Is any one else incredibly easily influenced?

DAE

So I'm wondering if this is masking or following directions/suggestions too literally or just personal idiocy or all of the above.

Examples: - age 16 going round to a mans house after just meeting him in the street because it was raining and he said I should get out of the rain. Got a bit suss when he asked me to take my trousers off so he could dry them for me 😑

age 38 (current) taking on and organising an extensive clear out for a community group I'm involved in after repeated comments from some other group members that it needed done.

Lots of other similar examples.

Trying to prevent it becoming an issue where I can't trust my judgement on things.

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22d

Wasp_bees

22d

I have always been very gullible.

In day to day life usually it happens when someone is being funny/silly and I 100% think they are serious.

I was also groomed at 14 by a university student who found me on MySpace. At the time I thought I was special.

It’s highly common for neurodivergent people to be in controlling or abusive relationships (including friendships) and I believe it’s because we are taught to give people benefit of the doubt and be ‘easy going’

redlilbird

21d

I'm on the other side of the spectrum. I've always been really skeptical and quite cynical too.

One day when I was about 6yo I was at a playground putting on my roller skates when I got approached by an adult asking me if I wanted candy. If I did I'd have to come with him and join him to his vehicle. To which I responded "No, I already have some candy in my pocket, here LOOK 😄🍬🍬" Then he mentioned having puppies at home and the cogs in my brain started turning. I loudly asked him "WAIT, are you one of those CHILD-LURERS 🤨 ???" (We use the term 'kinderlokker' in Dutch.) The guy immediately bolted off and I never saw him again.

Having really bold, direct responses isn't always the best thing but I guess it did save me a couple of times! 😬

breezyhodges

21d

Yeah happens a lot, I take people at their word. This often makes it so I get walked over with work, friendships, relationships etc. it has also made me over correct where I can be pretty stand offish with people 🙃

ChaoticBiGirl

22d

I've had the silly moments of someone being like "LOOK A DISTRACTION " and i looked or the time a friend said "hey look a toonie" and then shoved me into a snow bank 🤣 i got him back. Also like peer pressure from friends 😬

keypiew

21d

I have a more of a PDA profile, so I'm not very gullible or easily influenced. It comes with it's own challenges.

I think being trustful and unsuspicious against others can stem from not always being able to read non-verbal cues accurately, taking things literally and being a people pleaser due to not wanting to get rejected or to seem weird. Some people are also naive and can't grasp that other people can have ulterior motives, since themselves are genuinely nice people with high moral standards. Sometimes processing delays and alexithymia can make autists defenseless and extra vulnerable to other peoples bad intentions. Maybe we don't realize someone wasn't nice to us until hours or days later, when we have been able to process the situation.

My husband is NT, but very autistic coded without meeting the criteria for a diagnosis. I've been learning him not to trust everyone just because they are nice to him. I've also learned him to be more of a critical thinker when interacting with people and sometimes I help him interpret situations and peoples actions correctly.

eyes_on_the_sky

21d

I pretty much always assume that everyone has the best intentions and no, it is NOT a good way to go through life lol. I feel like it's some sort of platonic ideal for NTs to say ppl should go through life that way... but they haven't actually tried it. U get fucked sadly

_toirtle_

21d

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