I'm on my fourth therapist (seventh "professional"). Why am i doing this to myself again...
This guy has already showed me how misinformed he is by telling me that because stress is linked with adhd and people who didn't grow up in a safe environment have similar symptoms, that means adhd is curable.
I was misdiagnosed with it for a whole year. Sure turns out I don't have it but those are still my people he doesn't talk about them like that.
Now he has told me about a study where two actors were screaming at each other on the streets without the people who were seeing it knowing it was made up. Then police (still actors) showed up and asked the people who thought it was real to explain the situation. Only 2% remembered it correctly. That's why he isn't sure if I'm remembering the severity of the abuse.
This just made the big gaslighting symptoms i have even worse. I hate this.
Two actors, police and a bunch of random people? It sound like a "funny social experiment" on youtube, not like a real study.
Maybe he's referring to the curve of forgetting? I didn't found mentions about these elusive two actors or the police https://esfacademicsupportservices.wordpress.com/2014/09/16/the-curve-of-forgetting/ .
But it's kind of dumb, because obviously it should not be applied to negative memories (https://www.webmd.com/brain/news/20070829/bad-memories-easier-to-remember#:~:text=A%20new%20study%20suggests%20that,the%20brain%20linked%20to%20memories), especially to trauma, it's valid only for studying boring stuff that the brain tends to forget.
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And he's completely missing the point, when we talk about trauma, we don't obsess over "objective facts", we're talking about emotions that remain "stuck", unprocessed. A therapist should take your word for it, you're not trying to make an investigation.
Please change therapist if you can, maybe try someone with experience in the Internal Family System, EDMR or in somatic therapy