I love your dad already
Picture Hank Hill, but instead of Texas it’s Arizona, and instead of propane it’s electricity. Everything else is the same. Solid dad material.
People who smoke cigarettes and then chew gum, use mouthwash etc to try and hide it. I smell your minty lies
I had a coworker that would try to cover his weed smell with scope and chewing tobacco. So he would just smell like weed mixed with minty tobacco smell.
Minty lies…lmao 😅
I used to smoke holding it far away, blowing it away hard, wearing a latex glove, wash face, mouthwash, hand sani, gum, etc. I had people fooled for years, even my wife. My god was I miserable.
Thought I had found my sister-in-law’s account until you said wife. She used to do this too, also successfully.
Let’s just say, when I was crazy enough to go through so much trouble to cover up that one compulsion, I was also lying about a bunch of other stuff and pretty messed up emotionally. Things had to get a lot worse before they got any better, and now they’re great.
Or smokers who overload on deodorant or perfume to cover the stink and end up with a doubly cloying smell.
A toxic work environment. You can see it right from the interview, or on the first day of work. Everytime I talk to someone who just quit their job due to toxic environment, I ask them about their first day...and there is almost always a sign they overlooked.
What are the signs that are commonly overlooks in the first day, first week, etc. of a job like that? I’ve had a few recently and I’m struggling to pinpoint where u could have prevented some of these experiences or caught them sooner!
- Employees are so scared of the boss. If they are walking on eggshells when around the boss, you can expect anything like the boss yelling at people, dismissing them and their concerns etc. or if the employees are at ease with the boss but hate him or her behind his or her back.
- "Can you start today or tomorrow?" If they interview you so quick and want you to start right away, or "to hit the ground running?" then there is likely an underlying problem that made a previous employee quit abruptly leaving them desperate for a quick replacement. 3.your roles are clearly not defined. This is a problem secretaries, assistants, and sometimes project managers face. Things like they'll expect you to take more tasks as required and as they come up is a huge red flag. You'll end up with so much to handle.
- Employee gossip each other , or sth like night shift guys are always doing sth to get back to day shift guys.
- Everyone is actively looking for an exit plan, or is actively involved in a side hustle.
The saying goes - you’re interviewing the company just as much as the company is interviewing you. Culture is important to me. People who take pride in collaboration and being competent in their field, with not over-inflated (or maybe “blustery”) ego is important to me. So I look for:
Something they’re doing they’re currently excited about. Get them on a ramble/talking bout it - ie are they doing new things? Or at least care about their projects.
Signs of stagnation in upward mobility - ie is there set promotion pathways in the company, or are they hiring young people constantly, who work for some resume experience, and when they want more responsibility find they can’t move onward.
Same vein, retention and turnover - who was the most recent person to leave the company and why? What does that answer look like - little bit of gut instincts here - how are they answering, blaming, not blaming, reasonably professionally circumspect etc. I also have vibed with crazy stories too - it’s not really a reflection of anything but feeling out if this is a reasonable place. Is it all young people leaving? Not a great sign. Old people? Why? Is it retirement? Awesome. People Otherwise? Hmmm. Just moving on because life changes, or a better fit job somewhere else. Even better if kept contact or know a bit about what former employer moved to doing now but that’s not a guarantee of course.
(For me) Are there a lot of workers with kids and families. That hints to a supportive workplace with good benefits and high retention.
More broadly, assess is it clear they not only say they value culture, but have put thought into creating a healthy company structure, and have put actual resources and time into building well-run systems and are constantly working on tweaks too. Just saying “culture”, doesn’t mean they’re doing it effectively. What’s onboarding or training look like? Continuing education? Team structure? Etc.
This depends on size a bit but - what’s the relationship to bosses/higher ups? Do people interact with them regularly or at least seem to admire them? (For me-) do bosses show to company events/are active? Or do they feel they need to “not be around so everyone can let loose” (I don’t like that vibe)
The alternative is often a company where its luck of the draw when it comes to quality middle management, unnecessary daily firefighting, often haphazard or poor mentoring experiences to boot. I’m also just really picky about wanting to be around people who take a lot of pride in being competent and are (actual) team players who put in effort to change and open thinking. But you may be different.
