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Yeah I will definitely be open with her about it and let her know why. Thank you!
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NTA. You aren’t obligated to put yourself in a situation where you dont feel safe.
NTA. I did something similar and have been with my partner four years now!
That gives me hope! I’ll keep you updated here with how it all goes.
We are also engaged and to be married within the year.
My fear wasn’t coronavirus, but significant anxiety about meeting up. He understood and it was worth it all. I would say coronavirus is a very reasonable reason to not meet up.
Update: she was extremely understanding and admitted that it’s not worth the risk since she’s been hanging out with people. So she suggested FaceTiming and didn’t want to add any extra anxiety. Huge relief. Thank you for helping!
Congratulations!! That’s so exciting! I think that having someone understand is important. Especially with something like anxiety.
NTA. If she hasn’t been socially distancing then she is TA. You could still take a walk if you social distance
I would say NTA if you do cancel, but just make sure you are considerate about it and do something to make it up to her later.
YWNBTA if you cancel, but make sure to give whoever you are going to go with a heads up as soon as you can because then that would kinda make you TA if you canceled later than a day before.
Hard NTA.
You’re an at risk person - don’t feel bad for wanting to take care of yourself. Any decent person would understand that.
Thank you! I’m about to tell her right now, so wish me luck haha I’ll either ask her to wear a mask and do the 6 feet thing or just reschedule and play this by ear.
Make sure you don’t get pressured into a situation you don’t feel safe in! If you’re not 100% up to it, reschedule. Besides, it’s best to go on a first date with a clear mindset.
Good luck! You got this
NTA just make sure to explain yourself
NTA as long as you communicate clearly.
However, it’s also perfectly reasonable for her to want to cancel outright and not reschedule.
My advice as someone who’s had to cancel many dates for similar reasons, don’t even try to reschedule until you feel like you’re able to. Most people will forgive one cancellation, a lot fewer will forgive two.
Yeah absolutely. Thank you for this. My pet peeve is cancellations as well so I feel Bad enough for it so I definitely wouldn’t want to cancel two times on her. Thank you!
NTA-just be open and honest with her, maybe plan an online date?
YTA Don't ask if you don't wanna go. Did you ask before the pandemic or something? You just find out today she's not social distancing?
I happen to agree with you, but even if you explain yourself you're basically telling her you think she's being irresponsible. Be ready to miss any future shot with her if you cancel imo. Maybe she'll be cool about it, but you need to accept she may not be.
For sure. I felt more easy about it when I asked her, and felt confident I would be okay. I would understand if she didn’t forgive me, so thank you for the advice. I basically told her that I have anxiety about it and because of my underlying conditions, I would prefer to do the 6 feet apart with masks. But if she doesn’t want to, then we can reschedule and talk about that. I would feel okay if she wore a mask and did the 6 feet, so I did tell her that I’d go if she did that. I know it’s not the most comfortable thing tho. Thank you for your feedback!
NAH. Just tell her something came up and you will need to reschedule. No need to disclose your anxiety. Disclosing that may put you at a disadvantage with her.
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Hello all, Title basically says it all. Because of the rona, I’m afraid to go out. I asked this girl ive known since college to go on a walk tomorrow but the fear of catching corona is killing me. She’s been hanging out with friends still and not social distancing, so I worry about that. WIBTA if I told her I didn’t feel safe meeting up and too anxious to go out and cancel?
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YTA if you made plans knowing you wouldn’t be able to handle it in the end. But if this is out of character for you then NTA.
it depends.
maybe if you tell her how you feel you’ll be NTA. but if you just cancel straight up with no reasoning then yes YTA