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Girls, what isn't nearly as attractive as lot of guys think it is?
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It screams of insecurity when girls do it and same when guys do it.
Is there a male equivalent of a girl not being a girl's girl?
"Breaking the bro code" its a guy who will throw his fellow guy friends under the bus for personal gain in relationships.
This shit is common
I had a cousin steal another cousin’s bride the morning of the wedding.
Dude was a smooth talker. He met this girl during the rehearsal dinner, decided he was in love, and talked her into running off with him THREE HOURS before the wedding.
We all grew up together and I never would have thought he was capable of it.
I assume that qualifies as breaking the bro code.
EDIT: I’ll just answer this here. It’s been 2yrs and they’re still together. They seem pretty damn happy too.
Sounds like the cousin left at the altar dodged a HUGE bullet.
So, the smooth talker ultimately did him a solid?
Inadvertently, yes.
The motivation was shit, the goal was shit, but if the man's bride to be could be talked in to leaving him at the altar mere hours before the nuptials, I doubt the vows would have meant much to her anyway.
I always hit on my buds' brides, just doing my bros a solid. I'm such a good homie, saved them a total of a few million dollars in future divorce fees
Got two toxic people out of the dude’s life in one shot.
Wow. As fuct up as this is , I have to say that they deserve each other, the rogue cousin and the bride.
Yeah… like if you can be talked out of your wedding the morning of, good riddance.
As a kid my best friend was a great guy when it was just us, but whenever we were around girls he would mock me constantly. Now I look back it's pretty revolting and I doubt he impressed any of them.
This. I had an ex that would game with his buddies and, even when they were competing, he would cheer them on and end every session with a "Love you guys!". It was so wholesome and way more attractive than the alpha bro behavior you see in lots of gamers.
Honestly though. I was starting to see this dude but his friend was also into me and would bash everything about him and it just confirmed my choice that’s I was seeing the correct dude.
Sending women you barely know porn and saying "I wanna do this with you."
what the fuck
Seeing that the bar is very low and being offended that I'm still single. I must be ugly then.
Chin up - you might just be boring!
You joke but seriously men seem to hate hearing that they’re boring. From my experience a lot of men seem to HANG on being too ugly over facing the fact that they just have a really boring or off-putting personality.
Maybe because being ugly feels like something outside of their control, and being boring means they actually have to do self-reflection and work on themselves?
I mean yeah, that hits the nail on the head I'd say. I can handle being called ugly, I can make jokes about it, and I can work on it to some degree.
But man... being called boring cuts deep. You can try to make jokes about it, but you know they're not going to be that funny.
Chin up, he might just be boring AND ugly.
You probably just live in an area where people have really bad taste. I used to think the same thing until I moved out of my hometown at 25. I thought there was something wrong with me for not being able to find dates. Then I realized there was really nothing wrong with me; people in my hometown just weren’t the brightest or open to things that I liked. (Like traveling).
This happened to me too! Decades of depression thinking there was something wrong with me or the universe was against me. Finally moved across the country for work and now women are actually interested in me. I wish I had realized that the location was the problem and moved sooner.
I was talking to a guy for a while and got up to the point where i felt it was time to send him a little something. I didn’t just send a full nude from the jump, and I’m glad I didn’t cuz this man’s idea of sending me something sexy back was a picture of him fucking some girl bent over his couch… Like he didn’t even blur her face out or anything.
He got defensive when I called him out for it and he didn’t understand why I wanted him to fuck off after that. We didn’t end up going on anymore dates. Not a huge fan of dick pics, but I would’ve preferred it at the time.
Edit: I’ve found the screenshots and you can’t see her naked, so MAYBE I overreacted? Idk it’s still super icky.
Hey, I'm liking you. Here's a tease of my body!
here's me fucking someone else
This actually happened to me too. Turns out that he was recording women without their consent.
One time I sent "I wanna do this to you" to my fiancée with a clip of a piggie lying in bed under a blanket. Only its snout is visible and then someone holds a cookie in front of it and the piggy eats the cookie.
You get a green flag, guy. Your fiancee probably got a good giggle out of it.
Mine would think I just called her a pig
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Calling yourself anything that should be outwardly apparent is cringe in it of itself. If you have to say it instead of showing it, then chances are you are trying to convince yourself that it’s true.
'Any man who must say, "I am the King", is no true king.' Tywin Lannister, fancy man and toilet enjoyer.
"When you think you are something, you'll tell everyone. When you actually are something, they'll tell you."
Specifically making a title such as alpha male, gym bro, TikTok Star, or Influencer their entire personality.
This is on the cringe level of bragging about your IQ
I heard a guy call himself an alpha male at the bar, i asked if hes a furry and beats off to Lassie movies. He got pretty pissed. His friends nearly pissed themselves.
Im also a male, but i really hate that phrase.