Also, specifically I’m female - while it’s actually fine for certain personalities, male or female, I dislike jock/boys club vibes. If I’m sussing a company out as a female engineer (corporate side)- I started wearing a dress or modest basic pencil skirt and heels to my office interview. The amount of times a guy has stupidly/condescendingly said “of course you wouldn’t wear that out in the field” *chuckle chuckle
I’ve interviewed 4 times and that exact comment/“joke” has been made twice. I don’t mind totally irreverent humor, but that one’s a red flag. If a guy is too obtuse to understand the nuance of appropriate interview wear/question to make a comment when someone wears a dress but not a comment wearing slacks, I’m guaranteed gonna run into a lot of “talk over each other”, “don’t listen to new ideas” “stuck in their ways” “isolated/corporate bubble culture” and that’s a pain.
Collaborative workplaces/coworkers have tact and are focused on you - aside from assessing you also have tact to wear a range of reasonable clothes to an interview - interviewer shouldn’t be focused on anything but skills and company fit past that. So the whole “wear a t-shirt to be taken seriously in computer science, wear slacks as a woman to not hit any roadblocks in engineering, oh full suit instead of business wear, they don’t like overdressing etc” - nope. Not playing that game. Appropriate clothes are appropriate clothes. You want to work at a place with that neurotic a culture? It’s a flag for an insular or bloated company stuck in the bubble of their own culture and out of touch with everyone else’s standard norms/expecting their norms to be catered to. Tell me? Are they going to be truly innovative if they’re that shut off from everyone else?
Before an interview look up median salary and range for your position in your state of work. See that their offer is competitive to the market - y’all want to be working in a company that values retaining workers through salary. Or MINIMUM offered something pretty major to offset it (rare that applies)
Come up with, and ask questions to reveal this stuff. Be relaxed and friendly. I like being a little honest and open but that’s up to you of course and what style works for.
One that could be missed is talking you up constantly, being overly nice. Narcissists tend to get managerial roles and this may be what is called lovebombing
Another is a perpetual victim, always talks negatively about other people and what they do/did to them. Easy to take their word about how badly so many others have treated them - until you realize that some people frequently lie to even themselves and can never admit a mistake, so they in turn constantly blame others. This is a sneaky one and you’ll inevitably realize it when they see them shifting blame to you
Smoking Pot. I sometimes wonder if they are just desensitized to the smell. Non pot smokers can smell it from like 30 feet away.
As a former cigarette smoker, I'm gonna assume they don't smell it. I never realized how easy it is to tell a smoker until I quit, and could smell the tobacco smoke on others again.
My parents have smoked two packs a day each for 40 years inside a single wide trailer. They think as long as they wash their clothes, no one can smell the smoke.
I'm pretty sure it oozes out of their pores at this point.
My brother and his ex both smoked in their house and their vehicles. I used to hate that they did it when my nephew was with them. A little kid should never reek of smoke. I felt so bad thinking of him going to school smelling like that. First thing I did when I went to take care of my brother after his cancer diagnosis was to take everything to the laundromat. It didn’t help with the smell embedded in the walls, but at least my nephew could put on clothes that didn’t stink.
It's heartbreaking to see that this child is probably also facing serious health issues that surpass the unpleasantness of cigarette smoke - which is already quite repulsive on its own.
I grew up in a smoking household.
I got bronchitis twice a year every year for my entire childhood. Since I've been away from the smoke I've had it maybe twice in the last 30 years.
When I went off to college I hacked up black crud, just like someone who has quit smoking does.
I've never smoked a cigarette in my life.
Same with alcohol, you can smell it metabolize on the skin.
I'm a former smoker and let a friend smoke in my truck. The stink lingered for weeks.
Then we the assholes for not letting them smoke in our cars
4 days after I quit I could smell it so strongly I'd gag and think. Why. Why the fuck did I allow myself to do it. 😂 I can't believe I smelt like that and wasn't ashamed.
After I quit I found the smell to be worse than before I ever smoked. So nasty.
