My therapist said this to me. I’ve been seeing her for many years and she’s been the only consistent adult in my life that actually cares about me. I’m still kinda reeling. She wants me to heal and forgive them. I feel so betrayed.
I know that my parents are also victims of the cycle of generational trauma and abuse, but they are still grown ass adults who continued (and continue) to neglect and abuse me. They weren’t even young and dumb when they had kids, they were in their fucking 30s.
I do want to try and heal my relationship with my dad, and maybe even my mom. Who knows. But, they haven’t done a single thing to deserve that at this point. It just hurt and I needed to vent. I haven’t even finished unpacking the trauma I have from them, I don’t remember so much.
Maybe I’m just naive, but I don’t feel like I need to forgive them to heal what I’ve gone through. If anything, I need to be fucking pissed. I refuse to make excuses for them for what they did. Ok rant over. Thanks for listening.