My dad needs more care than I can provide, won’t live in assisted living, and can’t live with me or my sibling.

I have anxiety about doing things “right” and had similar worries about finding good childcare when my kids were young, but at least then I knew other parents nearby who could provide references.

Edit: I don’t know how I forgot this, but the big catch is that he’s physically capable of doing all his ADLs, but he has cognitive impairment progressing to dementia.