I used to struggle a lot with hyper sexuality a few years ago due to my trauma, which inexplicably made relationships harder for me and another source of trauma for me. I used to be addicted to the feeling of being “wanted” even if it wasn’t in a romantic sense, if you get what I mean. I used to crave a lot of sexual attention.
But now I fear sex and relationships all together. I just can’t do it anymore. One becaus I’m afraid but two is because I am trying to make a conscious effort of the type of relationships I engage in. I don’t think I could allow myself to be intimate ever again because people have taken advantage of that in the past a lot. Really what I want out of a relationship is to have a best friend, someone who I can spend time with, confide in, do things I enjoy, but todays “dating” culture is all about sex and I just can’t risk being in that mind space again.
I stopped dating about 8 years ago because I just got tired of the same cycle and didn't have the energy to keep trying to fix myself enough to be in another relationship. It gets lonely but that's less painful than being in another bad relationship. And I feel like I'm incapable of being in a good one.