As an ER nurse, it is mildly surprising & irritating when patients that absolutely reek of weed still deny using it when checking in (some of us maybe naive, but we're not stupid). Seriously, we don't care. We are not the morality police. But if you're having an anxiety attack, chest pain, tachycardia & or cyclic vomiting, maybe it's time to consider weed isn't for you & stop sucking up resources at your local ED, because you are probably not dying of a heart attack at age 18-25... That goes for gummies, too. Edibles are not a joke.
Learn to walk before you run.
Public service announcement: Calling 911 doesn't get you an automatic room in the ED. You might just have to wait in the waiting room with everyone else & get a hefty bill for the ride. You don't get to skip the line unless you're dying.
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Yeah it just affects some people badly. I'm one of those people. It happens no matter what strain it is or if it's a CBD derivative. So I don't get to use cannabis.
youre not missing out its overrated anyways
I can’t smell it on myself. Even when I am smoking it. I can def smell it on others though.
Well we've all experienced this. I mean, go take a crap with the bathroom fan off, and then leave the bathroom for a minute, then go back in. You can't believe that you were sitting in there for ten minutes. But you acclimated to your own stench.
But, my poop doesn’t stink.
You've just made me more paranoid
Definitely depends. If you’re smoking a blunt or joint, definitely going to be smelling like it. A bong? As long as the room is ventilated. A one hitter or spoon pipe? Probably not.
Source: I was a chef and managed cooks.
Vape cart? No one notices except for your eyes.
Case by case basis. My eyes don’t glaze or get red. My brother on the other hand, could never get away walking past the parents. He’d get caught every time. I’d show completely ripped and they couldn’t tell. Believe me when I say they would’ve said something.
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When actresses are pregnant but the character isn’t.
I'm actually almost always totally oblivious to this. Even in a show like Frasier where they worked it into a running gag I just...whoosh!
That you’re on your mobile while driving.
Unless you’ve just had a brand new penis installed between your legs, there’s no other reason for you to be looking down in your lap and smiling while you drive.
At least have the decency to pretend to watch the road when you pass other traffic before smiling at your crotch again
How staged social media is.
Wait, are you telling me the tik tok I saw where someone interviewed a guy and a girl and said "tell me her deepest darkest secret and I'll give you $50" and the answer was she lost her virginity to her brother.. and she got mad.. and it turns out, the guy that answered the question WAS her brother.. you're telling me that was staged?
I just watched that lmao
Just disheartening to know that was staged, you know? I really trusted that video. I put a lot of thought into it for days..WEEKS even.. like, you're only giving away $50 for someone's deepest darkest secret? How deep of a secret can it be for only $50?
I knew it was silly, but LITERALLY thought people just needed money.
Look at this inspirational and totally random interaction between strangers! Never mind that the camera was rolling long before it happened, they’re both wearing mics, both of them seem to be talking from a script, and also they’ve appeared in past videos together. It’s completely legit, guys!
which is why it’s so sad when people fall for it lol
It’s like Reality TV
People forget that it’s a manufactured version of reality made up of what they only want to see
Pooping.
My son is 7 and already tries to hide it (if he's at a friend's house or something, he'll come to me and whisper that he has to poop, and I have to like make a diversion or something).
Everyone poops. And it's not normalized for no reason whatsoever
It's really annoying when trying to use the bathroom in public and every single stall is filled with people trying to silently poop as if no one else was there to do the same. When I go into a bathroom filled with shy poppers, I purposely make as much noise as possible, flushing the toilet unnecessary, banging the stall door closed, etc, just so the other people can hurry up and let the line of next shy poopers do their biz. The only time I judge is when I don't hear someone washing their hands.
The only way to win toilet stall chicken is not to play toilet stall chicken.
