Alright…so I had an ex gf. Broke up with me like 6 months ago. Brutally and nasty like. Long story. Lots of details.
That aside..I tried for months for us to get back together. No dice.
Last time we spoke was about 2 months ago…and she was kind of really shitty to me. Plus treated me like shit for most of our relationship.
Anyway…yesterday I had a miss call from her. As I mentioned before we haven’t spoken in two months…and I haven’t had a call from her in 6.
I asked her why she called me and all she said was “I’m so sorry? Butt dial, I hope you’re okay. Sorry…” then I said “ok” and she said “you okay? …..” I said busy, she said of course, goodnight” I said yep she said again apologies I said ok.” And That was it.
Like what y’all think about this?
When was the last time anyone has actually butt dialed someone?? Let alone someone you haven’t spoken on the phone with in 6 months and haven’t texted in 2 months…
What is the chances of that anyway?
Edit: I appreciate everyone speaking out here…At the very least I see I’ve given people some conversation.
The breakup was certainly something I did not want to have happen. As you may have guessed by this post and maybe previous ones. The breakup was not normal either. And neither was my reaction to the breakup…at the time I had come out of the relationship feeling like I no longer knew myself. We had spent everyday for a year and a half together. Then I was blindsided and she was leading me on for months…saying things like “I’d like to get back together at some point” or some shit idk. Been a while now.
I understand where a lot of you are coming from also. I happened to also be dumped at an extraordinarily vulnerable point in my life where things just weren’t going well for me. And all the words of “love” were still there in the end until the end. I had known her family for most of my life. I was introduced to her extended family also…and I guess at the time I thought our “relationship” was the real deal…
However…over time I realized I was used…manipulated and gaslit quite a bit. She would even get drunk and become physically abusive…lie cheat etc.
As you can see…I was dealing with and maybe in some way still dealing with what I’ve come to know as a “trauma bond”
I also didn’t really know all these things prior to us breaking up.
I guess it’s just been difficult accepting the fact that…I thought I was going to have a great relationship with a childhood friend and instead I got a terrible toxic one and it all came crashing down. In more ways than one it had truly messed up my life and I’ve been building it back brick by brick ever since. I’m slowly getting there. Slowly.
I get the “just move on” aspect. This was my 3rd long term relationship.
But for some reason this one just crumbled differently. And the treatment from her there after was outlandish and honestly unexpected and not necessary in my eyes.
But thank you for engaging. I do understand…and it’s why I came to ‘Manipulation’
It’s not fun knowing a one way bond occurred. It’s not fun learning you loved someone who was only using you.