How to handle this

If you plan on getting his car towed I would put up a camera to watch your car in case he he tries to retaliate. Then you would have evidence to get him evicted if he does anything.

Report this behavior to the complex, and file a case with the police. That's not a rational response, and the pounding and kicking of the door may constitute a crime.

Your note was simple and polite, and the person is breaking the rules of your complex.

Next time they're there, simple call to have them towed, or alert the management.

Get the car towed by the complex.

And this is why the common advice of "be an adult and talk to your neighbor" like I often see in this sub isn't good half the time. Too many people are unhinged and can't take criticism. It is often safer to go straight to management/ police and hopefully stay anonymous.

Not everyone is fortunate enough to live around pleasant and understanding people, and it's perfectly ok to not want to take that gamble.

NO ONE in a normal rational mindset acts like this in this type of scenario EVER! Especially since it’s YOUR PARKING SPOT! This is totally unhinged and will absolutely escalate down the line. Immediately file a police report and document every single aspect of the incident as you told us. In fact I would recommend talking to all neighbors around you if you can about it and see if they heard it and or have had any bad interactions with them. I also suggest getting a security camera in your main living area facing your front door to capture anything from here on out. Having the footage of him banging on your door would definitely help your case to not only PD but the landlord. Especially if it escalates later.

I went through a similar thing a while back. I thought I was being courteous by letting them know and not just having them towed right off the bat. The subsequent harassment for checks notes giving them low stakes notice instead of just going for the jugular by having them towed the second time they parked in my spot was so not worth it. I didn’t sleep properly for a week afterwards. Might as well have gone all in and had him towed right away since he overreacted.

TLDR: Don’t be like me. Have them towed ASAP. If he tries to attack you for it have no mercy. People like this need to learn they don’t own the world.

Do not ever interact with this unhinged man. Please be safe and keep contact through authorities

"I DONT WANT TO TOUCH YOUR PIECE OF SHIT CAR EITHER. NEXT TIME I'LL JUST HAVE IT TOWED." but use a normal color of duct tape to post it on his door. Blue duct tape, what a chooch.

UPDATE 1: I don’t see how to edit the post so I’m making a comment.

Just an update that the person moved their car and I moved my car back into my spot.

I knocked on the door of my neighbors across the hall to ask if they were disturbed last night and they said they heard it and agreed it was scary. I’m so glad I have witnesses so it’s not just my word against theirs. Will speak to management asap tomorrow and keep you posted. Thanks everyone for the advice and solidarity.

Report them to the building and tell them you expect the car to be towed for further infracrions

What a bizarre and complete overreaction to parking in someone else’s reserved spot.

Next time have his car towed

DO NOT POUND ON MY DOOR OVER A PARKING SPOT

Send an email to your landlord. Take pictures of when the car is parked in your spot. Document everything you can including taking video of when your door gets pounded. If your door gets pounded call the cops. Put every document in the cloud.

I agree with others. Contact your complex first thing Monday morning and let them know of the situation. If things escalate with that person, contact the police. Keep records of all the interactions you've made.

They’re trying to intimidate you, do not engage. Just observe & report.

Most complex’s have a sign that states the name of the towing company they use. Besides letting management know about this letter, next time just call for a tow.

This had to be scary. I’m so sorry people can’t act right and follow rules.

I’m calling the cops. Saying i feared for my life and thought they were trying to beat my door down and break in. Let the guy explain to them why he did that over a note

Yeah tell the landlord. If he doesn’t care make him care.

You might get shit from him because landlords only think they should be bothered if the whole building collapses. The issue is that if you come to him with any type of problem, your automatically the problem. Because regardless of how much you’ve been used or cheated you came to him with the issue and now it means he has to take action.

You were eventually going to have to go to him for some point for some trouble at this complex. But you have a reserved parking spot and did nothing illegal. So go ahead and tell the landlord.

What’s going to happen next is this neighbor is going to take it to 11. And every second he’s there he’ll be thinking of how much he hates you. No one can live like that forever. Eventually he’ll move out. People like this set up their own traps.

I doubt the police will care. But for now just know that guy is walking towards his own step out the door. No one can live in that type of head space for so long.

I would have started by talking to the landlord/property manager before going with a note on the offenders car especially if it's an ongoing issue. You never know who is an unhinged lunatic in these situations. From now on stay hands off with your neighbor directly and leave it to the landlord, police to handle. This person is nuts. Don't antagonize this psycho any more no matter how much they deserve it. Document everything and pass it on.

