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Do you want kids? Why or why not? How many do you want? Also, what’s your age?
QuestionHusband and I (both 35 YO) wanted kids and it wasn't happening the first several years of marriage. We had decided after we moved we would look into a fertility clinic because I've been told my whole life by doctors that it would be difficult for me to conceive. Right before the move I got sick as can be and found out it was because I was pregnant. The same day we found out it was twins! We both always wanted two kiddos and now we got them. God is so good! We didn't need to go to a fertility specialist. We have the ultimate healer on our side. ❤️
Amen! Congratulations 🤗
Thank you! 💖
I'm 32, male and always wanted two. And thanks to god, this month this dream will come true, as our second child is due at the end of may.
25 year old female here unlikely to have children at all or even get married. Aspergers does not do wonders for socializing, and I don't think I have that inherent nurturing,compassionate nature women are stereotyped as having to properly love and care for a husband and children, not to mention I'm repulsed by the actions leading to concieving children and am content to remain a virgin.
No. My father abandoned me and I'm scared that I might do the same
That's all up to you. You can choose to follow in your father's footsteps or you can choose to find your strength in the Lord. You're capable of so much more than you believe when you do it with God.
I'm asexual and aromantic so it'll be a pass.
why are you asexual even your a Christian why bro
Might just not be attracted to the idea of sex?
Kids have always been in my plans, and I've always fantasised about three. From a young age I planned on adopting. Currently, though, I do not know what anything in the future looks like.
Have two and they are my world. Can't imagine life without them. Always thought I wanted 4 kids but I feel 2 is a great number.
yes. 1 preferably. Cause id love to be a dad. 35. I care for biological cause id really love to see what MY kid would look like. Probably wont happen while married tho im done with dating for now lol and that bio clock on me isn't gonna slow down anytime soon so idk
38, I have three. No more pls.
My husband and I used to want 3-4 and then we had one. Were humbled about our abilities real quick. We think we want a second but right now it is not financially or mentally in the cards for us. Maybe 2-3 years from now when our son is in school. We are in our early 30s. Sometimes you have expectations or desires and they shift once you hit reality. I couldn’t handle 3-4 kids even though I really wanted that for years. Both of us are okay with that. It’s okay for your perceptions to change over time. We also talked about adopting but honestly it probably won’t happen unless other things improve.
I have 3, I'm in my early 40s. Done having kids.
No. I'm mentally unstable with horrible genes not passing that on. 35.
Nothing is too great for God to overcome. I'm not saying go and have a kid, but perhaps taking it to God could shift things for you. Or not. He may have different plans entirely.
I would like to raise 1 or 2 children.
I do NOT want kids. Even though I turned 30 on 4 May,2024.
Happy birthday 🎂
Thank you. To answer this question. IF anything,I would rather temporarily foster and adopt.
You are welcome. May I know the reason tho? Genuinely asking.
I do NOT wish to control their lives.
Yes I want kids why I do not know fully but I know that I don’t don’t want kids. How many umm 3 - maybe 5 or 6 and I’m about to turn 21.
At first, I(23f) didn't want to have kids, because I never felt that kind of affection people have for kids who aren't their own, like they are messy, etc... of course I would see them as cute and all...But it was hard for me to have a kind of emotional attachment with them, which made me think I was unfit to be a mother, cause if ever had a child, I might not love them deeply enough, which wouldn't be fair for them.
And then my nephew came into this world, when I say that I can't go a day without seeing his face is an understatement, that baby has all my heart, soul and money...the love I have for him is beyond my understanding... That's when I changed my views about babies, like he is not mine but I love him like he is my own, imagine how much I will love my own baby lol...
So because of this economy, having 2 is a reasonable number😅
I am 24 and I would love to have children. I want to give them as much love as possible, because I didn't get that from my own mother. I simply love them. It's been my dream for 3 years.
19 year old male, I always wanted kids (as many as god will give me), now more than ever. But I am single rn so that has got to wait.
