Today is the day I leave my abusive home. Please tell me things will be okay.

It will be ok. You are strong and you can do this! I am so happy for you for taking this step and leaving your toxic situation behind.😊

Good on you. A new start away from the family who’ve kept you in the same place. Put it this way, leaving is certainly not going to make things any worse. You are absolutely doing the right thing. You’re putting yourself in control. If there is an uproar, leave it to them. You’re looking in a different direction now. And another beauty… if they turn up at the door…..you don’t have to answer it. Freedom

It's been a year living outside my abusive home, and hell It was scary. I needed my cellphone close all the time because I was convinced the were going to contact me only for the porpose to harm me. And well, they did, a lot.

But the thing is, in a safe home, with my partner, I am learning to feel safe (It's reaaally hard sometimes). I did not have even the chance to heal at my home, they simply did not let me. So I understand now how normal was for me (or you or anyone Who has suffered this shit) to be scared. I'm not going to tell you "dont be scared"; but I would really like to tell you that NOW IS when you can start being yourself. You'll see it's scary because It IS, but you will see too, how you can do it. Day by day, you are going to be one step away from the abuse and and step closer to be safe, to be your self, to be a little scared because things can get scary, but not trapped. You are going to see that, being yourself doesnt mean danger, but the total opposite, that's the only way to learn how to fight for yourself and defend yourself

You have been incredibly strong and brave, and you'll see soon how It is all worthy :)

(Sorry for my english, not my mother language)

After many talks with my psychologist reiterating that I wanted/needed to leave, CPS removed me from my mom’s house when I was 17. I have the day tattooed on my leg because to this day I feel like if i went through that process of leaving, I can do anything. Leaving is one of the hardest steps in the healing journey. I mean, it’s tough to leave any abusive relationship; it’s even harder if it’s your parents - the people we’ve been ingrained to trust and love. I’m very proud of you for sticking to your decision and making that move. Do not underestimate your courage and strength through the process. — If I’m being honest, I was paranoid about my mom showing up to my apartments for years. I was paranoid whenever I saw a car that looked like hers circle by. My paranoia was very strong for the first couple of years. — I also wanna say, you wont automatically live happily ever after you move. I self harmed a lot after and then I’d spiral, feeling bad over the fact that I was out of my abusive household but I still - did not know how to take care of my self - self harmed - felt paranoid and anxious over small triggers - etc. Healing is very much an active practice and moving out is only the beginning. Which is why I dream of making a nonprofit that provides support to abuse survivors. I dont want to work with the kids directly. I wanna work with the adults. Because once youre out, you realize you have very little figured out. I’m not saying this to be a downer, I guess I’m saying it because I wish someone had told me. — Also, again, really really proud of you. Message me if youd like some emotional support or anything :)

CONGRATULATIONS 🎉🎉🎉🎉 things will be ok, there might be times where you question everything and think you should go back. When those come up take a step back and breath💚💚💚 it has been almost over a decade since I left my abusive home. I have been able to make my own family that loves me, that took forever lol. There are times you might feel empty but if you try to look at the empty and try to change that feeling to feeling safe. I'm proud of you 💚

It's going to be better than okay you are happy and free ❤️ we are all so proud of you. Sending you lots of love and happiness that you deserve ❤️ 💗

I did this almost exactly a year ago. It was riiiiiight before June.

I had many ideas for how I'd leave. I ended up just... leaving. Didn't leave a note, just sent a text in the morning, and then blocked all communication.

I have lived in fear since then of my dad showing up at my door. So I tried to look it in the face..... I'm over 18. All of my stuff is mine. He gives me problems, I call the cops, he's trespassing.

it gets better. (Really, I know this is SO OVERUSED but it does get better in this situation.)

It will take some time to adjust, so please remember to be patient with yourself too. It will be okay, and things will start to work out for the better for the first time. It's okay to enjoy these good moments! You are free, my dear, and there is nothing better than that freedom after a lifetime of control and oppression.

Enjoy every minute, and take tonight to celebrate even if it's just for you!

I've been living happily away from my abusive family for nearly 7 years now. It will get better with more distance.

Good job 👏 leaving my abusive family was one of the scariest, but also most rewarding things I’ve ever done. 2 years later, and the glow up that I’ve had is insane. I’m in the best physical shape of my life, I’m more confident than I’ve ever been, and just generally way more well adjusted. You are strong and you will get through this ❤️

I’m so proud of you internet stranger for getting yourself out! SO PROUD! That’s why I know it’s going to be okay. You got this. It won’t always feel okay but it will be.