Report this incident to management/security in writing. Document all contact with management. Start looking for a new place to live. This seething, aggressive person will make your life a hellscape now. You don’t know this person’s background of violence but you see what reaction your note wrought. Discuss your lack of sense of safety due to this bordering violent reaction with security and follow up documenting with management. Try to get out of your lease so you can move and be/feel safe because this person’s behavior is exaggerated for the issue. Most people would apologize, but this person took a verrry aggressive approach.

Step one: get a camera for your front door / car

"Park in my reserved spot, and the towing co. will be touching your car to remove it. "

I'd give anything to be able to have that nice of handwriting right after I am so mad I'm banging on doors.

Go to his door, bang louder, put a note in bigger RED letters that says "DONT EVER TOUCH MY DOOR OVER A NOTE OVER A PARKING SPOT" Im sure he'll get a kick out of it

Next time they park in your spot, ask the complex to tow them. I promise they won’t be pulling that BS again.

Have the car towed, notify the office, file police report. Period.

Consider a ring doll bell cam if you don’t already have one. This person seems a bit unhinged.

i can visualize the person who wrote this just by the note.

I wouldn’t leave a note. I would immediately call whoever I need to call to get the car either towed or booted. Not your responsibility to deal with their bullshit

I lived with my disabled grandmother & she had a handicap placard in her car so she could utilize the handicap parking spots in our apartment complex. No one ever enforced the policy violation of non handicap people parking in those reserved spaces, so I tried to call a tow company to have the illegally parked non handicap vehicles towed. The operator told me that only the property owner was allowed to have vehicles towed for illegal parking. Eventually we got our parking situation sorted out, but that same week, someone began slashing my grandmothers tires when she parked in that handicap spot. Im so glad we no longer live there.

Next time just call the tow company. Usless to argue with people like that. Just tow their car every time. They will learn after a few times paying to get it out of the impound. Ive done it multiple times when I lived at an apartment and people parked in my spot

This is why you don't leave notes you just call the tow truck. It's not your job to remind them to do what they already know they are supposed to do. If they don't care enough to park in the right spot a note isn't going to do anything other than set them off. Tow their ass and let them take it out on the tow company not you.

You could have had them towed, there was NOTHING wrong with your letter. However, do not deal with these people. Go through the landlord and next time they park in your space if nothing is done go and have their car towed. Do not let these people walk over you.

I think this has escalated to management. I would not directly engage if I were you

That's awful. Towing is very expensive and a lot to deal with, so it was nice of you to let them know with a nice note instead of towing. I don't know why they would be so angry. I'm sorry this happened to you. It's a bad feeling being uncomfortable around neighbors. I would let it be for now since the last thing you want is a battle with this kind of person.

You should call the police and ask them to come with you too. Discuss it with your neighbor. I would then follow up by letting your manager know. Screw ur neighbor! Don’t be bullied!

He's a bully. You don't need to put up with this.

I would have left a note that said, "I'm sorry." What they did shows they have extreme anger issues and a lack of rational reasoning, set up cameras, and report next time directly to the police and apartment complex before their meth fueled rage ends in them trying to fight you.

You tried to be nice. So file your reports with the building and police. Then call a tow company.

Give them what they want and let tow truck drivers touch their car next time.

I hate how communicating like a rational adult can lead to retaliation like this, and a potential target on you in the future.

This is why people will immediately call authorities now.

Call the cops and then you call the complex to have them tow that car anytime it is in your space.

.... Also get a security camera pointed at your parking space as they may damage your car regardless.

Have the car towed. And notify the police before doing so that you are feeling threatened and are afraid of retaliation.

They’re trying to train you to let them park in your spot. Do not confront them yourself again. (Even notes) Go directly to management.

Get their car towed. Ez. Never even have to touch it.

Document everything. Keep a timeline. In the event it happens again, TOW at their expense. (Make sure you have a picture of their car, in your reserve parking space, and a picture of the reserve sign before the tow).

The irony is that they knew the exact door to put the note on. Meaning they know who is supposed to be using that spot, and it isn’t them.

You should have had them towed to begin with. Now you've got a big bullshit drama ball.

Call the office, find out the towing company they use, next time call the tow company

Time to put a note on their car saying "Don't ever touch my front door over a parking spot".

But in reality, just call your office and have them tow the car, and keep having it towed until they learn their lesson.

Something similar happened to my friend years ago, and the other car somehow ended up in neutral in the middle of the parking lot.

This is where your interests align with the complex’s tow truck company’s.

Next time, don't leave a note. Have it towed from your spot.

Just get them towed anytime they park in your spot. Simple🌝

Have them towed :)

Below you? Take up line dancing at midnight

Write a note that says OK and put it on his car

I would get a very large piece of paper and write in all caps “DONT EVER USE TAPE ON MY DOOR OVER A WINDSHIELD NOTE” and put it on his car

Tow that shit bags car and put up cameras, easy to push this guy out by using his actions against him

If they have the time I’d call police in advance and explain you anticipate very threatening behavior when this tow occurs- and that you fear for your safety. Then they can maybe be nearby for when the neighbor goes ballistic.

