What kind toxic positivity bullshit is this? I’m throwing a party when my abuser dies. Y’all are invited.
Oh yeah let me care about my oppressors since they dont already taken enough of my life force. Maybe i should also do some oral on them since that would be really kind and obviously destroy them.
This toxic take is so braindead it genuinelly angers me beyond any point i have ever felt. I bet this person either never suffered with parental trauma or is an oppresor, there is no way someone eould think deep about it and be like "yeah, thats acceptable"
This
This x2
I keep reading these things as, “You kill them.” Full stop. And “How about I kill them.” Full stop.
Who tf has the energy for all that? We all have such a limited time on the planet and I'm not spending it on people who made me wish I had LESS time on it.
Straight facts
WTF? I will not get them one minute of my time or one bit of my kind heart. They teach me that I‘m not worth anything but luckly Iearned otherwise. I spend my time with people that love me and didn‘t abuse me. That person must hate itself to really give so much to its abusers after all that they already did. I got more than enough negativity from them I‘d never give my parents the opportunity to give me more of that. That‘d be the most horrible thing to do to myself. I deserve better!
I know right? Imagine someone saying that comment to a domestic violence victim or someone who’s been sexually abused. You do deserve better! We all do.
That person has never been abused or neglected. No one in our world would say something like that…
Sheeeeit. I stood by my father’s coffin and called him a stupid son of a bitch who missed out on knowing me. When I visit my mother next month, not sure what will come out of my mouth. The only thing more dangerous than a person with everything to lose is someone with nothing to lose/
I will never speak another word to my father. If I tell him off he responds by screaming “I love you” and “I’m so proud of you” over and over again and I almost hate those words coming from anyone now. He’s purposely tainted those phrases. I like the standing next to coffin and saying it. I plan on visiting his grave to leave a bottle of his favorite nasty ass liquor with the lid super glued on. Maybe I’ll speak my mind then.
Do what brings you peace and closure. Mine was on the phone as he was dying and I refused to tell him I loved him. Didn’t deserve it and I’m proud of myself.
My mother at least tried to be a friendly person and we did have some nice time together. But she also ruined any chance I had at a normal life, and I hear her criticisms in my mind daily. When she’s gone, never going back to my home state except to visit who I consider my bonus family.
Fuck a bunch of obligations based on random biology.
Sorry for being blunt. See first part of username.
I feel you. I’m having a hard time with my mom too right now because she would leave me with my father even though she knew what was going on and would ignore my phone calls for help as he was actively abusing me and my siblings. I particularly remember one time she was on a boat and I called her sobbing because he was black out drunk and abusing us again and her boyfriend in the background kept saying “just hang up” and she said she wouldn’t come get us until our time there was up. I’m in a hard spot because family is very important to me, like see them once a week important. But I as I’m getting older I think I have more so a trauma bond than a close relationship with her. She’s done plenty of other horrible shit but I’m hung up on this right now.
I’m sorry we both had shitty parents. And I’m sorry for the trauma dump, seeing the comment in the picture made me rather upset.
No apology needed. Safe space here.
Blunt is the second part of your username
Yeah but I was sipping tequila at the time.
Personally I don't like tequila but... Nah fr. You are 100% right. You don't need to be dealing with their shit. I'm happy for you for getting away.
I didn’t like tequila until I got the 100% agave stuff. Game changer. Now I enjoy it for the taste, of all things.
And thank you much friend. 🤙🏻
Thats disgusting, trying to hook into you by using the words you most probably moat wanted to hear AFTER you (hoppefully) dealt with the situation.
That's psychotic behavior coming from your father. It's crazy to just scream that over and over in retaliation to your child. I'm sorry he ruined those phrases for you, I can understand why they're tainted.
Thank you. This is really the first time I’ve typed that out and it’s good to know it’s not just me that thought it was fucked up.
You know what's unnatural? Abusing your kids so bad that they get to the point where they want nothing to do with you.