I had read this online about the alpha male thing, and told my husband who promptly asked a guy who never shuts up at work with all the cringe stuff the next time he said he was an alpha if “that was a furry thing”. He’s an over 40 year old man asked a young 20 something guy if it’s a furry thing so he really sold it like “what? I don’t know this stuff”. Guys new nickname as he talks all his BS for the past few weeks? Furry. He’s not happy. My husband even left the job site as his part was done but he had gotten updates lol Apparently he’s getting “ok furry” like some ok boomer thing
All this alpha crap I genuinely believe is more to impress other blokes than it is to seduce women.
I’m not a girl and that shit makes my skin crawl. You sound like an idiot. Except for me I’m an alpha male.
That's why I call myself an upsilon male. I say ups a lot.
EDIT: I was just joshin' around and didn't realize some people have already categorized male traits for all the Greek letters, until I just Googled this.
Wait, Andrew Tate lied to me?
Tywin Lannister is more alpha than Andrew Tate
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Joeffery is more alpha and a better person than Andrew Tate
Unsolicited dick pics.
Men go through sextortion over this and still do it. They really believe random women on the internet want to see their dicks.
Its because as men, we would love to get nudes from women. So some guys assume the reverse is true. It's not.
For some guys it's just the violation. The same mentality as a flasher. You force the visual of your junk on someone. The lack of consent is the point. For some it's the aggressive undertone, not a reciprocal one.
In the UK the practice is now actually illegal and people “cyberflashing” can now end up with jail time!
Yeah, it comes off as very rape-y to me. Like...you're actually getting off on exposing yourself to someone that never asked you to expose yourself to them? If that's honestly your idea of sexy, then you're only one small hop away from raping someone.
You don't want all nudes from women. You want nudes from women you're attracted to...however most of us don't want to see your dick no matter what the rest of you looks like.
I feel like guys would also appreciate it less if it was a spontaneous zoomed in crotch shot on the toilet.
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Try and show her the helicopter... might change her mind
Next time tuck your bits behind your leg as you cross it over your other leg. It’ll look like you have nothing. Like Buffalo Bill did in Silence Of The Lambs. My wife has lost her mind over this and hates it. She will appreciate the shake after that.
“Would you fuck me? I’d fuck me. I’d fuck me hard”
goodbye horses spontaneously plays
Works everytime
As a guy, I've found that almost everything I ever attempted in my youth to impress girls was more or less backwards. Turns out I (and many other young men around me) dressed/acted/lived to impress other guys and never understood why the girls weren't impressed.
As an addendum: if you're wondering how you should present yourself (dress, hold yourself, whatever), look at how men are presented on the cover of women's magazines instead of men's magazines. They're usually wearing plainish clothes that fit correctly and their smiling and looking generally non-threatening. There's a reason the audience for muscle mags is mostly men.
Yeah the difference in like a maxim cover with Hugh Jackman and the Hime and Garden cover with Hugh Jackman is really funny
I can't remember the names of the magazines where I first saw it
I was curious so I did some googling and, my god, you're right haha
Lol yeah that's it. I think cracked first pointed it out for me way back when.
Won't lie, as a woman, the muscle picture creeps me out a bit. Hugh is still hot, but that is not his best look just in my opinion.
That's hilarious!!!
Observant and accurate take.
I’ve seen that backwards thinking too many times among my male cousins. I had one cousin who pretended to dislike a boy band(he was neutral to the group; he was just trying to be funny) to impress a girl and was surprised that the girl didn’t want to date him. It occurred to him to talk unnecessary crap about her favorite but not to talk favorably about her favorite. Wild.
When I was young I got one of those "aha" moments when I was watching my very popular cousin hitting on a girl. He was just nice to her, and gave her some slightly over the top compliments to make it obvious he was interested in her.
Didn't make me popular as I'm not that attractive, but it's easy, and you don't have to overthink things. It won't sway any opinions about you, but if they like you, it will help you score. Unlike the flirting you grow up watching in movies.
In my experience, people are attracted to those who make them have a genuinely pleasant/enjoyable time. That's why the #1 advice I have for a date to be successful is to make sure the other person is enjoying themselves. Good vibes only!
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I saw a TikTok where the dude said “my car is the gayest thing I own. I built it and spent all this money just so I could impress other dudes”
Bragging.
No problem, I'm the most humble guy ever. Nobody is as humble as I.
I told someone last week that I was probably the most humble person they’ve ever met and if there was a contest for being humble, I’d win every single time.
Especially about stupid shit. Like how much beer you can drink. How wasted you got. How many people you've had sex with. The car you drive.
Literally none of these things are qualities/'achievements' that I look for in a romantic partner. I don't care if you've slept with a hundred women or three. I don't care how many pints you drink. All that stuff really is just information that is going to bore me at best, turn me off at worst.
