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Do you still experience losing friends because they're "too cool"? Does that ever stop?
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The older I get, the less attention I pay to who wishes me happy birthday and when and how they do it. Heck, some of my newer friends don't even know when my birthday is. Weigh your friendship based on how you feel when you spend time together, whether you like them, whether you have fun. Keeping tabs on what time someone wished you a happy birthday is a sign of immaturity imo.
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You are 31. You are responsible for your emotions. You don't like what she's doing then your options are to care/fix it or to not care and move on. But stop reliving it in your mind. If you care then talk to her and try to resolve the issue- without blame or what she did wrong and instead focusing on your needs that aren't being met. That's deep down what you're actually acting on- your needs. If you don't care then stop waisting your energy on this. Stop mind reading. Stop projecting. Focus on YOU. Everything is about her her her- super convenient way to avoid your feelings by focusing on someone else. Been there.
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You ARE ascribing blame. You aren’t taking ownership for your feelings. You feel cast aside. Does this ever stop sucking? Yes when you learn distress tolerance and emotional regulation skills. Not when everyone acts exactly how you want them to or think they “should” act. If you’re ever say someone “should” do/be/act a certain way you are taking the focus off of yourself.
Yes losing friends hurts. But it’s not all consuming, or consuming to the point it is for you. This is situation about YOU and your FEELINGS. It’s not a situation about friends leaving you and they not doing it the right way.