EXACTLY. But once you want nothing to do with your abuser, suddenly you're somehow the bad person
Nah, that clearly the kid not underaranding the parents did that to "create character" and "make you stronger".
Its ok to admit you made a mistake and it is one step closer to becoming a better parent, but blaming the child is just... god how can people be so egotisticsl and unlogical.
They clearly didn't get traumatized by their parents. I can't be the bigger person anymore my heart is sore now.
Idk, what happened to them, but I am suspicious about what they have done...
This kind of rhetoric is specifically crafted to keep abuse victim trapped. It is plain guilt tripping. "Being the bigger person" or killing them with kindness " will never magically turn the abuser into a good person nor give you social brownie points, they will simply keep you trapped. This way the society that already failed the victim will not have to deal both with their failures and with the abusers themselves.
IT IS PERFECTLY NATURAL AND HEALTHY TO AVOID ABUSERS. It is called self preservation.
100% an enabler. People think enablers aren't all that bad, but they are the reason people stay trapped and blame themselves and never realise what is being done to them and how horribly wrong and perverse it is. There's a special place in hell for enablers. Throwing other people under the bus for their own convenience. Ugh.
I have the exact same thought about “forgiveness”. Sure, I’ll forgive a legit accident made by someone I genuinely know is remorseful. But giving peace of mind to an abuser? Naw. They chose to do what they did, I didn’t. If I can’t get peace of mind then neither can they.
People can change and you can differentiate between them then vs now, but that doesn’t mean I have to forgive what they’ve done to me. Forgiveness is absolutely not required to move past something. If they can’t forgive themselves, then that’s not my problem.
Exactly.
Accept i'm a abuser and either change my ways or just become an even better abuser to the point i abuse even people with power?
Naah, let me deny it all, never change, blame it all on my kid for being a dissapointment and then proceed to demand a good treatment while spreading oppresor propaganda on favebook.
God, this fills me with rage.
an abuser probably wrote that
Oh DEFINITELY haha sounds like someone who knows they’re destined for a nursing home
Written like an aging, abusive parent. "Devote your life to caring for your abusive parent, let them abuse you more, and never complain".
Right?! What an absolutely insane thing to say
I’m getting the most festively flamboyant suit I can find for my father’s funeral when the time comes. Inviting my closest friends for support as I intend to be high off my ass at this future spectacle.
I might be a bit, just a little bit, more respectful at my mother’s funeral. Or not, really depends what kind of mood I’m in once she’s dead.
Fuck fake family bullshit though. I’m wiping my ass with their traditions and they can either kiss it or have that be the last they see of me.
Imagine if this was said about a partner. "Be the bigger person and let them abuse you! Kill them with kindness!"
Hell no.
My parents will be lucky if they see me at their funerals, and then it'd only be to make sure they're really dead.
You don’t need to accept abuse to be a good person. You owe them nothing. Didn’t think that needed to be said, but here we are.
You remember that entire scene where Bojack Horseman told Hollyhock that he wanted to leave his elderly mother (who has dementia) to rot in a nursing home and just as she’s becoming lucid and recognizes him again, he’ll tell her “Fuck. You. Mom.” And he also says something like “look at you, you stupid piece of shit rotting in a nursing home” he didn’t actually tell her these things but i can’t help but relate so heavily to that feeling.
I can forgive my dad. He deserves my love, because my mom has ruined his life. I cannot forgive my mom, as she has proved time in and time again that she will not and will never change. She has hurt my whole family.
That’s putting your family willingly into danger. My mom almost fell for this while she had repressed memories, but thankfully someone talked her out of inviting her pdo progenitor to live with us (which included four girls)
Side note: my first memory is of meeting him and a voice from nowhere warning me “don’t let him touch you. Don’t let him near you. He’s BAD”
"Kill them with kindness and care" Wrong! Cheap retirement home
Well then call me breast implants because I'm unnatural as FUCK
You wanna know what else isn't natural? TIK TOK
well then call me breast implants because I’m unnatural as FUCK
unironically hard and based as hell
I have been made fun of for being weird and unnatural my entire life I am leaning full tilt into this shit and I am making it everybody else's problem. I will not be in my own lane, I will be making issues, and I will be laughing about it.