Using airpods strangely fix this problem for me. If i cant hear my own shit, i assume others cant? I know its silly but it works for me
Body odor
when my cousin was in the throes of puberty, they had horrible BO. there were 9 people in my house, and you could literally smell her when she walked into a room. she had so many different kinds of deodorant, and would even layer it. nothing stopped it. the best description is rotten onion smell. she would take a shower and the whole room would smell for hours afterwards.
some asshats at school taped deodorant on her locker with instructions on how to use it. felt so bad for her. it passed after two or three years, but to this day she drenches herself in ridiculous amounts of perfume and lotion. now you can smell random chemical flowers across the room when shes in it lol
Anyone who has this problem should get checked out by a doctor; Some metabolic disorders and other conditions have characteristic smells that can be treated by treating the underlying condition.
her doctor at the time just said it was a puberty thing that she would outgrow. she does have a thyroid condition though, but i couldn't tell you if i noticed the BO problem disappearing after getting on meds for her thyroid or not.
There's a guy at work who smells like baby vomit all the time lol
This guy i use to work with Smelt like a cheeseburger covered in mustard. I don't even know how its possible.
Did he recently become a father?
Idk if people are trying to hide BO or are just noseblind to their stench
Now if if 24/7 someone reeks that's a problem lolol
Noseblind or just a really bad sense of smell in general. I can't smell anyone ever at all, let alone myself. I'm constantly self conscious about it but most people say I'm completely fine even if I feel absolutely disgusting, so w/e
I dunno, regularly showering and using deoderant seems like a pretty effective way to hide your body odor. If not, I've been wasting money and time on those things my whole life.
That they're unsticking their ballsack from their leg.
Sacks gonna sack though
Pour one out for the homies suffering from chronic BSTL.
In the summer I get IBS - itchy ball syndrome
I'm not trying to hide it. It's a problem we are all gonna have to deal with in that moment for a second
It's called "batwinging".
What? I just like doing lunges is all.
You’re not wrong and your description is pretty accurate. There really are meth addicts like that. However, there are also many, many meth addicts who—and I am telling you this as a matter of incontrovertible fact—you would never in a million years suspect. Like, there are some meth addicts with regular sleep schedules, and there are meth addicts who are overweight/obese. I live in a city of just 155,000 people and I know of a preacher, an internal medicine doctor undergoing his residency, a neurologist, a dentist, and a motherf*cking anaesthesiologist who are addicted to meth. I also know of a former kindergarten teacher who was addicted to it (but she doesn’t really count here, because she got caught and her addiction is the reason she is a former teacher). Most people are naïvely and blissfully unaware of who is using that stuff. You would be absolutely shocked and utterly terrified if you were actually able to notice every meth addict instead of just the obvious ones. It’s sad.
I could tell that my friend had relapsed immediately. While he was no longer high, he had this look that was somehow mean and hard.
Meth is definitely shit… but fuck me, high speed chicken feed made me giggle hard
Drinking. I can tell who's a functioning alcoholic pretty quickly. Not a skill I like to admit. My count is 5 guys at my work, so far.
They think they're fooling people with smoking covering their fresh alcohol breath because they've topped off at lunch. But I can still smell it.
I was on a run the other day and got about halfway through before I felt the pinch and knew diarrhea was on the way. Tried to run back home immediately but could only muster a half-limp-hop-skip. Thought to myself, "Anyone who sees this will know so plainly. There's no hiding it."
That they hate you.
I get that so hard wtf did I do to get my friend to hate me😭
I read this as "I get so hard when people hate me"
Comb overs
As a former fat kid that used to swim in shirts, fat people hiding their guts in wet skin clinging shirts.
As a fat person I almost always grab a throw pillow and put it over my belly when I sit on couch. However having pillow perched on my big belly probably just makes it look worse rather than hiding it.
It’s a comfort thing. If comforted myself with my fat belly, it would not be as cute.
I feel this.
I wear a shirt when I swim because the sun is a deadly laser.
I didn’t mind if people know I’m fat, I just mind feeling fat and naked
I was the opposite. I'm fat now, but as a kid ... well, my Mom thought I had a tapeworm, and my nickname was "stringbean". Even as an adult, I had to buy kids pants because adults don't have size 28 waists. However, last week, I bought pants button extenders because my size 36 jeans were cutting me in half at the waist because I'm so fat now.
I've had it both ways. As a guy, being a living skeleton was what people would call "wimpy". It still amazes me that I ate "Weight gainer" protein powder to try and gain weight. Little did I know that all I had to do is get older and nature would make me wish for those days of high metabolism again.