Keep in mind that the trajectory towards better isn’t going to be linear but you’ve taken the very most important step. Looking back I can say now that leaving is the point it all changed. My only regret is not doing it sooner.

You’re not paranoid btw. You’re right to freak out but all you can do is take all the precautionary steps you can and that’s it. You just gotta risk it if you don’t want to them to continue dictating what kind of life you have. Eventually things will be undoubtedly safe and you can begin to change your instincts but for now they’ve served you well and will continue to do so while you get settled in your new life.

Congratulations for breaking the cycle. You already did it by taking this momentous step. A lot of people never get past the fear. Remember what a trooper you already are 💪

It gets easier. If you can, get therapy now to work through the emotions coming. If you need to go no contact with your family to protect yourself, that's ok as well. You're not a bad person for removing an abusive person from your life, doesn't matter who they are.

🫂 Congratulations and I'm so happy for you (and proud, it's not easy)!

It'll be okay I'm the long run, but it's a pain figuring out how to get there. Remember, you've been running in survival mode for a very long time, even though logically you know you're free it's going to take a long time for the body to catch up.

For myself, I describe it as surviving a flashbang grenade. My entire childhood was the initial explosion, causing nothing but confusion and pain. Now, the explosion is over, but I'm still stunned and reeling, and now that I realize what happened, I'm waiting on the pieces to finish falling and dust to settle. When it's all said and done, I'm able to see it for myself and not reacting because of someone/something else. At that point, I can start to clean the destruction the way I need to. It's been i guess 5 years since I've started this journey and it is FAR from linear. But it'll be okay. It helps to stop on occasion and think about how far you've come compared to where and who you used to be.

And remember: living in Your own home? You are not in trouble, you are safe, you have authority in Your Home- meaning if unwanted guests show up you are well within your right to ask they leave and escalate to force them to if you choose, that is if you open the door for them in the first place! (I tell myself this one a lot, I only started being able to put this into words maybe a year ago. No one ever told me that and I wish they had, so I'm telling you, lol.)

YOU ARE doing the right thing! I can also tell you that you are already doing better than i was able to. I got out in my early twenties but not with my own money. I wasn't able to work, I eventually ahd to come back. I am not ok. If you can provide for yourself you are doing GREAT. Your independence from your family is going to be best for your health and future.

However I will not tell you your fears are paranoid. I don't know that. Your fears of your family coming after you is something that does happen to some people and I don't know you or your family well enough to now how they will react...but that wouldn't be worse than you having stayed. All I can tell you is to prepare yourself for the possibility that your family might retaliate in some way and see if you can get some advice for how to take safety precautions for that possibility. Speak to some people who HAVE had to deal with that fear coming true and find out how they have protected themselves physically and emotionally. Many people have some very good advice about that!

Congratulations! That is a huge step and so worth it. Be proud of yourself and cheris this moment. :) You will do great!

Congratulations!! You will learn to feel safe over time. Maybe not immediately, but you will get used to it 💜

Congratulations ❤️

Being okay is hard. Especially for us. Newfound freedom is amazing though. Enjoy! 🙂

The peace you're about to have will be unknown to old you. Congratulations, you did it!! You're about to be so much healthier, happier, and more confident!

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Things can definitely feel like they get worse after leaving, it's difficult to adjust to any kind of peaceful environment when all you've known is chaos.

I went from one abusive home to another, but I've been in my own place for almost a full year now (a week from Saturday will be a full year) and I've been doing so much better than I ever have before.

It definitely took some adjusting to, I'm still trying to make it feel like my own space, but I'm getting there at least. Later either this month or next month I'm gonna try and get a couple more pieces of furniture (a couch and a dresser) and I think I'll be able to have things be a lot more comfy, especially for if I have guests over.

Just try and take things one step at a time, and I'm sure you'll do just fine 🥰

Things can definitely feel like they get worse after leaving, it's difficult to adjust to any kind of peaceful environment when all you've known is chaos.

I went from one abusive home to another, but I've been in my own place for almost a full year now (a week from Saturday will be a full year) and I've been doing so much better than I ever have before.

It definitely took some adjusting to, I'm still trying to make it feel like my own space, but I'm getting there at least. Later either this month or next month I'm gonna try and get a couple more pieces of furniture (a couch and a dresser) and I think I'll be able to have things be a lot more comfy, especially for if I have guests over.

Just try and take things one step at a time, and I'm sure you'll do just fine 🥰

You got this! Thrive, be happy, feel peace and adventure...best to you.