I like to tell folks that I do intend to care for my parents in their old age. And I will bestow upon them all the same kindness and attention and patience that they bestowed upon me.
I’ll make sure they feel as much safety in my care as I did in theirs. I’m sure whatever man I hire to watch them when I’m busy with all my other priorities will treat them just fine and anything they tell me to the contrary I’m sure is because old folks say crazy things sometimes and are just so easily confused.
They better hope and pray that I am never the person in charge of their care. Because if I am, they are going to be subject to the same rules and care that I was given by them because clearly they were just modeling how they would like to be treated.
The only difference is that everything I do will be legal.
Sounds like someone destined for a nursing home LOL
Honestly I kind of agree, but only to a certain extent. It satisfies me to no end to prove them wrong. My revenge is being happy, having boundaries, exercising my ability to be kind despite everything. They said I was selfish, spoiled, irresponsible etc etc - I know I am not, and I like displaying it to them. I like that they have to see that I am in my own. It feels powerful.
But that does not mean that I will work too hard at it. I'm not going to allow them to call me names, or pamper them. I just like the occasional dose of rubbing it in their face. Leaving when they are rude gives me the same satisfaction, because somehow it never occurs to them that I might do that.
Their bewilderment is nourishment. Yum.
“Don’t you dare change who you are because of them” is bonkers. Bitch who I am is FUCKED UP because of them.
Right. I’m struggling to reach my fucking potential because of them.
I showed my mother mercy and cared for her until she died. I gave her the kindness and compassion that she never received or was not able to have for me due to generational abuse, neglect, and domestic violence. I broke the chain.
I'm not saying anyone else should do this. It nearly killed me. She was mentally ill. I chose to do it because of who I am. I am not able to harm others intentionally. I'm glad that I did it. I know this will be an unpopular comment. Caring for her was the right choice for me. I am at peace about her.
But really, I don't advise you to become a caregiver to anyone who has abused you.
Caring for her was the right choice for me. I am at peace about her.
I'm glad you have peace about it ♡ if it was the right choice for you that's what matters.
Thank you for the acknowledgment. Even my therapist said that I shouldn't do it. I was honoring my values.
How bout nah. How bout we stop assuming children owe parents labor. How bout we stop having kids we don't actually want. How bout we build somewhere safe for children to go when their parents mistreat them.
Lmfao my dad will get better treatment than he ever gave me by my ignoring his existence. He has had more than enough chances and has shown he won't change and he thinks everyone else is the problem. Only reason I'd even show to a funeral is to confirm the bastard is actually dead!
Girl (or bro) I'm with you! when my mama dies I'm doing a jig on top of her grave site and pissing on it.
I’ll buy you a Big Gulp and diuretic, and DJ for you.
Yeah.. no
Every time I hear "I'm doing this for you because I know when I'm old you're going to financially cover for me" I think a small part of me dies.
Even if you're good to your kids, doing it with a "well this is insurance so I don't end up in a home" angle and not an "I love them and wanna help them out" angle is fucked lol. Like glad to know I'm an investment, I guess.
All of my Guardians(Aunts who took care of me) and my mother be saying the same thing to me and now, I'm not doing anything for them😂
Haha, that's fair enough. The person mostly responsible for my trauma wasn't anyone in my family, so if nothing else I'd probably help them out just 'cause I'd rather be kind even if they weren't always the best parents.
Within reason, anyway- I dunno where the expectation so many older people have of "even if I have severe dementia and am combative and have serious health needs I expect you to keep me in your place and take care of me alone" comes from but that's not reasonable, especially with what we get paid these days lol.