So too skinny, too fat. We all have our issues. Except those stupid genetically gifted people. I hate them.
Yes, as a fellow bean pole kid with never-ending energy, I never learned to be mindful of how to eat properly. My metabolism was so high my stomach growling would wake me in the middle of the night. I'd have to go to the kitchen & chug a big glass of milk just so I could go back to sleep. (Before bed I ate a big meal for dinner, complete with dessert all homemade by my mom, because she loved cooking.)
I literally never thought about food. When it was time to eat, I'd eat. Snacks were usually fruit because it was easy.
I miss those days.
As a former fat kid that has grown to a fat man, yes. Yes we do.
Damn calling a dude out here
So if I smoke in my car an hour before work, people can smell it? Not being facetious. Serious question.
Yes, people can smell it.
The smell sticks to everything: breath, hands, clothes, seat fabric,...
We know, you just lit one up.
Even more so bc you smoked in your car. The smell is now in every fiber of your clothes.
Yes! Smoke in the fresh air if you want any hope of not reeking in an hour.
I can smell peoples car from inside my car at a red light if they’ve smoke in it. It is super obvious to non smokers. That’s why it always cracks me up when people try to tell cops that there is no way they can smell it. Like yeah dude everyone within 50 feet can smell it.
Yes, and anybody who gets in your car for the next 5 years will be able to smell it too.
Yes, most likely. I only smoke at night now and shower before bed so hopefully I'm not sweating out of my pores the next day. I even have a smoking jacket and i would never smoke in my work clothes unless it's laundry day.
You could try a weed pen before work instead, that doesn't smell as strongly.
Is that what a smoking jacket is for? To keep the smell off your clothes?
My boyfriend has been a smoker for a very long time. I, on the other hand, have never put any kind of cigarette in my mouth.
I love him to bits, but I've set some clear rules about smoking.
He can only smoke outside and when he comes back in he has to wash his hands and brush his teeth.
I'm now extremely happy that he's started vaping recently.
Still not healthy, but atleast doesn't smell as bad.
A bad relationship. You're friends are almost never surprised when the split happens, they were just polite enough not to say it.
Alcoholism
My coworker who used to talk about driving home drunk as shit from the bar all the time suddenly said she stopped on January 1 of this year. Within a month she was talking about it again, but would insist in the same breath that she hadn’t touched a drop since January 1, no, ma’am, she was sober as a judge. She just had thirteen martinis that one time, also she went to the bar three times a week just like before. Recently she went for the “okay, now I’m clean” angle after having to admit she’d spent three days so fucked up that she got heart palpitations for a week. I can’t say I have much hope that it’ll last, if it’s even lasted this long.
It takes at least a dozen times trying on average for an alcoholic to actually quit. If she is truly trying, good for her. Shit is hard. Saw my brother try over and over again before he died. Horrible really.
Quitting drinking is easy, I've done it loads of times.
You can't hide it, but you can bury it under a mountain of denial.
Person I know started telling me they were a "topper", which meant they were always topping up their booze level. No way were they planning to acknowledge their full born alcoholism. Dead now as a direct result.
You just haven't spotted the ones who hide it well.
Alcoholics are the last to find out
Steroid use. When every Instagram fitness influencer claims to be '100% natty' and yet has a physique that would make a Greek god vomit with envy.
Same for bbls and cosmetic procedures. like you do you but don’t lie that all we need is to follow your coaching program to look the same.
Narcissism. It really shows after a while.
Is having the fear that I might subconsciously be a narcissist a sign of narcissism?
No, a narcissist wouldn't ever consider that something might be wrong with them. To a narcissist it's everyone else who has a problem.
Guess I should be glad I'm super fucked up, then.
That’s a widespread myth that’s very problematic. Long response ahead, cuz you touched a nerve.
First: There are different types of narcissism, but most people with NPD are at least partially aware of their tendencies. They feel entitled to special treatment, but they’re not usually entirely unaware. NPD is a very difficult disorder to treat, and many see no reason to change, but for narcissists who do commit to change (usually because they realize they’ll loose something or someone very important if they don’t), admitting their narcissism (and challenging their beliefs each day, for years, on their own and in therapy) is necessary and should be encouraged + embraced.