But i am in no worry, i trust god that if he wants me to have them he will make it possible but I am also open to the idea of staying single and childless if it is gods intent.
I'm 24. I want 4 or 5. I'd be open to more if it could work financially or mentally. We're stretched financially as it is, but it would break my heart not to have the number of children I want just because of money. Maybe we'll never own a home or be able to afford new clothes, but we'll have a whole lot of love and joy.
Children are the best opportunity we have to make disciples. We will never have a greater opportunity to share God's love with someone than we do with our children. They are such a blessing.
I was told I wouldn’t be able to have bio kids when I was 16. I ended up liking the idea of adopting and not having bio kids. On the first date with my now husband I said I only wanted to adopt and not have bio kids. He said he always wanted to adopt too! He would be okay with bio kids too but it wasn’t a deal breaker. After we get married we moved close to his family which was far away from mine. The in laws were terrible and I said I don’t want any kids. I didn’t want them to have to deal with the in law toxicity and knew we’d have no help. At 27 I ended up pregnant. After having our son, I knew I wanted him to have siblings. We moved away from the in laws and are currently in the beginning stages of adopting. At this point we want 4 kids.
I grew up thinking I'd have kids, but once I hit 30 and still didn't see life working out overly well, got a vasectomy. Almost 35 and with a fellow childfree woman and we have no regrets. Would still be unable to financially handle a kid so oh well.
I'm 36 and still don't have kids. I'm on the fence about it.
As a guy, no. My life had every advantage, and it has been unbearably painful. I don't want to subject anyone else to that, especially my own kid
As a woman, yeah. I want to experience bearing my own child so very much.
It's a conflicting perspective. I'm 34 now.
I want kids BUT they will all be fostered and/or adopted. No childbirth over here. And my husband HAS to be on board with that, whoever God picks out for me. I feel like it’s more serving to give kids a home versus birthing one into this world (not to say birth is awful, but that’s my personal preference). If it’s not in God’s will for me to have kids or get married, that’s fine too.
i’m 22, i grew up in a big family and have always wanted at least 4 kids. I am 1yr married and my husband and I are working towards a specific goal before starting to try, but looking forward to it in the near future. Reasons: 1. it seems to me like God’s design for marriage. If it’s possible biologically it is a huge blessing and should be accepted as such. 2. I loved growing up with 5 siblings and my faithful Christian parents have a very positive outlook. Even though they have struggled at times, they view building a family as a shared labor of love that makes their marriage incredibly fulfilling and only gets sweeter with time. 3. I have worked with a lot of old people in healthcare and there is nothing sadder than old people with no children and grandchildren to visit them. I’m not saying you can’t develop strong bonds with people who you aren’t related to, but friends die sooner than children, and your chances of not being alone at 85 if you have no children and your spouse is dead are in my opinion very low. Not trying to scare people, i just think our modern world forgets about death and dying and the sometimes very slow slope into the ground for some people—sometimes a person gets dementia and still lives for 15 years in a facility with virtually no visitors. A family with strong and rich intergenerational love is a family where nobody has to grow old and die alone. You take care of your kids, and then one day they take care of you.
I'm 31M. Never wanted kids and still don't. My ex of 7 years wanted to adopt if we ever decided to, but I always had/ have a view that the world is garbage. Why bring another life into it to experience potential maximum misery?
It worked out for me, I figured it out and came to God, but will they? No need to risk it imo.
Yes big yes. I’ve been wanting kids since I was 17 and my sisters had kids 😅 I love my nieces and nephews. I want at least 3-5 bc I grew up 4th of 5 siblings; and I loved having so many siblings growing up so why not. I’m also open to adopting or fostering. I am 20m.
I’m in a similar boat as you. 4th of 5 children, want at least 3 since about 15-17 yrs. I trust the Lord put this desire on my heart and It shall be fruitful
Amen to that 🙏
I would like at least one. Preferably a few more, if circumstances permit. Ideally 2-4. I don't care if they're biological or not; I've made up my mind long ago that I would like to adopt at least one in the future, and possibly foster some.