Be better than your abusers…have the patience they never did and traumatize them when they’re geriatric (unlike kids, they should know better at their old age ❤️)
Totally agree. I will bake the cake of your choosing for the Death of Your Abuser party. My kindness is reserved for people who deserve it!
This type of behaviour is what got me into abusive relationships. No, some people just cant be killed with kindness. The one killed will be yourself.
What an unhinged comment
Trying to guilt people into being a punching bag for their whole life with no accountability for abuser
"Let them abuse you and be happy about it" is not the kind of take was was expecting this early in the day.
Be better than your abuser. If you are put in charge of care, make sure they're in an environment to be cared for, by people who will actually care. Don't beat the fuck out of them, send them where they'll be assulted and starved.
In order to be as bad as your abuser you’d have to abuse them (and even then it’s arguably not the same, since abusing an abuser back isn’t the same as abusing an innocent person). Getting out of your abuser’s life and moving on is ALREADY being better than them.
It's unnatural for a parent not to care for their children either lol
I did take care of mine, with healthy boundaries, and I absolutely would never tell anyone they should. It can be cathartic and even validating, it can also be re-traumatizing and just a continuation of abuse.
Nah. Be a better person by treating people in general better, especially vulnerable people. Not by letting someone hurt you.
I don’t wanna be better
I want them to pay for what they’ve done.
what. is. blud. yappin. about. That is some Stockholm shit. Sad to know they haven't figured out life is better without them.
Nah. 🤡
Nope. Nope. Fuck right off with that nonsense.
You know what's unnatural? Abusing your kids.
Abusers don't get to have a happy ending of not being accountable to their victim while the victim pretends the abuse never happened.
Jesus Christ.
@ the person: STFU
She should've just ended with "You kill them".
It’s also unnatural to give ur kid ptsd… but hey it’s not about us is it. Cause it never is.
I'm all for showing unrequited kindness and compassion, buuuuut no. It's not reasonable to expect anyone to tolorate abuse. You're also a human being and you don't deserve to deal with that. You deserve love and respect
Lol I hate this dumb shit
Like nah they can rot in some form of an aged care facility if not prison
Yeah I did this. Biggest mistake of my life. I was afraid I’d curse myself for not being a compassionate soul and better than how my parents brought me up, but the cost to my own health and well being was too high. You can be compassionate without putting yourself in harm’s way. It took me too long to realize that.
The literal bare minimum for “being better than your abuser” is not abusing someone.
I expect to have a party when the obit finally shows up on a Google search.
I cut contact years ago. Only regret not doing it sooner.
Yeah, nah, I'm not taking the moral height ground. I'm going no contact and leaving the country when I'm older or that's the plan still scared tho but hey I'll figure out how to adjust or end up homeless worst case scenario I live out of a motel I did it before I can do it again
I don't have enough energy to deal with that. They can enjoy the nursing homes that they work in.
Fuck that if an abuser had no remorse of being a bully or a abuser till the end of their life they don’t get sympathy
I’d rather take an person with an actual conscience than someone who had no regret being shitty to people it bites them in the ass
Dudes watch too much Christmas carol
Yah that’s bullshit I’mma find a nursing home with a load of negligence cases and slip em extra to really neglect him. Child abusers ain’t human you wanna fuck with someone whose vulnerable and defendant in you take a spin see how it feels
Absolutely not.
Reddit has become enshittified. I joined back in 2006, nearly two decades ago, when it was a hub of free speech and user-driven dialogue. Now, it feels like the pursuit of profit overshadows the voice of the community. The introduction of API pricing, after years of free access, displays a lack of respect for the developers and users who have helped shape Reddit into what it is today. Reddit's decision to allow the training of AI models with user content and comments marks the final nail in the coffin for privacy, sacrificed at the altar of greed. Aaron Swartz, Reddit's co-founder and a champion of internet freedom, would be rolling in his grave.