Second: narcissistic traits exist on a spectrum, and a low level is considered healthy. It’s also important for those of us without NPD to notice when our narcissistic traits are showing up too strongly.
When a spouse can look at their partner and say, “that’s your narcissism showing up, we need to approach this differently,” and instead of criticism, a fight, and eventual divorce, the response is “you’re right, I’m sorry, let’s try this a different way” … it’s so darn beautiful.
TLDR: I’d like people to talk about narcissism more openly, and in a way that isn’t condemning / allows for positive change.
As you said, that’s probably just a result of your upbringing, but if you think back to the last week you should be able to come up with some kind things you did for people that were not immediately for your own benefit. If you can, and you did them to make someone else’s life better, you’re good.
intoxication
I feel like this is highly dependent on what level of intoxication we’re talking
Depends on how much you drink. I was able to hide most of my alcohol consumption when I was really struggling with alcoholism.
a boner
Gotta tuck those up into the belt line
I don't understand how anyone can do that. I've tried, it just hurts, then if I bend the wrong way, it's peeking out to say hi to the world.
You don't have to have your shirt tucked behind it...
Like a little Pez dispenser sticking out of your waistband
damn, i almost snarfed my burrito. lol
You can hide it if it's small enough.
Looking at boobs. Men think they are giving a sneaky glance, but there is nothing sneaky about it.
I’m a fat guy with moobs. I was standing in an elevator with my boss once and he glanced at my rack. It was then that I realized just how incredibly obvious it was.
My wife says women look at her boobs all the time, so everyone does it
I am a straight woman but breasts can be very eye catching for some reason.
I'm a gay man and have no interest in women's breasts but same. I think it's like how good artists can direct a viewer's gaze around a painting or photograph. We have some natural tendencies to follow lines and look a bright colors for example. Some outfits women wear do the same thing with necklaces, lines converging on the cleavage, etc.
They’re just the breast. I mean best
Yeah I caught myself staring at another woman because she had really big natural ones and I was feeling sorry for her bra and back.
The bra is fulfilling its fated destiny.
I think you are both correct and incorrect.
In that men are not as slick as they think. But also you're not seeing the total number of glances.
You just have to use your predictive powers to stare at a point where they _will be_ when they move. That way you can say you were just looking that way before they got there!
There's no way they can see through that
What if the sneaky part is that we're pretending that we're trying to be sneaky?
I'm just kidding, I've got nothing. Boobs are pretty neat.
I'm ashamed to say I do this but I don't know if I'm looking at boobs or just something other than making eye contact.
I'm a gay guy and still have to catch myself from doing it.
Eating disorders. I always felt bad for my younger sister some years ago who clearly had an eating disorder but who tried to hide it behind a myriad of fronts. She claimed she had numerous food allergies (that none of the rest of the large extended family had.) She claimed gluten intolerance, lactose intolerance, you name it. She'd claim she was vegan so she couldn't eat anything at any family event. She got to the point where a puff of wind would have sent her flying. All of us knew what was really going on but we couldn't really say anything. It was so sad. Eventually she got help and she got better and now she enjoys family get togethers and is so much healthier.
Why couldn’t you say anything?
Would you have if she was a drug addict? Im genuinely confused. Isn’t the point of having family that some people care enough to point out what’s wrong and offer you help?
Ultimately with certain mental health disorders like eating disorders and even drug addictions, in most cases you cannot help that person unless they want to get help. No matter what you do, if they do not want help, there is no way you can help them. Sometimes forcing help upon them can make it worse. I'm assuming one of the reasons that in this situation no one said anything is that because sometimes pointing out someone has an eating disorder/losing weight/ getting skinny is only affirming to the person with the ED and they will continue their behaviors because the know it's working. For some people, you just have to let them sink or swim. It's very sad, because you feel like you're neglecting your loved one but sometimes it's all you can do.
