DAE recoil from physical touch as an instinctual reaction? Even if ok with it? Family/friends too? It’s tough w/ romantic relationships. During sex I’m fine with it, but outside of bedroom my first reaction is to recoil!!!
Yes, and I've got a coworker I've had to ask multiple times to stop touching me. Bumping against me playfully, or grabbing my hands, or putting her hand on my shoulder. It's messed how few people understand 'please stop'. I asked my manager to speak with her after it continued post-asking her to stop and even my manager acted like it wasn't a big deal she was touching me.
I hadn't considered this was due to physical abuse, though. That makes sense. Can't believe it took me this long to understand that, I thought I was defective. I don't mind it if it's someone I know and trust. Or if I'm the one who initiates it first, like if I ask if I can hug someone or something.