The once-apparent transparency and open dialogue have turned to shit, replaced with avoidance, deceit and unbridled greed. The Reddit I loved is dead and gone. It pains me to accept this. I hope your lust for money, and disregard for the community and privacy will be your downfall. May the echo of our lost ideals forever haunt your future growth.
This assumes the abuser acknowledges the abuse, to themselves or anyone else…..Yeah, cuz that’s soooo common /s
Edit to add who the guy is: Youranxietyislying2yew
I follow guy in the video and love his stuff and saw that comment too. It royally pissed me off because I did do that and you know what I got in return? Kicked out of the house and told I was a “piece of shit and a stupid naive girl who manipulates people with her kindness”.
Whos the guy in the video?
Youranxietyislying2yew. His stuff is amazing and his grandma is wholesome
I feel like I need a shower after reading that
What’s unnatural is abusing your own children to the point where they despise you and hope never to see you again once they leave. That doesn’t happen just by telling a kid no one too many times. It comes from being reminded every day that you are nothing to these people who are suppose to love and care for you.
Abusers torment their children however they see fit and fully expect their children to simply put up with them forever like they did their parents. No, we are not our parents who fell to the same cycle of abuse and torment.
Ahh if I have to assist my aging dad who’s a sexual deviant attracted to younger women including me.. and my daughter is anywhere around.. he will not be safe in my care, cause I will go mamma bear.
It’s unnatural to rape your child sir/ma’am!
lol no
Nah. Been non contact since 2014 for a reason. U know she’s 50 now and getting bad with all the ( I know with updates from my siblings) drugs she did and still does. I hope she suffers from it all I hope as she gets worse she remembers how horrible she was to me
How far does that extend, I wonder?
Let them call you names. Let them yell. Let them. .....let them what? punch you in the face, shove you around, and then what? biiiiig old hug to make it all better?
Right? If they want to rape you and they can’t should you just climb on top?
The only thing I’m helping my mom with at old age is pulling the plug LOL
It's also unnatural to hurt your kids so badly that their lives are objectively better without you, but here we are 🤷♂️
I’d kill any abuser with the same neglect and abuse they put me through 🤷♀️ why would I offer them any of my sympathy, my time, or my effort?
Yeah, pass. lol.
No you the victim don’t owe your abuser anything. Life is too short to be miserable
“Kill them with kindness” tried that didn’t work, now we just kill them
This made me breathe really hard through my nose 😂
That’s the highest honour I have ever received
I warned my mother before i cut contact with all of them that my pos brother will dump her and my father in a home and take everything they have so don't come crying to me when that happens.
absolutely the fuck not lmao, my mum is getting to 80 and she can go live in a home when the time comes. or burden my sister, neither my brother nor i are lifting a finger 😌
I cringed while reading that
HAHAHAHAHA No fucking thank you.
I bet this person would be mad that I cut contact already before they need care lol
Im still probably going to take care of my parents in some form when they get to about 70 and ask for it
But I'll be damned if I act like I'm forgetting anything
Spoken like someone who is only upset because their parents said no and yelled. NOT because they were verbally abused
What kind of toxic bullshit advice is that?
I was hospitalized three times for attempting to kill myself because of them. Good luck with gettibg me to help them in old age. Should have thought of that while before you made me the emotionally frail person I am.
(I'm fine now I have a psychiatrist and a therapist please do mot send a Reddit Cares)
Sometimes you have to give people the consequences of their actions regardless if they are family or not.
this is such a honking take lmao. i've always made it clear to my parents that when they get old and unable to care for themselves i will be putting them in a home or the like. for some reason it's always on the abused to step up and "be the bigger person" and i fucking hate it.
I will never understand why my parents are so kind to perfect strangers and yet just terribly mean to me. It is my duty to myself to protect me from that
How about I show them that they haven’t killed my kindness by being kind to people that deserve it?
