But aren’t we all? Here’s my question. Why is it so hard to tell my wife I need her? Why am I unable to be vulnerable with her? We’ve been going through a really hard time lately. A couple months ago, we came out of a separation. She has simply decided to stay with me. Her therapist told her that just because she has a feeling, it doesn’t mean the feeling is real. And this really changed her perspective. Lucky me. I’m happy she’s back. But because of the previous separation, I’m afraid to tell her that I love her. I used to say it all the time. Now, it just hurts to say. Don’t get me wrong. I LOVE my wife with all my heart, but because she’s told me on several occasions that she doesn’t love me, I can’t get myself to say it now. It just hurts too much knowing that she just doesn’t feel the same toward me. She’s simply settling. She’ll still tell me “I love you,” sometimes. It’s normally if I’ll be out of town for a few days. I’ll say it back in those times. But other than that, I’m just too hurt. I don’t know what to do anymore. Any time I stand up for myself, the rage monster within her comes out. I hate this. But I know who I married, and I know why I married her. I just wish this wasn’t so hard. I’m laying in bed right now. She’s laying next to me, sleeping soundly. I can’t sleep because I just feel ignored. I’ve had so much going on, and I feel like I just need my wife. Why is it hard to say something? 😮‍💨