Ok, all you ladies are saying you're not impressed by big/loud/fancy cars/trucks, but here I am over here driving a nice quiet econobox and I don't even get a glance! SHENANIGANS!
I've had sports cars, classic cars, motorcycles, you name it.
When did women start coming up to me to ask about my car? When I bought a Subaru Outback.
Really? I have one of those too and nobody asks me about it. Not even lesbians! I got the black lab in it and everything!
What’s your bumper sticker situation like?
I just have one that says "EAT BERTHA'S MUSSELS"
You need to get one that lets people know youre ~sassy and unique~
Where’s your CoEXiST sticker dude? Didn’t Subie send it to you yet???
Bragging about your money. Even as an 18-year-old, I always found it off-putting. You have money? Great. You don't have to remind me every five minutes.
When I was online dating, I got a match who immediately bragged about his net worth, and how he wanted me to quit working so he could "take care" of me.
A, I love my job. I love the feeling that I'm contributing to the world.
B, it turned out I had more money than him. (Thanks for the trust fund, parents!) Once I suggested that he quit his job so I could take care of him, he ghosted me.
EDIT: Sorry, gentlemen, I'm no longer single.
Damn, I would have taken you up on that for sure. We would have the cleanest house and so many baking and cooking adventures would be undertaken
Seems weird to immediately say you want someone to quit their job and that you’ll take care of them financially that you just met. Was this on a dark web trafficking site or
BTW, I have money.
Hair that is excessively gelled.
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Hate thissss lol. Cool i don’t care.
I thought guys stopped saying shit like this after middle/high school but apparently no
Yuck
Talking shit about other women. Just respect your ex for the good times or talk in a respectful way about the things that were not so great.
Like 100% instant no. I had a doctor hitting on me and I was about giving it a chance until he started humiliating his nurse in front of me trying to uplift himself. Just instant no - phoneblock
Do guys do this to try to be attractive? I talk shit about my ex but it’s like 99% just venting
Some guys do. They assume that your average woman is always comparing herself to every other woman and that we're all full of an unhealthy sense of competition. So they think women want to hear mean shit about other women. It's pretty similar to negging women with backhanded compliments, thinking that will make us oh-so desperate for male validation.
I knew a dude who was convinced that talking shit about all of his exes would show new girls that he was “the sane one” and make him seem like more of a catch. He never caught on that it was the opposite happening.
Any kind of a sexually curious question about us when we are NOWHERE NEAR that point in getting to know the guy. Automatic turn off. and STOP SENDING DICK PICS UNSOLICITED my god
I’ve started telling them. “Cool.”, “Looks like a dick.”, and “Your dick doesn’t define you, you are a person.”. They get so upset like I’m not fawning over their dicks. I don’t wanna see that shit.
It is incredible to me that anyone does that, and even more incredible that they think it would be welcomed. I would never send a woman such a pic even if married 50 years (especially not if married 50 years, I suppose... but you likely get what I mean). How utterly crass.
a lot of guys think being cocky and arrogant is being confident
Some women like cocky and arrogant. My sister-in-law loves cocky asshole types and basically admits that she's attracted to their cockiness and assholeishness.
Yea that’s what we call a problem
All fun and games til they’re 80 and he won’t change her diaper
Being angry all the time
And making it their entire personality.
My ex basically was always angry, he'd punch holes in his walls and desk if someone even jokingly flirted with me. He'd scream and throw insults around like no tomorrow. Def made me realize what I don't want in a man 😂
me angry 😡
Being a jackass with your car. Spinning out, racing in traffic, gunning it down residential streets... nobody has ever looked at these guys and gone, "Wow, dangerous disregard for others, so hot."
Some women absolutely like these guys. That's not to say they're not also idiots.
I'll add truck nutz to your list.
There's usually plenty of girls at illegal street racing events. Some of them even do the driving.
What it means is that being a jackass isn't gender-limited.
No one else has said it so I will. Having fucking kids you don't take care of. Boi fuck right off into the bin.
Yes! Guys on dating sites "I haven't seen my kids in years" is a HUGE red flag. They always claim it's a mean ex--that's never turned out to be the case yet. It's pretty unusual fir a fantastic parent to completely lose access to their kids like that.
One guy I knew IRL (not very well, he is dating a mother at school) was complaining about not being "allowed" to see his kids. When I asked if he'd ever sought legal action and pointed out the first free session, he said nothing.
Being an assh*le to service workers. It is not a flex.
Making mean-spirited jokes at my expense. It’s not cute or lovable.
"Cmon, I was just kidding, bitch." Honestly, making mean spirited jokes in general is a big "no thank you" from me. It costs nothing to be kind.
I used to subconsciously do this. Turns out my parents would do it to me constantly while growing up. It took years of people telling me about it to my oblivion and a lot of practice and mindfulness to even recognize it, then a process to eliminate it from how I interact with others.
