What is the first thing you notice about a guy?
QuestionHis face, unless he has something really distinctive about him like mad hair or bright clothes or he's super fat or whatever. Or unless he smells so bad I smell him before I see him.
“Yep, that’s a guy alright”
You win the internet.
Let's not put you in any kind of jury.
The way he carries himself.
I like people watching and I was on a local tram a week or so ago, in front of me was two men. They were both equally good-looking men. Both black, both tall, both well dressed and groomed. Nothing physically to set them apart in most departments except for one, the one on the left sat up straight, shoulders back and exuded confidence. The one on the right had his shoulders and head hunched over, and ya would kind of miss him if ya weren't looking.
Very very interesting difference. I'm deadly serious with the fact they matched looks wise, too.
They were both equally good-looking men. Both black, both tall, both well dressed and groomed
I'm so jealous - I wish I knew what it was like to be seen like that
I tend to carry myself like this as well - keep my posture open and keep my chin up and chest out. Unfortunately I lack the good looking part
To be honest, the posture and confidence part tends to hyper boost the looks
Confidence and posture doesn't help unfortunate features, though
Idris Elba will be no less hot if he's slumped forward or standing up tall
I saw your Invisalign post. You are absolutely fine looking. You’re comfortably average. PLENTY of women are physically attracted to you. If you’re not getting women, it’s because of your attitude. You’re sooo negative and self-deprecating, and THAT is unattainable.
You’re comfortably average
I'm not, but thanks for saying it :). Even if I was average, average is basically the new ugly. There are lots of good looking men nowadays
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Face. I always preferred handsome “open” faces if that makes sense. Somehow it makes them seem more trustworthy? As opposed to squished features.
Open in what sense?
Features that are more spaced out. Eyes that aren’t too close together. Or nose and mouth and eyes that aren’t too close together. Features that are as open as their personality I guess (at least what I hope). Aaron Taylor-Johnson for example. For me the opposite would be Brad Pitt. I’ve never found him attractive. I sound so superficial right now, I guess I’ve never had to articulate this before…
Eh, aesthetic is just one of those things. You can love someone and they can still have those weird sensual quirks that would bother you on someone you aren't intimate with.
this is why I find Ryan Gosling unattractive, his eyes are so close together.
Salary, hobbies and muscles obviously
/s
You forgot girth and length of cock, which is women's #1 concern (according to men on the internet)
Shit?! Is it my turn to ask about length and girth??? It's been a few hours.....
But Mom said I could 🥺🥺
And that he's gotta be super tall too!!! never forget that a high value man is at least 69 feet tall!!
Depends on the circumstance. If it’s work, it’s how he conducts himself, body language and how he talks and presents the information and ability to stay calm and rationalise.
If it’s social, I look at who he’s talking to and his body language too. If I’m interested, I’ll try to catch his eye assuming he’s not surrounded by tall and thin women. I’m fairly short so it’s hard to see me but it’s do try to approach and catch their eye and attention. Most of the time most men don’t notice me so I just move on and forget him!
Usually what stands out about them. It can be anything, from clothing to a distinctive facial feature, to a personality trait or a unique voice. It just really depends.
His eyes or smile
His smile
For you personally Scotty? Your inability to understand or accept that its your personality and not face.
that they normally don't dress as nice or interesting as women
His hair and clothes
If I see him from a distance, it's the walk, then the outfit, then the face. If I see him from a short distance, he entered a room for example, the it's the face
Height and body.
body type
Depends on the guy, but if he has bad teeth it glares out at me immediately. eta: By "bad" I mean missing or rotted.
His face
Face, personality, voice.
Personality/sense of humor, hair (brown preferred), face/smile, body… etc etc etc
It really depends on the guy. Like: what's most unusual about him in the moment?
Could be something about how he looks or what he's doing. Could be that he's looking at me.
Face, Teeth, Hands, Shoes, Hair
What he thinks/says/how he behaves.
I can crush on a guy I've never seen and whose name I don't even know.
Probably his face, then his arms. Unless he's wearing grey sweats or something 🫣
The way he interacts with me. Dose he look at my eyes when speaking to me? ask normal questions?
This tells me the purpose of the interaction and how he precedes me. If he stares at my twins I lose all resect and quickly end the convo. Yes its happened. Many times.
If he looks and sounds like he couldn't be more uninterested I meet him with the same energy as he's probably filling in the silence with small talk out of social obligation.
If he's asking questions and genuinely engaging I recipicate. I love a good conversation especially with someone who actually wishes to do so.
Where I live. The girls look amazing all dressed up and there partners look like they got there outfit from the local dumpster :/ sounds random but true.
That he's a guy
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