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I have a regular bio with inclusive photos that aren’t weird, very normal, nothing that would make a woman run away.
What you think is normal does not necessarily imply that the rest of us will agree that it is in fact normal, especially with the written part. Perhaps enlighten us with it.
Should I make another post with my profile photos and bio and ask for advice or should I just copy and paste what it says
Yes, please post your photos and profile info.
Brother, your last line is a massive red flag. That is why the women you're attracted to don't like you. You may also be ugly, we don't know, all we know is that you for some reason think you're too good for overweight women, despite all the evidence pointing to that not being true.
What does overweight look like to you? Just curious.
I’d say anyone over 160lbs as a female.
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Sir. 41% of adults in the us are obese and 30% are overweight. I’m 5’6 and fit at 145. A little bit of sadness last summer meant that my weight jumped to 162lb for a few months. Your standard is yours but just know it’s one that defines less than a third of the US population
but someone could be skinny and not go to the gym and eat healthy- so not “taking care of themselves”. i think you just want a skinny person? since you are so focused on weight.
I was told by even toxic people that I'm not ugly and here I am in the same situation. It's not only looks.
Why are you swiping on them?
Your comments here are a little odd. Are you asking the women you match with how much they weigh? Because that… could be your problem. And yes, it is an ugly thing to do
Are you unwilling to date overweight women?
I have but I also feel that now I’ve lost over 70lbs and improved myself I’d like to find someone who also takes care of themselves better and want something better my ex was 185lbs.
And what if they are slim but DON’T “ take care of themselves”? What happens then?
Okay
If you're only matching with larger bodied women that means you're swiping right on them 🤔 Maybe open your mind a bit and realize that not everyone who is "overweight" doesn't take care of themselves. I understand we all have preferences, but assuming you know why someone is in a larger body is potentially ableist.
You’ve had short conversations with babes but you blew it. That’s what you’re not telling us.
If you mean 180 pound girls then yes but unmatched because I want someone who takes care of themselves better ive never matched with someone under 180lbs since losing 70 lbs myself
How do you know how much they weigh? And stop with that “ takes care of themselves” bullshit line. You want a slim woman. Being slim and taking care of yourself doesn’t necessarily go hand in hand. If you met a slim woman I bet you wouldn’t give a shit if she didn’t exercise or eat sensibly.
Double book? More like double standards.
It might be because you are, self described, "very normal."
Try to stand out.
I don’t like fat girls either but there’s a surprisingly large population of chubby chasers out there. So that makes all of the fat girls (80% of adults in the USA are overweight or obese) feel really special, despite being absolutely hideous.
I’ll probably get assassinated for this.. and I’m not okay with that for the record.
Most of your matches will be this way. The more attractive women swipe less. Try buying in for a month. You’ll see the people who like you and you can swipe rampantly without regard to be seen by more people…
I guess that does make more sense I usually buy a week but started to realize a week is very expensive rather then just buy a month and hope for the best
I may have meant week. Don’t really need more than that to work through the crowd…
Hey, may not be your looks, could be your personality. Don’t sell yourself short!