business.

I do love when I get comments and the look offended when I say off the wall responses like I really wanted a unicorn. I was so disappointed I was having human babies. 😂😂

Difficult_Cost2817

I have two boys and I get comments like that too. “Oh are you gonna go for the girl?” As if my two boys aren’t my whole entire world. I usually just roll my eyes and make a big show of being annoyed lol. Or if I'm in a particularly defiant mood I'll pretend to be genuinely worried and be like "oh my gosh, do you think my children aren't enough??" just to see how uncomfortable I can make the other person.

Alive_Hold8222

I loooove this response. I'm not into ignoring stupid remarks. I think before I react but I try to be clever. My 2 yr old son has long hair and ppl always call him her and when I say "he" and they're like, "oh sorry, he has long hair." I'm sassy to them. I even once told the lady at the store who has seen him like a dozen times and knows, "well, he has a penis." As if long hair makes you a girl?!? This guy was like, "you're gonna break a lot of boys' hearts" to which I responded, "ya, I guess if he's gay." Like I can't. Ppl say dumb sh*t 🤷🏽‍♀️

HearingImaginary3366

I have two boys and have gotten comments. I tend to respond along the lines of…”Wow! Having a girl never even crossed my mind. We are over the moon, beyond blessed to have our two perfect boys.” Or something a bit more snarky..:”good thing you aren’t me then!”

Longjumping_Dare_599

I’m usually the passive aggressive type when it comes to insensitive comments but seeing my husband over the moon and happy at the parties makes me hold back because I don't wanna make a scene and ruin it for but a part of me wants to do that solo badly!

Basset-Hound-Dundy

I had a girl first and I was honestly hoping for a boy; so those comments would have been music to my ears. 💕 Obviously it doesn't matter what gender your kids are. I was a girl and a total tom boy/ my dad's dream child haha I think that's why I had it in my head that I wanted all boys; but my daughter is the complete opposite/ girly and I love her to death. I also have a boy now who is all boy and rough and tumble as it gets. You get what you are destined for and whoever around you can't see that isn't important in the grand scheme of things. These people at these baby showers won't even be there 3-5 years down the road. Most people stop attending shit after 2 years. Just laugh at them and move on.

secretlyexcited

Yes I’ve had the reverse many times (I’ve got 2 girls).

“Are you guys gonna have another one? Maybe try for a boy?”

“You should try for another one, what if it’s a boy this time?”

My response is always “no, we’re very happy the way we are ☺️”

This_Pomelo3851

Many people seem to have a terribly narrow view of the perfect life. I have a son and a younger daughter, and I get told “that’s the perfect family arrangement” and like “you got so lucky” etc. I mean, I love our arrangement, but why is it considered the only “perfect” one?

mrssydsully

Those comments are definitely unnecessary. I've told all of my close friends and family how I feel about it though (before they have a chance to say anything) so hopefully we'll avoid some of that. I have 1 boy and I think pretty much everyone knows that while I think it'd be fun to have a girl, I'd be perfectly happy if we ended up with all boys! I think it's weird for other people to assume you're unhappy with the gender of your baby. If you explicitly said you'd been hoping for a girl, then maybe these comments would be more appropriate?

Longjumping_Dare_599

Thats the right mind set to have! i never really minded both genders since my first pregnancy and I’m perfectly happy with my 3 boys if i handled 3 boys i can handle anything in life haha since it gets pretty chaotic sometimes they are boys after all and for your question no i never made any comment that may show i wanted one or the other

Independent-Bit-6996

Don't get upset because you are too blessed to let that happen. Folks are goofy sometimes and just don't get the blessings. You can let them know you are blessed. Gid bless you and your precious family. Congrats are in order

lifebeyondzebra

There is no right amount of kids or gender combo. These comments come out for every type. It’s crazy. I have one daughter and the amount of times I have to explain why I’m not having any more is insane and how often I am told I’m basically damaging my daughter because of it 🙄. My friends have boys and are in your boat op. But even the few that have one of each get asked about more and that they need siblings if the same gender but then you have like 4 kids are you are some crazy person who “needs there tubes tied” it’s no ones business. Enjoy your family and tune them out!

MissGnomeHer

I got those comments a lot with my first three kids (all boys). It irritated me, but I usually let it slide.

I stopped letting it slide when I got pregnant with my daughter. For one, it was a medically rough pregnancy. So I was already sensitive. But then all those "Oh, you must be so happy its not another boy!" statements pissed me off to no end, especially when they'd say it in front of my sons.

When she was an infant I usually responded with "Actually I'm just happy that she survived, and that I myself am still alive." It shut them up quick.

Now that she's older, I like telling people who say that stuff that she is quite literally a goblin that causes havoc on a daily basis on a scale that her brothers never did.

Ill-Barber-9486

Have you thought about skipping the gender reveal party if gender doesn’t matter to you?

Longjumping_Dare_599

It does matter to my husband who enjoys coming up with funny ways to do the reveal with seeing happy is all that matters but i just wanted to get it off my chest since i cant say it they bother me to him