I hope they were being hyperbolic... You should at least say something and OFFER help. Ignoring the problem and not showing them that you care enough to help is a huge abandonment and extremely isolating in whatever disease you have
Yeah, that's pretty true. I'm somewhat assuming something along the lines of like "Hey, if you're not feeling okay you can always talk to me" was said and they meant they couldn't say anything appearance wise.
that they still think theyre right and are just apologizing to get you to stop being mad at them
Alcohol use disorder. At least it is to me, as someone in recovery and now an addictions counselor. The puffy, red face; the bloodshot eyes; the slight scent of alcohol; the shakiness and sweating; etc.
Yeah the shakes always gave me away. I always knew i wasn't fooling anybody when I'd show up right when the store opened shaking so bad I could barely type in my pin or count out cash. I figure buying two bottles of Listerine every day for a while also raised some eyebrows. Who uses that much mouthwash? Lol.
Oh god… typing the pin, or just getting out the card. Fuck that was awful. Just getting the first drink down was hard- glad I never chipped a tooth. Thanks for the reminder I need needed today friend. 💚
To be clear, many people, like myself, who suffer from severe rosacea (red, flushed skin and bloodshot eyes) aren't alcoholics. It's a skin disorder, like acne.
It sucks double if you suffer from the condition and enjoy drinking now and then. It exacerbates it so bad.
Spills and stains on the shirt from lunch. You hand awkwardly over one spot on your shirt has me suspicious.
thinning hair.
source: me
Being fat. We know. It's okay.
Filler/plastic surgery lol
Sadness. You can directly see it in their eyes.
Sadness pulls the joy out of your body and soul, it’s crazy that it’s as visible as it is. Anytime i try to hide my depression people call me out on it(which somehow makes it worse lol)
Those hair Toupees.
Many people are convinced there is "no good toupee" because every time they notice a toupee, it's a bad toupee.
But if the marker of a good toupee is being unnoticeable, then how would you measure the amount of good toupees you've seen?
Fair question. I keep coming back to a particular day. Very windy. I have a meeting in a downtown office. Walking the hallway, I see a gentleman walking towards me. I don’t know if it’s a toupee or a combover. But the wind…. It was standing straight up. Like a convertible car’s top, stuck midway. In life we have two choices. Do the right thing or do the easy thing. That day, I ducked in the bathroom and avoided telling him. I think about that periodically and about manning up. However, that’s a whole different discussion.
Envy
Trying to hide being drunk, drinking on the job, we can smell the alcohol from 10 feet away.
Big butt
The smell of smoke
Their resentment.
Then they act all surprised when they get blocked for displaying such.
Their jealousy and insecurity
being stoned
Shit attitudes and selfishness
When they don’t like you/judging you. Even if their face is stoic the eyes don’t lie lmao
Their weight
Their true personality.
Naw any person with lifelong depression can probably tell you. It’s possible to be very convincing
If you are in a low mood. You can be sad, tired, stressed, or burnt out. I can tell when your feeling not so much yourself when you talk to me.
Self harm wounds or scars on arms. Legs and waist that's clearly hidden.
That their marriage is falling apart. Your instagram posts aren't fooling anyone!
Smoking
It's literally not possible to hide from a non smoker
Oh I got this! Being on their phone while driving. They think they’re being so clever but it’s always obvious to everyone around them.
Having red hair, I've known people who dyed their hair and then tried to deny having red hair but it's pretty easy to tell. Something about the way the pigments work?
As a male, adjusting my junk. Sometimes, descret isn't going to happen.
Thinning hair
When they don’t like me
for lack of a better term, especially in the office place, self-dishonesty.
I can smell a fraud a mile away. They’ll say shit that just doesn’t make sense and it’s clear they just officespeak their way into their position but offer absolutely no value. What’s worse is when their own self reflection is just an illusion and they drink their own hype. It’s bad when they fully believe they’re invaluable to the team when they are willfully blind to the fact that they themselves are responsible for obfuscating truth and actively make shit worse while shifting blame to others.
When someone’s in a toxic/abusive relationship
Childhood Trauma
Farts.
It's like, you're the only other person here, Greg!
Faking confidence. Super obvious. It makes me less sensitive to people who are rude or starting any problems because I know it’s just whatever darkness is inside them.
In my dads words: it’s hard to hide ‘stupid’