Anyway mom will always see me as shit anything I do so I’ll be kind to show others how kind I am, and personally, having people be so confident in how kind I am that when I tell them my feelings towards my mom they don’t need to hear any stories they just know she’s bad because how else could a kind person like me not like their mom is goals
This aint some hollywood movie it wont work in a million years
What a stupid, brain rot induced response.
No lol fuck that.
I want to commit physical violence against this person and I don't even feel bad
no❤️
🤣🤣🤣 Unnatural my ass. I love my parents, but I have friends and family with parents who will absolutely get put in a nursing home and never visited. The whole living your best life thing doesn't mean showing your abuser that you're still a kind person. They don't care, that's why they are abusers.
I will be better than my abuser by not being abusive. It's not a difficult bar to clear.
However, going above and beyond?
Haha no.
Lol no
lmao no
This is how karma works- there's always a time when you'll be in the inferior position and then they'll know how much pain they caused
Certainly kill them with kindness, but from a safe distance, where they're not directly benefitting from your money. Also, since I'm here, there is nothing kind about letting other people treat you like garbage.
i CaN cHaNgE hEr
I appreciate the sentiment, but that is simply not feasible. I’m responsible for my own recovery and my own happiness. That means that I should make the best choice for myself, which would include leaving my abusers to suffer if it came to that
Oh yeah just go to a jew post holocaust and tell them to treat the nazis well so they are better than them.
Oppressors deserve no forgiveness unless they proven worthy, you cant just make someones life a living hell and expect no return from you investment.
I was the bigger person for the first 27 years of my life cause I had to survive. I think I’ve more than payed my dues.
My first memory of them was pain and betrayal, and I'll be damned if their last memories of me aren't the same
Actually half decent advice in some situations. If the parents were physically abusive, it wouldn't work very well in that situation, but if the parents were just the kind who went "oh you'll never make it in life cuz ur stupid" it'd be a good idea to do that and show them that you're better than them in every way.
I don't wanna make people feel bad but this could be really good advice for some people's situations.
It's unnatural to be an abuser! Have them take care of the parents and call them names .
“Kill them with kindness” murder is also an option.
Living a life filled with kindness and joy can be excellent, spiteful, healthy revenge, but you can do that without ever seeing or talking to or your abuser again. Stay safe and take care of yourselves y’all. The take in the screenshot is some very harmful major bullshit!
I found a great nursing home out in Gary, 2.3 on Google reviews and most of them are either an employee saying "I love it here raise plz" or residents saying "please help me leave"! The only pics are the street view and one inexplicable pic of someone's cat with a Snapchat filter. One review says the employees smoke in the halls. Absolutely perfect for him!
I say leave them to their own devices
fuck that, i hope they rot before they die
Haaaaaa! No.
You’re invited when mine dies too.
That commenter definitely has a good connection with their parents and dont know how much shit a parent can give to their child.
I do not care how old you are, if you made me feel like shit for two entire decades, I shouldnt feel obligated to assist your last few
hah yeah right
Should have thought about that before acting, EH?!
Lol I'm somewhere below 'cheapest retirement home possible' and 'random homeless person' when if comes to caring for either of my parents once they get too old and decrepit to handle themselves.
I have made powerfully clear there's nothing left here for my family of origin, and that if I get so much as a letter about a will, I'm gonna make a book recounting the events of my childhood and release it where everyone they know will find out what kind of people they were
nah I don't need to prove to THEM that I am a worthy person. I already am. And also nah to letting them yell at me and call me names. Why would anyone ever recommend letting someone freely abuse you while you are actively taking care of them. They knew they were gonna die eventually so I'll just let them go do that
nah I’m good bye ✌🏻
My parents had no issues completely abandoning me with nothing, leaving me homeless for years at freshly 18, just because "things weren't working out" like I was a roommate. That's unnatural, not me refusing them back into my life after I've worked hard for everything I have. The difference is I wasn't okay but they had no issue with my suffering. They are okay, and I don't want to see them suffer.