Next time just call a tow truck if they're illegally parked don't touch the car don't involve yourself 🤦🤦🤦

He tried to beat the door down for a note, wait till you get him towed…is life insurance and will up to date?

Why would you ignore unsafe And unhinged behavior?

Omg, what an entitled baby. You touched his windshield wiper, he feels like such a special person that not only can he just park wherever he wants, touching his windshield wiper is essentially assault.

If I’ve learned anything over the years, sadly… we can’t address things like this directly and it should always go via management. It goes against every fiber of my being (military training of handling things at the lowest possible level), but these days…. People are fkn unhinged and might literally kill you over this shit. I’d consider keeping your head on a swivel when entering or exiting your apartment over the next few weeks. Be safe.

Stuff like this is why I love being 6’5” 230. People like this think they want the smoke till I open the door pissed off.

This is scary. I’d talk to the complex about possibly moving units after this. I would NOT feel safe at all after this.

I had to get a restraining order against next door neighbors when they started something similar over a parking spot. People get crazy about those. Godspeed.

Fun fact, they were evicted after I gave my landlord all the documentation I'd compiled with the RO.

All the people saying call a tow truck don’t understand apartment complex issues. You can’t just call a tow truck, you don’t own the space. It is reserved for you. They are not always in the office and some maintenance people don’t want to do it.

You need to bring this up with your apartment manager. I know I had the same issue of a neighbor being a massive dick and would go crazy over their vehicle. Even though it was a battered up piece of s* at the time and he would go crazy if you parked next to it and tried to get out carefully. You need to bring this threat up with your apartment manager. I'd honestly carry pepper spray on you as well in case he gets physically aggressive towards you.

Get the police involved. In this case, it’s 911.

At our apartment complex, management tells us to call the towing contractor. And to do nothing else. Never leave a note or confront someone. There are too many entitled territorial people that rage fast. Just take a pic of the plate and call the tow truck. For us we take a vertical picture of our carport number that includes their plate number.

Where I live, it’s not against the criminal code to park in the wrong spot, but because it is private property by the apartment community the license plate gets registered to the spot number. The towing company gets logs from the manager and then there is either a tow or an orange tag when you call it in if there is a plate to spot mismatch.

Not all apartment communities have towing contractors or structured enforcement. If yours doesn’t then you have almost no recourse over the spot. This is all spelled out in the lease under parking enforcement.

Good luck.

Bad advice: Write “touch” on a bunch of post it’s and put them all over his car.

Right below you?! Sounds like it’s time to become professional upstairs neighbor to me. Invest in a treadmill and a squat rack. Invite everyone over to move around furniture.

Get a Ring camera doorbell that records anything they might do. Get a camera that covers the reserved spot because they will do something to your car. Call the tow company next time.

You gotta call the police , especially if your a lady you absolutely never know when a guys on the last straw or just insane and wanting to hurt you , if he’s the type of guy to come smashing down on your door imagine what would happen if the situation escalated and he saw you one day walking alone to your car , it’s always best to assume to worst in these cases safety is priority , don’t be afraid of calling the cops either that’s what there job is to protect you

That person is psychotic. Stay far away and use the building/police to deal with it.

Here is what I would do.

Step 1 - Check your lease for any clauses about providing you with a safe environment, and code of conduct. Most leases have clauses about these things to protect you.

Step 2 - Contact the manager or leasing office and reference the relevant clauses in the contract that relate to this. Express that you “do not feel safe in your apartment or walking to and from your car”.

Step 3 - Consult an attorney about their requirements and your rights.

The problem here is that you now know that you live above someone that is off the rails. This response is not appropriate. Any escalation to towing, could result in either physical harm to you, terrorizing you, or property damage. The apartment has requirements for how they have to handle this. Your lease and an attorney will help you navigate this.

Don't engage whoever it is. Let the management handle it, or the police if necessary. Getting in a scuffle with your neighbor who is being irrational about something like this isn't going to solve anything, it'll just escalate.

Have the car towed if it’s in a reserved spot. End of discussion.

Call the police and file a report.

Call the police. File reports with them and the complex. It happens again, have the car towed.

Please get a ring camera or something similar. This needs to be documented.

As an addendum to other advice...

"Start documenting everything"

this is why i always get annoyed when someone says " well, Did you talk to them?", Should have got management involved from the start instead of leaving a note.

I just saw a TikTok of someone buying a life sized styrofoam car to prevent this from happening. I don’t have this problem but even I want one just in case now.