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damn dude, you got a fire going AND made her squirt?!
You gotta cup your hands around it and blow on it at that point to get the ember going!
But that romance novel said she wants burning loins!!!!!
Long, scraggly, unkempt beards
My wife agrees, im trying to grow mine so i can shape it later. She does not like it.
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Playing hard to get or playing too many games can be frustrating and childish.
I always read alpha male but have never met one of those dudes IRL wondering where girls actually meet dudes so delusional
Tinder probably
It’s cause they’re mostly on the internet
Ironically a lot of them will be homebodies who are chronically online and insecure about their image. Watching "alpha" videos helps them feel better about themselves because they think they can learn to be an "alpha" too.
Others will just be douchebags who don't use the term in public, but probably use it on their social media somewhere
Thinking you are "too cool" for everything.
Guys who put too much emphasis on manliness as a core trait can come off as insecure.
Everyone has different tastes, but doing that revving thing against another car against a Toyota Corolla or something is kind of unattractive.
For some reason, guys always race me. I’ve been the girl in the passenger side and have wondered if guys think this is attractive behavior. I’ve also seen girls in the passenger side when I’m in the Toyota Corolla, and I wonder if they wonder the same.
On the side note, I love when guys (this doesn’t go for everyone) mess with my hair or something. Obviously when I know them well, they’ll come up from behind me, put their hand on my head, and “pet it” is back and forth quick enough for my hair to mess up. Not sure if this is a regional thing, but I like it.
Guys who think jealousy is a way to show love often end up showing just the opposite.
Thinking they need to have a strong opinion about everything can make conversations exhausting.
Guys who refuse to dance because they think it’s not manly might be missing out on fun.
Mods to your car to make it as loud as possible. Whyyyyyyy
Edit: I think most adult men don’t do this to catch a woman’s attention. But the 16-20ish teens think this makes them more attractiveto girls.
UGH rolling coal makes my pussy an instant desert.
“Alpha” behavior. It’s annoying
That's why I try to exhibit more lambda behavior
EDIT: I was just joshin' around and didn't realize some people have already categorized male traits for all the Greek letters, until I just Googled this.
Turning the entire conversation into a sexual conversation. Like I don't know you, and I only mention one thing that isn't even that sexual!!! And no you didn't do that with your ex, no you can't do that!
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Being an asshole
Making the gym your personality, acting overly tough or other "alpha" shit, not showing any emotion, loud ass cars, listening to Andrew Tate or anyone else remotely like him
Can I throw in "making weapons your personality"? I hate this.
The falchion is a superior weapon to the katana, and I will die on this hill, sir!!
Making anything your whole personality ain't good, whether it's gym, anime, productivity or Netflix.
The very OTT “cool bro” behaviour. Girls find it annoying when a guy is acting overtly cool, trying too hard, trying to “bro” and “yo” everything. Fake and unnecessary.
I used to work with a guy like this. He hyped everything up too, including literally his own bowel movements. You know how normal people just go to the bathroom and don't feel the need to say anything more? This guy used to say he was taking a "power dump" literally every single day. Twice a day.
im not a girl, but as cool as it seems to us.... I have yet to find a girl who's as impressed when I light a fart and get a nice 6-7 inch blue angel as my buddies and I are.
I salute you light bringer
testing new sources of renewable energy is all im doin
Thank you for your scientific pursuits.
Pictures with guns, cash, and saggy pants.
Being rude. Asserting dominance if we’re out, I’m not a toy
Not a girl but my guess is that reposting the damn same question every 3 days for karma farming.
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Flexing their money, car, job ecc
That weird armpit / lats flex walk that gym noobs are sporting.
The infamous invisible lats syndrome 😂
You mean the invisible luggage guys?
Calling other people stupid for just mistakes they made because they weren’t trained properly. This is a work thing and guys love to shit on other guys. Whenever I hear someone call someone stupid… over nonsense like this.. I stop listening.
big loud trucks
Any of that 'pick up artist' stuff, it's revolting
when your sense of humour revolves around schadenfreude, sarcasm and putting others down.
Being a Andrew Tate lover.
Shitting on other women as a way to compliment us... "You're so much better than X", "You're not like other girls" type of comments is what I mean
Constantly asking Reddit “how do get girl to fancy me”
The answer is to be light hearted and fancy free.
These threads are always funny to read as they are almost all the same answers every time.
Women ask men this and the men all respond with, "Fake eyelashes, long nails, lip fillers..."
Men ask women this and the women respond with, "Being cocky, alpha male talk, talking about your money, tricked out cars..."
And yet, you look at society and what is everyone doing? The men are being cocky, saying they're an alpha male, talking about how much they make, and the women are wearing fake eye lashes, getting lip fillers, wearing long nails.
When are we going to drop all the façades and just talk to each other?
Those people are not on reddit