I follow that dude on YouTube, I don’t remember his name though
Not gonna lie i almost instinctively downvoted this. That was awful
Being mean to me will change me. How can it not? This person is dumb
Nah, my dad ever has the audacity to ask, I will cackle in his stupid old man face. The gutter is free bitch, know your worth.
I do agree that you shouldn't mistreat them, but only bc you don't need an elder abuse charge on your record. Your abuser shouldn't ruin your life more than they already have. Just stick that bitch in a nursing home and be done with it.
Man me and my siblings joked about how we want our parents to die
now my mother is rotting in a nursing home and we will never visit her
Naw. I'm sure they wouldn't want someone as worthless, spoiled, and bratty as me taking care of them in their old age. I'm doing them a favor, really. They should have someone they actually like taking care of them.
Honestly, after enough therapy… the commenter is right. I’ve had a really traumatic first 18 years at this whole life thing. I’ve been everything from beat and verbally abused by my parents to bullied by both students and teachers, and raped… treating abusers kindly is a strength. They want you to feel bad. They want you to stoop as low as them and piss all over their graves. It’s your politeness that they’re not prepared for.
Lmao this is a weird take. No one should allow themselves to be abused to be “polite”. There’s no reason to be polite with abusers because there’s no reason to be in contact with them.
It’s a weirder take to think someone ‘allows’ themselves to be abused just because they don’t adapt the same exact antisocial behaviour. I never allowed myself to be abused. I was targeted and my vulnerability was taken advantage of. Whether you respond with anger/aggression or not, an abusive person is going to target you and try to feed off of you so long as you’re vulnerable.
It is what it is. If I was in a position with my father crippled and old, I’d rather take care of him than let him suffer to death. Why? Because that’s exactly what he’d want. He’d want an excuse to play the victim. That’s what all abusers want. He’d want me to be the bad guy in his life in order to justify his cruel behaviour. He’d want to play the victim. “I beat you and raped you because I always knew this is what a trash human being you are. See, everyone? See what kind of daughter I have??”. There’s a difference between manslaughter and first degree murder. Abusers are always gunning for manslaughter.
Point is, not only am I not trash, but I’m a way better person than my father could ever be, and no amount of abuse, or my bloodline, will ever change that about me. He can’t claim any responsibility for it, I’m just simply an inherently kinder, more merciful person than him. And there’s power to that because I could choose cruelty, but I don’t. I am better than my abusers, and that makes me feel infinitely more superior and better.
The comment in the picture literally says to allow yourself to be abused. I don’t agree that just having nothing to do with your abusers is the same as “adapting the same exact antisocial behavior”. I am nothing like my abusers either but I will never interact with them again. I’m not advocating for abusing other people for revenge. But they deserve none of my time, energy, or sanity. I have nothing to prove to them. I am a human being who does not deserve abuse inherently.
All abusers are not the same. Many abusers believe they did nothing wrong and being nice to them or taking care of them isn’t going to “prove them wrong”. If anything many abusers would take that as proof that they weren’t abusive. My abuser certainly would.
If that gives you closure cool but it’s not fair of you to say that’s the right approach when it comes to abusers because your situation is not one size fits all.
It’s weird to think and to say that me going no contact is the same as my father abusing me when I was a child.
I do not give a shit if my abuser plays the victim, if people believe him without knowing the full story those people have no place in my life.
I am also better than my abusers, but I don’t feel the need to prove that to anyone, especially not the perpetrators of the abuse.
We can agree to disagree.
Be kind to OTHERS to spite your abuser. Don't be kind to your abuser, they don't deserve your kindness
Brain dead take. How about I kill them with the same amount of neglect and discomfort they showed me growing up instead of kindness. Yk what else is unnatural? Being mean to your fucking kid that you chose to bring into this world and are supposed to care for.